Man files lawsuit to take wife's name

[Guest Biblicist]

The reason for my assertion is simple. God created a specific order for the family. It is in no way a man made patriarch relationship. It was God ordained. Husband, wife, children. . . Taking the husbands name is only an outward sign of that.

My father's family name died out with him and his brother. I would never have asked my husband to take my maiden name. It is just that, my maiden name. Not my married name. When I married, I left my father's authority and joined to my husband, taking his name and giving him authority over me. One relationship ended and a new, completely different, one began. I still honor my parents but they are no longer in authority over me. My husband is the head of my home, he is in authority over me. That means he is responsible to God for me, my physical, emotional and spiritual well being. No longer are my parents responsible for this.

If you really need scripture to back up God's plan for husbands and wives, read Genesis. "I will call her woman, because she was taken out of man." God, the Father, allowed Adam, the husband, to name Eve. . . Speaks volumes to me.

In His Mighty Grip,

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[cjrose]

There is no one to carry on my maiden name and it never even occured to me to hypenate it to keep it alive or to not take hubby's name or to ask him to take on my maiden name.

My sister as independant as she is does hypenate our last name with her married name for business purposes which I can understand as she had her business in our name but mostly uses his last name.

It may also be possible that this man is sueing to take his wifes last name because his credit is so bad??? Grasping now but there could be more reasons for going through the cost and taking up the courts time for such an issue.

It could be this man simply is narcissistic and desires to be recognized by doing something that hasn't been done before..

[firehill]

It could be this man simply is narcissistic and desires to be recognized by doing something that hasn't been done before..

[Guest LadyC]

ya know what? i don't blame him for wanting to change his name. why is it such a big deal? a person can change their name legally without getting married for a few hundred bucks... and given what HIS name is, i'm surprised he didn't change it sooner. and why would a wife want to hyphenate her name to include THAT name with hers? and what couple would want their children having a last name that would target them for all sorts of sexually harassing jokes?

[firehill]

The reason for my assertion is simple. God created a specific order for the family. It is in no way a man made patriarch relationship. It was God ordained. Husband, wife, children. . . Taking the husbands name is only an outward sign of that.

My father's family name died out with him and his brother. I would never have asked my husband to take my maiden name. It is just that, my maiden name. Not my married name. When I married, I left my father's authority and joined to my husband, taking his name and giving him authority over me. One relationship ended and a new, completely different, one began. I still honor my parents but they are no longer in authority over me. My husband is the head of my home, he is in authority over me. That means he is responsible to God for me, my physical, emotional and spiritual well being. No longer are my parents responsible for this.

If you really need scripture to back up God's plan for husbands and wives, read Genesis. "I will call her woman, because she was taken out of man." God, the Father, allowed Adam, the husband, to name Eve. . . Speaks volumes to me.

"Order for the faimly' that's a man made idea. God did not ordain an order of husband, wife, children which any can be sure of since the Bible says it no where.

False interpretations of written Genesis speak nil. What is and is not written dictates what is and is not true.

Ask yourself, Who's the head (speaking of Greek termimonlogy, kephale) of God's children? It's not the Father.

[cjrose]

ya know what? i don't blame him for wanting to change his name. why is it such a big deal? a person can change their name legally without getting married for a few hundred bucks... and given what HIS name is, i'm surprised he didn't change it sooner. and why would a wife want to hyphenate her name to include THAT name with hers? and what couple would want their children having a last name that would target them for all sorts of sexually harassing jokes?

I can relate to what you are saying. But in my sisters case, it's used only for business and she doesn't have any children but he does and they use his last name. But I can understand how it would confuse kids. My sister in law legally hypenates her name because of it's association with the family business but normally doesn't say I am Linda so and so - so and so.

Who knows what his motives are?

[Guest LadyC]

ya know what? i don't blame him for wanting to change his name. why is it such a big deal? a person can change their name legally without getting married for a few hundred bucks... and given what HIS name is, i'm surprised he didn't change it sooner. and why would a wife want to hyphenate her name to include THAT name with hers? and what couple would want their children having a last name that would target them for all sorts of sexually harassing jokes?

I can relate to what you are saying. But in my sisters case, it's used only for business and she doesn't have any children but he does and they use his last name. But I can understand how it would confuse kids. My sister in law legally hypenates her name because of it's association with the family business but normally doesn't say I am Linda so and so - so and so.

Who knows what his motives are?

yeah, but in THIS case i think the motivation is pretty evident, at least in my eyes. think about it his last name... and then what it could easily be mistaken for.

Buday = surname

Bidet (buh-day) = fancy expensive toilet atttachment for feminine hygeine.

[Guest LadyC]

actually, you may have been closer in guessing than i was. although to ME, the name itself is embarrassing, apparently in their case the motivation is to carry on her family name.

Bijon, 28, approached Buday about the idea when they were dating. She had no brothers but wanted to prolong the family name. Buday, a 29-year-old developer of interactive advertising, was estranged from his own father and was not attached to his own last name.

[Iryssa]

Yes, God has put the husband as the head of the household, but what on earth keeps him from being the head of the household if he takes his wife's last name? Absolutely nothing, if you ask me. They are not dependant on one another. Sure we may individually view it as symbolic of that, but a few people's idea of symbolism does not make it a law.

[firehill]

Yes, God has put the husband as the head of the household, but what on earth keeps him from being the head of the household if he takes his wife's last name? Absolutely nothing, if you ask me. They are not dependant on one another. Sure we may individually view it as symbolic of that, but a few people's idea of symbolism does not make it a law.

The father is the head of his children? I opened a thread, in Doctrinal questions for discussing, 'who is the head of God's children?'...