dating?

[Blaze]

thank you for all your oppinions I apreciate it greatly!

God bless

[kjvtrue]

Here's the real meaning of Dating:

date1   

n.

Time stated in terms of the day, month, and year.

A statement of calendar time, as on a document.

A specified day of a month.

A particular point or period of time at which something happened or existed, or is expected to happen.

dates The years of someone's birth and death: Beethoven's dates were 1770 to 1827.

The time during which something lasts; duration.

The time or historical period to which something belongs: artifacts of a later date.

An appointment: a luncheon date with a client; a date with destiny. See Synonyms at engagement.

v. dat

[Nicks Girl]

My opinion is that Christians shouldn't date around. What I mean by that is dating lots of different people. Going out on dates, alone.

I believe in waiting until GOD'S timing is right, and that may be different for different people(depending on maturity levels, etc).

I'm only 17, and I met the man I'm going to marry, when I was 15. We became a "couple" last year, and have been seeking God's leading in our relationship, and seeking our parents advice, the advice of our pastors, and other respected models in our life. We have never had a doubt that God hasn't called us to be together.(I know it's not very often that easy for people who are looking for the right one). However, I believe ALOT of prayer needs to go into every dating, and courting relationship. Relationships shouldn't be jumped into lightly, or on a whim.

Courting isn't dating with parental supervision. Courting is waiting until you are ready to get into a serious relationship and are trying to find out if you are both like-minded enough to pursue marriage. Of course with courting your families are more interactive in your relationship(and there is alot more supervision). Mostly, because when you get married, you marry the other person's entire family, they become YOUR family,(in most cases) and I think both families should get to know the prospective mates.

My Fiance is the only guy I have dated. I don't believe you have to date a bunch of different people, and "try" different people out. I don't believe it is biblical at all.

Traditional dating is dangerous. It brings up alot of emotions, alot of times people don't REALLY get to know each other. It is setup for falling into sin, and alot of times getting your heart broken.

I guess that 's all I have to say...I hope I got what I mean across clearly.

God Bless.

[Blaze]

yes well I think that you might misunderstand me for the fact that my plans are that, most likely I will know this girl all my life and perhaps we will get married(I know you're all thinking a teenager thinking about marrage is wacked)but that is in the future in which I intend to take into consideration then and not now.I have fallen in love so now there is now way to climb out of it, but to not put my emotions to action is the correct thing to do at this point. My plans are if I date it will only be this one person,but if I do somehow end up losing her then I will not date untill later when I am ready for marriage.

thank you for your opinnions and you have my thoughts God bless

[Blaze]

Here's the real meaning of Dating:

QUOTE 

date1   

n.

Time stated in terms of the day, month, and year.

A statement of calendar time, as on a document.

A specified day of a month.

A particular point or period of time at which something happened or existed, or is expected to happen.

dates The years of someone's birth and death: Beethoven's dates were 1770 to 1827.

The time during which something lasts; duration.

The time or historical period to which something belongs: artifacts of a later date.

An appointment: a luncheon date with a client; a date with destiny. See Synonyms at engagement.

v. dat

[Catsmeow]

I couldn't vote. In my most humble opinion, dating is not to be done until after High school. Kids should be focusing on their relationship with Christ and studies.

Oh, Andrew...you're a young man after my own heart....If my beautiful daughters were still single, I'd like them to meet you....

What incredible wisdom...I like your answer the best...FOCUS on JESUS and leave the girls ALONE....

Then, later...when the hormones are a little more settled down and the person has their priorities in proper order...THEN....

Great pearls of wisdom! Love it!

[Ovedya]

No vote. Even 16 years old is way too young for a young person to get involved with dating, IMHO.

Young people's first priority is to get an education. Relationships complicate and distract from more important matters such as God, school, family, etc. This may sound to puritanical to some, but my wife and I firmly believe that a person ought not to seek after a relationship until he or she has gotten a good education and is ready to start a career and/ or a family.

[Willow]

Hi Blaze,

I just found this thread for the first time. Might I say it is wonderful to see someone your age seeking the wisdom and counsel of people around you, older even who can help guide you. Let me just say that the viewpoints of people expressed come directly, but not limited, to their own experiences. I learn through other people, but I also have experiences that have guided me.

Let me tell you that when I was in grade 8, I was convinced I met the guy I was going to marry. I was 13. I did not see that God did not have that for me until I was 24 (I am 26 now). And there was soooooo much convincing evidence that I had heard God and it was His will. Let me tell you, at 26 and never have dated or courted, I am soooooo thankful. Something time has taught me is the different levels one feels, sees and experiences love. There is so many things I am grateful God protected me from. And he continues to do so. That man and I are still great friends. And he has just married a wonderful woman!!!! I learned so many things about that relationship, one of which the Lord could see things I could not understand but through time and experience. And He allowed it not to be.

I do not doubt your feelings for this girl. I am sure she is a wonderful girl. Please do not be yearning too much for the chance to court just yet. You both need time. There is so much growth and change people go through at that age. I was not the same person at 15 that I was at 17, nor 17 - 19. You will both grow and change a lot. And you both may want something very different in the next few years. You have time!!!!! Take Andrew's advice, concentrate on God and growing in Christ. If you seek fist His kingdom and His righteousness, all these things will be added unto you - that includes God's plan for your future wife.

And let me just say, nothing is more irisistable to a Godly woman - than a Godly, patient man who has waited upon the Lord and His will. No matter what you are feeling right now, give it time, give it prayer, and give your desires up to God. He sees, he hears and he will be with you.

Bless you! God smiles down on your willingness to do right!

Willow

[Nicks Girl]

I agree that you should put God first, and have your priorities in line before getting involved in a relationship. School and Christ need to come first, but I don't think that 15,16,17 yo's. etc, are too young for relationships. It depends on the person, and their maturity level. There are numerous 20,30 40 somethings who aren't ready for a relationship and shouldn't be in one. Age has nothing to do with it. I'm 17 and I'm in a committed relationship, and have been for over a year. We met at 15, and knew we were to be together. God has been so wonderful, and this relationship has been AWESOME. God is good. I don't care if other PEOPLE think we are too young, our parents, and God have seen we are able to handle this responsibility and know we are to be together.

I think courting is good, and you should have school, and your priorities straight, and have your relationship with Christ ALWAYS come first. You should seek your parents advice, and the advice of others mature Christians. However, I think it can be very overdone and taken to extremes. God may be telling you to do something, and be with someone, even if alot of other people think you are too young(as with my fiance and I, and many other people's lives) but we need to do what we feel God is leading us to do. Often if we are listening to HIM, we are told to do things that are out of the ordinary, and the world may think us wrong to do that, or crazy!

Bottom line, Go with GOD. Any advice other than that is obsolete, because most of the time, it isn't prayfully given advice. Talk to God about every decision in your life.

[ColleenLovesMischief]

I do not believe that Christians should date. Courting (supervision) is best. Dating leads to way too much temptation. Trust me I've been there. Also you should never get serious with someone unless you actually plan to marry them. Be friends it is the best way to get to know a person.