How do I back on route with God? A plea for good Christian advice

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[woden]

Hi, I used to go to Church, pray take an active part in the life of the Church. I won't say that I blame the Church.. for my falling away, the Church is a group of people who love the Lord I know. Full of imperfections..just like the individual. Just like me. As a single parent it was a struggle. I longed for a husband yet became quite content in my single ness. I can't really recall how it began..slipping away. I began to feel that I did not fit in.. leading to the odd time missing church which developed into a regular occurance. No one called or bothered that I was not going so it was easy. Then I began to go out with friends, who did not love Jesus. I met a man, a wonderful man and eventually we got married. He was not a christian... well actually he has asked Jesus into his life but he nor I go to church. |He is amazing and i feel very blessed. Yet I know that people, probably like yourselves reading this, would tellme that I should have not yolked mysefl to an unbeliever and should have trusted in God and waited. Husband or not for God's plan for me to unfold. Please Please don't condemn me. I have been so afraid to go back to church for fear of that.

I am backslidden in the churches eyes. Yet...through all this time I think and believe i hear God's voice. Telling me he still loves me, I have wept because I long for that intimacy yet don't know my way back.. how to get back there. How will God see my marriage to this man? How do I get back on track if this was not his plan for my life?

I have said 'sorry' for going the way that was not his plan...but what do I do now? But I am still here feeling no closer from God. I don't believe that he has cast me for ever from his side. Because God would not do that.. from what I know. Has anyone got any advice?

Thank you,

Sunniest time....

Once it starts, it just seems not to stop. How easy life may seem to be. No more effort to conform or meet standards. And yet something pricks away at you. It is your conscience. Do you remember the story of the prodigal son. He went his way, lived it up, but when things got tough and he was reduced to looking after pigs ( and if a Jew how low must he have got since pigs are unclean to Jews) he finally decided to return home and work as a hired man in his Father's fields.

What was the reaction when he got home? Did his Father give him a hard time? You know what happened and the same could happen to you still. Your Heavenly Father loves you and knows what you need. Being a single parent is not easy. I'm just single, and there are times I wish that I could be not single. The support, comfort and hugs all help. All I have is a cat and he is not one for hugs.

So what can you do? Someone, a spiritual man who visited my congregation, said to me, " we come to meetings and we do the things God wants because WE want too." How true that is. If it is our heart we will do all we can. Getting up, getting ready and going through that door will always be a difficult thing to do. But if your heart is full of appreciation for God's love to you nothing will hold you back from returning. No-one will judge you, in fact they may very well be so pleased to see you. It is worth the effort at least.

[redwing]

John 16:33 (King James Version)

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33These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

blessings rw. also welcome to the worthy family.

[Joelle]

Hi and welcome! My sister is in the UK too (and how come she's still awake, it's almost 2am local time?!!)

Thanks for sharing your story with us, I believe this is a big and indeed very important step you're making. I'll be praying for you too.

[Blien]

Hi, I used to go to Church, pray take an active part in the life of the Church. I won't say that I blame the Church.. for my falling away, the Church is a group of people who love the Lord I know. Full of imperfections..just like the individual. Just like me. As a single parent it was a struggle. I longed for a husband yet became quite content in my single ness. I can't really recall how it began..slipping away. I began to feel that I did not fit in.. leading to the odd time missing church which developed into a regular occurance. No one called or bothered that I was not going so it was easy. Then I began to go out with friends, who did not love Jesus. I met a man, a wonderful man and eventually we got married. He was not a christian... well actually he has asked Jesus into his life but he nor I go to church. |He is amazing and i feel very blessed. Yet I know that people, probably like yourselves reading this, would tellme that I should have not yolked mysefl to an unbeliever and should have trusted in God and waited. Husband or not for God's plan for me to unfold. Please Please don't condemn me. I have been so afraid to go back to church for fear of that.

I am backslidden in the churches eyes. Yet...through all this time I think and believe i hear God's voice. Telling me he still loves me, I have wept because I long for that intimacy yet don't know my way back.. how to get back there. How will God see my marriage to this man? How do I get back on track if this was not his plan for my life?

I have said 'sorry' for going the way that was not his plan...but what do I do now? But I am still here feeling no closer from God. I don't believe that he has cast me for ever from his side. Because God would not do that.. from what I know. Has anyone got any advice?

Thank you,

Sunniest time....

I wouldn't comdem you, when I first read your post I felt compassion for you because I often struggle with this too just like a lot of other belivers. I would say try to start reading the Bible regularly again and pray for God to give you the will and desire to come back to church every Sunday. But I think you also have to make a clear cut decision that this is what you want and your not going to turn back. God would never comdemn you for marrying someone who is a non-beliver, do you remember the verse that states a Believer who marries a non believer sanctifies them and their children? Just tTry you best and GOD BLESS YOU!

[Sunniesttime]

God bless you Jo who ever and where ever you are. I woke up this morning (hubby has popped out) and came to read my posts. Thank you for taking the time to give me encouragment. Your words choked me up...... you see I love my dear husband so very much........and I know that I should not have lived with him according to the churches teachings etc but that was the place I was at the time. He is a man full of integrity and very committed to his family. It is lately I have felt..well actuallly for about a year now... God talking to me wooing me back to the fold I think.

I spent last night falling to sleep and praying after being on this message board. I have been out of God's presence. I don't know what your experiences are but I used to feel God's presence raining down on me. It was an amazing experience. This did not occur every day or anything but sometimes when I would pray and I knew that I was in the company of the Lord or Angelic beings. Sounds a bit soppy I guess...and i know we should not just go on feelings but faith etc.

When I stopped going to Church.....I felt His presence less and less and then began to doubt wether it was actually any thing to do with God (the presence). Then I began to wonder if there was a God or at least the God that the bible talks about. So I have been in a very doubting place even wondering if the bible is the Word of God. So Jo I have been a very long way from Him. But somehow....in the quiet moments and when least exptected I think on Jesus..........and believe that he is talking to me.

It's funny Jo....in my bible, at the front I have wrote this 'I may withdraw from you but I know you will never leave me'. I don't even know why I wrote those words.

Say a prayer for us Jo,

Sunniest