My parents

[rossj.anderson]

Yes honour your parents.

It's a command of the Lord.

You will not always have your parents.

Reguardless weather your parents were Christians or not ,I'm sure they did the best that they could do.

Welcome to the Worthy family Morutea!

Thanks alot Elkie guess I have to go tear up the list of

demands I was gonna hand to my trolls on their 18th

B-Day!

God Bless!

Glad I am not one of your little trolls...lol rofl you always seem to make me laugh Spunk a roo lol. *throws chew stick at Spunky* *goes to clean spunkys cage for the first time in 2 months*

love ya

[Spunky]

Hampster Momma!

I hope your bringing your nose plugs 2 months

of not cleaning my cage I was about to call the animal

police to hunt you down for pet neglect!

Morutea this is a great place to meet new people I know I

have, and if you happen to find your way into the mods

secret room please look for the key to my straight jacket!

God Bless!

[ladypeartree]

welcome to the insane (???) world of worthy, you may well get real answers to your question but I think you need to look at all the circumstances and to your heart cos it is too easy to give the wrong answer with so little to go on

[RGR]

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[Tomi]

Hi Morutea,

Glad you are here.

[Guest LadyC]

can you provide a little more information? are your parents incapacitated and unable to care for themselves at this point?

as a GENERAL rule of thumb, we are to leave our parents and build our own families. we aren't supposed to support them once we reach adulthood, although we ARE to care for them when they become incapable of caring for themselves.

[buckthesystem]

Hello all,

It is my first post

I want your thoughts on this:

Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?

(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)

Thanks.

I am going to be really cynical and seemingly uncaring, but as a parent of grown children I have to say absolutely not!

My kids must have cost me a lot in anxiety, grey hairs and money when they were younger, and my youngest son (nearly 21) still does. He is a constant source of strain to us even now (and he is passed the stage of piling up "traffic tickets", not paying them, not appearing in court and getting arrested). I have lost track of the times I have gone to the court to "make arrangements" on his behalf, written letters to lawyers, insurance companies, the traffic department to "sort things out" for him. And I'm sure my husband has lost track of the times that he has driven hundreds of miles in the middle of the night to tow Andrew's (our son) car home when it has run out of petrol or broken down, or he has driven through the night to get Andrew's car out of a ditch.

And fortunately it is past the days when we both had to drive out in the late hours of the night to get our daughter when she had been drinking. Then there was the time time our daughter was about 17 and she telephoned us from her cellphone in a car full of 4 other teenagers, hiding in the bushes beside the road. They had all been drinking and were coming home when they saw a "booze checkpoint" in the distance, and realising that none of them would pass an "alcohol test", the driver turned round and hid the car in bushes. It was about 2 in the morning and my husband and I had to go and get them, he dropped all the kids at their homes and I drove the teenagers' car back to its home. We both went through the "checkpoint" but we were sober so it didn't matter.

However, we did both tell all our kids that if ever they were "stuck" anywhere or needed some help, either of us would be there for them, at any time, no questions asked. I believe that that is what you do for your kids. It is all part of being a parent. Parenting doesn't stop just because your kids reach a certain age.

You have to do this as parents, it is the only way to make sure that the child doesn't get into trouble and blame you. They will blame their parents for everything anyway though, that is what kids do, but they grow out of it (hopefully) and that is one thing that you accept when you have kids. I still hear about the time when my daughter was 17 (she is now 23) when she got arrested for shoplifting and I raced down to the police station to get her 30 seconds after they called, but left my son in the cells for an hour and a half. She is rather more sensitive than he is anyway, and the arrest itself was enough to terrify her into not shoplifting ever again, but it took more to convince Andrew not to shoplift. But it worked, as far as I know none of them have ever shoplifted since.

It took a bit more to get my son to make sure he wasn't arrested again. He had to spend the weekend (long weekend - 3 days) in the cells about two years ago for "not appearing in court". We probably would have gone down there to do something about it, but he was in another town and didn't tell us. He blames us anyway, but that is the way it is.

We must have given them all thousands of dollars when they "lived beyond their means" even though my son and daughter earn far more than I do, or will ever, earn. And we are paying off quite a large mortgage on a house that is far more than we would need if our son wasn't living here and we need a large section to house all his car wrecks, but having said that, it is not all him. We have two dogs and would need a place for them anyway.

Anyway, it looks like I've put up a good case for "poor parents, help them out", but I don't think children should have any obligation to look after their parents at all.

We chose to have the kids, knowing pretty much what we were getting into. They didn't choose to have "older" parents. When you have kids, that is part of the package. You have to think what you can give, or leave to, them - not the other way around, that is kind of selfish. No, they sure don't "owe" us anything.

If your parents are in financial strife it is nice if you can help them out, but I'm sure they are not expecting you to entirely support them.

Young people today have enough problems without having an obligation to support parents.

Well that is my opinion, someone else might disagree though.

[graymousey]

Hello all,

It is my first post

I want your thoughts on this:

Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?

(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)

Thanks.

Yes, if they are in need, then definitely. It is easier if love compelles one to do it, then to try to pay one's debt.

Edited November 1, 2006 by graymousey

[cjrose]

Hello all,

It is my first post

I want your thoughts on this:

Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?

(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)

Thanks.

Welcome to Worthy!!

Well, I know at this time both parents have passed away but I do think it's a childs responsibility to help them out if they need it. Not to enable them but if they are disabled or in financial need that you can contribute to, it should be because you want to help, not because you owe them. We all get old eventually and need care. I'm already starting to train my kids . The choice is yours and look to the Lord for guidences. Glad you're here!

[EricH]

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