All men of God.....Please read

[mrs]

The simplist solution would be to have both male and female treat each other with loving concern as fellow brothers and sisters. In this case, females would dress modestly out of obedience to God, a desire for modesty, and to keep their brothers from stumbling. And in response men would treat them with deference, respect, and a protecting air; which leaves no room for lust.

This is the Biblical format which is sorely lacking in the church today. Too much of north american Christianity desires to be a Christian while having all that the world does - the music, clothing, movies etc. Yet we are to be seperate - a holy and unique people.

[Iryssa]

*nods* Yeah, that's pretty much what we've been saying (part of this discussion happened in the Ladies' Lounge)...both parties take responsability; women for their own dress, men for their own eyes...best way to tackle these problems.

[DarkNebulaWelder]

Yeah...let's have all the men behave so we don't have to wear burkas.

Yeah Right!

Burkas With A Pearl Handled Revolver Hanging Off Each Side!

Now that would induce a stare or two from either sex!

[F8thNJesus]

When I was saved, the Lord convicted me on how to dress.

In leu of that, when I was pregnant. (like 8 months) I was in Lowes, and by no means wearing anything revealing. I was on a mission to get to the bathroom. (hey I was 8 months preggo)

Being in the south, we often make eye contact with passing people and say hello or at least smile. I did this to the man passing, and when he smiled, a red flag went up. I knew it was more than a freindly gesture. well i was walking quickly and not too bothered. I got to where the bathroom was, and it was ropped off. I had to go across (what seemed like 10 acres of concrete) the entire store to get to the other working bathroom. I had an accident before i was in the stall. I was mortified. I got cleaned up as quicly as possible, and I made a bee-line for my car. Again I see this guy, and avoid eye contact, but he is staring at me, so embarassingly I looked to see if he noticed my pants but he hadn't it was sheer lust. I hurried to my car, and when pulling out I thought he wanted me to roll my window down to talk to him.

Early on when I got married, my husband and I went throug problems which have since ceased, but before they did, I was jealous and angry every time I caught my hubby drooling over a barely dressed woman. The Lord showed me that it was not women's sin of (wearing revealing clothing) but rather it was my husband's heart .

If a man (or woman) looks at a woman(or man) and lusts after them, it is his sin that will be on him, and God will not excuse it because she invited it!

One woman started coming to our church that was previously in the adult dancing industry. Men and thier wives were upset that she dressed in a certain way. But I think the only way you couldn't have noticed she had a great body was to put a burka on her. Some men were saying they were being distracted while worshipping. If you are truly worshipping GOd, then how can one woman distract you unless she is pole dancing on center stage?

Lust is a matter of the heart, not the eyes!