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Alright. I've been dating this guy for 5 months. It's a pretty long time to be dating someone considering that it's my first real relationship. And normally, he's almost perfect. He's sweet, and funny, and he is a christian even though he doesn't really go to church. But lately, I dunno, I'm like never in the mood to be around him, and he kind of annoys me. Like, it all started when I came back from visiting my mom in Texas. He's been extra clingy. But when I AM around him, I most of the way feel happy. But then he just anoys me later. And lately, I've been having dreams about guys i'd liked in the past. One friend says it's because I like my boyfriend less so i'm starting to dream about other guys, and the other says that since i'm breakingup with him for sure when i go back to texas, i'm just preeparing myself to lose him. But should i break up with him now? for a while i had hoped something would break us up before i came back so i wouldn't have to break up with him because of moving. Because then he'd go into this whole "we could make it work" thing. And personally, i feel that i'm too young to be dealing with long distance relationships. I know we COULD make it work, but I also know that I don't want to. So anyways, is this whole thing the thing i prayed to God would happen to break us up? I don't wanna go through with it incase i'm just going through a phase, but if i honestly am getting tired of him and liking him less, it's just be downright unfair to him to make him think i still do like him. What do i do?

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If you and this guy were standing in front of God and only the truth could come out. What would your answer be? That is what needs to be stated now. All the emotion and other feeling will pass..but the truth will always be the truth..and that is what you need to speak..the truth..anything less is a sin!


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Hon, you're 14. I was 18 when I had my first relationship and I could barely handle it! I think it's time to sit back and thing about a few things:

1. Having a relationship requires a lot of maturity and personal strength. What i mean by this is you need to know who you are, and whether you're ready for the responsibilities that a relationship needs. Judging by what you've said, I don't really think you're ready for what you have.

2. Long distance relationships are even more difficult than regular relationships, most people in their 30's can't handle it so I doubt you'll be able to.

3. If you don't want to date this guy anymore you're just going to have to suck it up and break up with him. Gods not going to use lightening to put a tree between you guys and make y'all think that you're not meant to be. As I said before- relationships require maturity, and this is where you're going to have to utilize it.

Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't pray about the situation...asking God for strength and eloquence of your speech while breaking up with your guy might be something you should ask for. You could also pray that God help him through this tough time and help you do be compassionate toward him as he will be hurting.

Anyways, I hope you gain some clarity on the choice and make the choice you (and God) need to.

Blessings,

Sierra

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Hon, you're 14. I was 18 when I had my first relationship and I could barely handle it! I think it's time to sit back and thing about a few things:

1. Having a relationship requires a lot of maturity and personal strength. What i mean by this is you need to know who you are, and whether you're ready for the responsibilities that a relationship needs. Judging by what you've said, I don't really think you're ready for what you have.

2. Long distance relationships are even more difficult than regular relationships, most people in their 30's can't handle it so I doubt you'll be able to.

3. If you don't want to date this guy anymore you're just going to have to suck it up and break up with him. Gods not going to use lightening to put a tree between you guys and make y'all think that you're not meant to be. As I said before- relationships require maturity, and this is where you're going to have to utilize it.

Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't pray about the situation...asking God for strength and eloquence of your speech while breaking up with your guy might be something you should ask for. You could also pray that God help him through this tough time and help you do be compassionate toward him as he will be hurting.

Anyways, I hope you gain some clarity on the choice and make the choice you (and God) need to.

Blessings,

Sierra

:o I agree with Sierra! :thumbsup:


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Dating is not for 14-year-olds. Not a good idea.


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It's best to be honest, and break it off as soon as you can. Dragging it out longer than you should will only hurt him more. It'll be hard, but it's worth it...and it's something you have to learn.

My advice would be to take a break after this from dating as well...let yourself grow, and problems like this when you face them again will be a lot easier to handle.


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yeah, i was thinkin about taking a break from all that after he and i break up. i'm pretty sure what i've gotta do now. i just gotta figure out when and how. but thanks for all the help guys :emot-hug:


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Dating is not for 14-year-olds. Not a good idea.

Amen. I was 14 not too long ago. I dated. It was silly. Plain silly.


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Dating is not for 14-year-olds. Not a good idea.

Amen sister. And I'm almost afraid to ask how old the guy is that she is dating. It makes me shudder.

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