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I'm really just fed up with my marriage, but I don't want to tear our family up for the kids' sake. Has anyone had this situation happen before where you just stayed for the kids?

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Don't stay for the kids Billie, stay for God. I think that may change your point of view.

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I'm really just fed up with my marriage, but I don't want to tear our family up for the kids' sake. Has anyone had this situation happen before where you just stayed for the kids?

(((((((((((((((Billie)))))))))))))))

I have been where you are sweetie!! Time after time. Hang in there. :) Biblicist is right, do it for God :thumbsup:

God wants the family to stay together and the easiest thing is for one spouse to walk away but I don't believe that is what God wants for any of us.

Trust God in this and He will bless you for your faithfulness.

Love ya lots,

Shaz :):emot-hug:

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Billie,

My wife and i have had many ups and downs and for a while that was the only reason we were together. We were apart quiet a while, and yet God in His time brought us back together. My prayer for y'all is that you will find a better and closer relationship with God and each other through what appears to be the bad times.


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I haven't had to do this, but my daughter is doing it. She is miserable, but she makes the best of it. I don't see how, tho.


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I haven't had to do this, but my daughter is doing it. She is miserable, but she makes the best of it. I don't see how, tho.

It sounds like she loves her Lord more than her life. This is what we are all called to do.

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I'm really just fed up with my marriage, but I don't want to tear our family up for the kids' sake. Has anyone had this situation happen before where you just stayed for the kids?

:thumbsup: My parents stayed together for the kid. On her deathbed, mom asked dad for forgiveness, I turned out more or less normal, and only dad can tell you how this arrangement worked for him.


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Just being "fed up" with one's marriage is no reason to quit. You would be committing a serious sin to walk away from it. Many marriages go through bad patches, but a righteous person can weather it with much prayer, fasting and getting into God's Word. Godly friends and counselling are of great benefit.

It is an act of the will to love one's spouse. Love is not based on feelings. Choose to love your husband daily, not with feelings, but with actions as unto the Lord, and you will soon find that the love will come.

If your husband is a rotter, you will need good Christian counselling to develop useful tools to deal with him. It is the patient love of a woman that can cause a man's heart to turn toward the Lord. If he is an abusive man, then you certainly do need to make a big decision for the sake of the children for your and their safety, not only physically, but also emotionally.


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Don't stay for the kids Billie, stay for God. I think that may change your point of view.

:wub:

Bib

You're right. I feel very badly that the promise to the Lord I made wouldn't have given me cause to stay. :)

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Billie,

You are NOT a failure. You are being tempted. Temptation is not sin. Giving in to temptation is sin. When you feel tempted think of this verse. Memorize it, I know it will help you out.

1 Corinthians 10:13

No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

The last sentence is the best, "when you are tempted, He will provide a way out so that you can stand up under it."

What does God's word say about being tempted?

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. (James 1:2-4, NIV)

I got a fantastic book a while ago. It's by Stormie O'Martain called The Power of a Praying Wife. It helped me more than it did my husband. :thumbs_down: And that has saved our marriage.

Praying for you always,

Bib

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