Who does what?!

[Guest lnj]

OK thanks to all who have responded ...

Now - is it inappropriate for the woman to make the first MOVE ? Something as simple as going up to the man and speaking. (Obviously there must be the attraction etc between both parties and prayer OF COURSE.)

I have read, and been told, at all costs, the woman should NOT show a HINT that she's interested..that's sounds a bit warped to me.

[Guest shiloh357]

I don't believe that God has you pegged with someone from day of your birth, but I do believe He will bring compatible people into your life. The choice is always yours, though. The person may be "compatible" but you might not be particularly attracted to that person. I believe that God will always guide you to the perfect choice.

[Guest shiloh357]

OK thanks to all who have responded ...

Now - is it inappropriate for the woman to make the first MOVE ? Something as simple as going up to the man and speaking. (Obviously there must be the attraction etc between both parties and prayer OF COURSE.)

I have read, and been told, at all costs, the woman should NOT show a HINT that she's interested..that's sounds a bit warped to me.

That really depends on your upbringing and what you are comfortable with.

[Guest lnj]

I don't believe that God has you pegged with someone from day of your birth,

I have often thought of that. Elizabeth Elliot a woman of God who is a speaker of relationships and dating amongst other things, has been married 3 times I think, which made me think about the whole "soul mate" issue.

[Guest lnj]

That really depends on your upbringing and what you are comfortable with.

Because my Mum died when I was 22 mths old, I missed out on the girly talk that often happens with Mums and daughters, and my Dad was not the kind of man to speak about relationships, dating etc.

Then of course living the secular lifestyle and now the Believers life ,the whole man/woman issue is so different from each lifestyle that it can get confusing.

Maybe just go with the flow.

[Guest]

I have read, and been told, at all costs, the woman should NOT show a HINT that she's interested..that's sounds a bit warped to me.

I'm with you Sis!

Sounds like someone does not believe in honest relationships?

Or....

[Guest lnj]

I have read, and been told, at all costs, the woman should NOT show a HINT that she's interested..that's sounds a bit warped to me.

I'm with you Sis!

Sounds like someone does not believe in honest relationships?

Or....

lol I thought that advice was very Victorian!!

[Grace1479]

I asked God to give me the right husband since I was very young, and He gave me the most wonderful hubby on earth. My sister always says he's like the Mills and Boons story book characters, he's just to good to be true. But God knew what I'm going to need and I believe that we can ask Him to pick the right one for us. Just as long as we seek a christian partner.

[nebula]

"Love is not finding the right person, but being the right person."

As hard as it is to wait, we would better ourselves by focusing on how we can be the best spouse to our future hsuban/wife than on trying to find the "best spouse."

If more people did that, we might not have as many divorces as we do.

[nebula]

I have often thought of that. Elizabeth Elliot a woman of God who is a speaker of relationships and dating amongst other things, has been married 3 times I think, which made me think about the whole "soul mate" issue.

Umm, I think, considering the content, you ought to clarify that she was twice widowed . . . so people don't think that a divorcee is speaking on relationships and dating.