"TELL ME GOD WON'T TAKE MY BABY"

[TreyM]

That's the question I was asked recently by a mom whoes little girl had stopped breathing. "Tell me God won't take my baby," is what she said when she looking in to my eyes.

How would you respond to that? I'm still trying to figure out if I told her the right thing. I'd like your opinion.

Here's my story or you can click: http://rediscovering-church.blogspot.com/2...ke-my-baby.html

Thanks for your opinion.

Trey

[Donnierae]

Tray, we don't always have a answer< when my niece was killed outright by a accident , and her mother was driving the car, she has lived with deep guilt. All I could say to her is God, had a better plan for her. Then one night when praying for her I believe God spoke to me and said, " Ask her if she would deny ME what I could give her child"? I conveyed this to her, We never know why our loved ones die, the only comfort we have is knowing that maybe they are in a better place. You didn't say how the child is now? My granddaughter stopped breathing more times than I can remember, Drs don't know why, We just kept bringing her back. She is 8 years old now and has outgrown this praise the Lord. She is our Special baby. Dr.s don't know why or how she made it through so many times of not breathing. You are in a line of work giving yourself to all you help, But just remember, GOD is in control. Bless You, Tray.

[Guest Biblicist]

Ecclesiastes 4

1 Again I looked and saw all the oppression that was taking place under the sun:

I saw the tears of the oppressed

[nebula]

I think of a song Natalie grant sings. It was written by a friend of hers who within three days had to walk with two friends through their pain:

One friend's husband died of cancer - he was diagnosed about two months before, and told he had about that long to live.

The other friend's infant baby died.

This song comes from her struggle with this.

Held

Two months is too little.

They let him go.

They had no sudden healing.

To think that Providence would

Take a child from his mother while she prays

Is appalling.

Who told us we

[billie]

I'm a mother, so believe me. I can totally relate. I've wondered many times when my daughter was in the hospital or we were en route to the emergency room after my son's latest misadventure.........How would I react were one of my children to die?

This is the answer I was given: They aren't really mine to begin with. Every soul that ever lived belongs to God, and God alone. I can't imagine how I'd do with this knowledge were something to happen to my children, but I know it's the truth. Parents have a sense of ownership over their children. It's good, to a degree, because we're responsible for them. When it becomes un-edifying(for lack of a better word )is when we start to think they're ours, not God's. This is where faith in God's perfect plan is replaced with fear.

This is a hard thing, to be sure, a lesson I pray I'll never have to learn first-hand. Many of our brothers and sisters have lost children. For your friend, also, remind her: God knows all too well what it's like to watch His own child die.

[nebula]

You know, Heaven isn't a place to sit on a cloud playing a harp.

I have heard of testimonies where parents were given comfort from the Lord that He needed their child for something up in Heaven.

I heard of a teenage girl who on her death bed was invited by the Lord to come to Heaven in order to help raise the babies there that had been aborted. Shortly after telling her parents she accepted His offer, she passed away "from death unto life."

I can only imagine how hard it must be for a parent to lose a child. But we must belief that death isn't the end, and that the Lord has a plan and a destiny for us in Heaven. Sometimes we aren't given "the answer," but we can comfort each other that the grave isn't the end. The child's presence will indeed be missed, and we should mourn out our sorrow. But the Lord specializes in making beauty out of ashes. It's hard to have the kind of faith in God that can enable you to trust Him through the loss of a child, but living in bitterness apart from Him is worse.

Sometimes all you can do to comfort the mother is let her cry on your shoulder, encourage her that the Father's hand is on her child whether he/she remains on Earth or runs through Heaven's fields, that she will see her child again, that the Father knows what it is to surrender His Son to death and watch Him die, and that He loves her and wants to hold her in His palm and carry her through whatever happens.

Prayers for the comfort of this mother and for her faith to not fail.

[Leonard]

Unless the Lord gave me a word for them, I would reply, "I don't have all the answers, and God has not told me His intent. Let's pray with faith believing that God will heal the child."

[TreyM]

Wow... thank you guys for replying to my post. I appreciate the words and the time you took to read and write back. I guess God doesn't require us to know all the answers. Actually, God's probably big enough to answer for Himself.

Trey

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