Hello everyone! I just joined.

[AndrewA]

At this point in time not much harm has been done, however something needs to be done to prevent things from escalating. Do not go to police yet, its not needed. This can be sorted out between you and your father. Last thing your father needs is to be stigmatised with a paedophile label.

You need to have one final word with him and tell him enough is enough. You should dress more modestly around him, you are in his house as a guest and should behave as such. You have no right to walk around naked or as good as naked as to be honest those bikinis do not really cover much up, especially as you know the reaction you will get from him. I know its not your fault he is like this, but to encourage his behaviour is not right.

AS a single father who lives with my daughter I can kind of understand the problems that can arise and in a way can sympathize with your father, however that doesn

[Guest]

Welcome!

[PamD]

Marilyn,

May God give you the wisdom you need to deal with this situation.

I didn't not mean to imply that you were in any way at fault for what is happening, rather that by changing you habit of dress it would give less opportunity for a problem to arise. If I offended you in anyway please forgive me.

I continue to pray that the Lord will direct your steps and keep you safe.

[KeilanS]

Hey Marilyn! Welcome to worthy!

I don't think I have any advice that the others haven't already posted. Try to find clothes that aren't revealing at all to wear around your father. Get night clothes that cover everything very well (or just don't change into night stuff until you're already in your room with the door locked), find other clothes to work out in, and it might be a good idea to find somewhere else to sunbath.

Basically, don't give him any opportunity to look at you, and if that makes the problem go away, then you may have averted a very awkward situation.

[darkest_red]

The advice for you to change the way you dress is ridiculous. You are entitled as a young woman to dress appropriately for your age. It almost implies that you are partially to blame, which you certainly are not.

I don't think anyone was implying that she is partially to blame, however, I think, and I'm sure you would agree, that it is important that the situation doesn't get worse before it gets sorted out and wearing bikinis etc is not going to help.

Marylin, please don't think anyone is implying that you are at all to blame.

[OneLight]

My name is Marilyn. I'm a sophomore at Florida U. I joined because I'm having a problem with my father and would like to talk to other Christians about it, but I'm too embarrassed to talk about it with any of my Christian friends. I'd prefer to just talk about it here, online, with other Christians who don't know me personally.

I tried to post a message to 'Prayer Requests' but I couldn't. Does anyone know why?

Welcome to Worthy! I am a father of five, so if i can help you understand how and why a father may think they way he does, I'd be more then happy to do so. You can also PM me or send me an email.

Your Brother In Christ,

OneLight

[AnExample]

Hi Marilyn

This is a very serious issue. The advice for you to change the way you dress is ridiculous. You are entitled as a young woman to dress appropriately for your age. It almost implies that you are partially to blame, which you certainly are not. I am a senior pastor of a church and simply treat an issue like this as if you had come to see me and asked for my advice personally. You need to notify the authorities. I agree that it is awkward to speak to your mother, but it might help if you have a good relationship with her.

You are being violated and you do not deserve this, and your father needs to be confronted on this. If you are not able to speak to him directly then leave him a letter, but he needs to know that you are uncomforatble and that you believe his actions to be improper, which they are.

Speak to the pastor of your local church, and most definitely to your father's pastor if he has one. Your body is for the eyes of your life-partner, and not for the lustful eyes of your father.

With all due respect Pastor...in the real world a male pastor should never counsel a female. I believe that is why the word tells the older women to teach the younger women. This is a free country, so in that regard, she is free to dress appropriately for her age. However, as a christian woman, we are told to be modest. I believe that the separation which occurred between her and her father from the time she was 14 until she moved in are years that her father missed. Since they have not been in the same household, he probably is amazed at the young woman she's turned out to be, plus he may have lust issues, as most men are visual beings. God made you that way. Since Marilyn feels uncomfortable around him in this regard...she should cover for discretion.

Also, we are in this world and not of this world, which means that we don't do things the way the world does them. Blessings!