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[Guest Bobtep23]

Angel I agree...That is a Great testimony.

I have an additional question to ask. Does anyone know what the "law" can touch regarding. For example...Me (not a minor) wants to date a minor. Parents can throw a fit. But can anything be done to stop it? If the parents even say they don't want me near their daughter (I for one would honor that decision) BUT if I wouldn't can they do anything beyond dicisplineing their child legally???

Please advise if on what you know.

[Guest freebird]

my parents know we see :hug: each other. its her 74 year old father and 56 year old mother im worried about. how do u say "i want to date ur daughter" to 2 ppl who had there kid as a way to get back at the first wife he had

[Guest freebird]

on a side note if it wasnt for her :il: i would not be brushing my teeth on a regular basis.

[Only4Him777]

Hey there. All of your posts are great. Now, regarding the "illegal" issue. I am not sure about other states, but in Texas, if the parents don't want you to see their child and you persist... They can have you put in jail... hence the term "jail bait".

I have a friend, who is in jail now because of that. You don't just have to actually have sex. The minor could say that you did not, and if the parents say they think you did... because they want you away from their child, the legal system will side with the parents. (They can also file a restraining order on you, and the minor has no say)

So, proceed with caution. Take everyone's advice, and meet with the girl's parents. I think that "at home date" idea is a great one.

My previous post here was based on what I know of someone who has gone through the "wost case" scenario regarding this situation. I don't want anyone to have to go through that.

I pray that everything will work out according to the will of God.

YSIC,

Alison :hug:

[JesusisGod2]

Angel I agree...That is a Great testimony.

I have an additional question to ask. Does anyone know what the "law" can touch regarding. For example...Me (not a minor) wants to date a minor. Parents can throw a fit. But can anything be done to stop it? If the parents even say they don't want me near their daughter (I for one would honor that decision) BUT if I wouldn't can they do anything beyond dicisplineing their child legally???

Please advise if on what you know.

I am not positive on this, but I am pretty sure that they may be able to press charges for contributing to the deliquency of a minor. That law has a pretty broad arm as to what falls under it. Especially if one has been told and continues to see the juvenile.

I know that the parent can file a peace bond which will not allow the other person within fifty feet of the minor.

[refugepsa91]

My parents called the police here in my state....and they said they could file a restraining type order...if he came near me he could be arrested. Thank God none of that happened all this was said before they met him.

and freebird you say how old her parents are, theres a pretty good age gap there also...although I will admit once you get to their age its not a huge deal like it is when your young. Even if they did have her under those circumstances...I would still try the "at-home" dates we talked about. They are human after all and if your a sincerely nice person I think they will be ok.

I'm glad you brush your teeth!!!!! :oww:

Love and Blessings,

Angel

[Guest mcm42]

on a side note if it wasnt for her  i would not be brushing my teeth on a regular basis.

That's true love!

[Ericka]

Well I think all these posts are from people over 18.. so maybe one from someone closer to her age...?'

I am 15.. what I can say on this..

Any 16 year old girl likes to feel loved... its just our nature.. well.. anyone likes to feel loved but.. well you know what I mean.. anyway..

How do you know this is love? Love is a strong word.. and you have to prove to yourself, her and her parents that you are in LOVE with her. I don't know how you will do that.. but just saying it doesn't mean you mean it. There is a feeling nearly as strong as love, its called lust.. an infatuation with the eyes, causing you to believe you are in love..Not saying that is the situation here, but it may be. However you need to pray about this.

If her parents do say you cannot date her, no matter what they say, and no matter how you feel, you need to back off. I am sure you will still be able to talk to her and whatnot... but.. back off, none of the seeing each other behind their backs, because if that is what you do, and you do not show them how much you love her, in front of them, they may be thinking "whats this boy really want with her?" And no matter what you want with her.. thats what they are going to think.

I have some way to relate to this too..

Last year.. I was 14, really close to 15, but STILL 14, I was dating a guy who was turning 20 RIGHT after I turned 15. So 5 years older than me almost exactly. His parents did not care, and my parents.. didn't know. We knew what they would say.. and eventually, he did end up trying to knock me up (and I hope you know what I mean by that) so I ditched him. Unfortunately then my parents found out I had been dating him. They were really angry about it and I got grounded.. for.. well a long time.. No matter what they think or knw about what is going on behind their backs, sex is gonna be one of them.

Lets turn a minute away from all the people here that relate to this subject and lets turn away from you...

If you heard the question "What does a 20 year old want with a 16 year old?"

I bet 90% of people would honestly think "sex."

Its just the natural instinct, nowadays.. a lot of things are about sex, its just the way the world has turned.. and no matter how we try to change that, we can't.

But talk to her parents, if they say no, and you truely are in love, you can wait the years until she is no longer a minor. Thats love.

[Russell07]

wow... all i can say is god bless y'all

[Nicks Girl]

For me personally, I don't think the age difference should be a problem. The maturity of the couple in question are. I think you should go to her parents, and explain how you two feel, and honor her parents decisions. If they got to know you, and felt you really cared about their daughter, they probably wouldn't care if you two dated. And I agree with what others have said. If you two really love each other, that isn't going to change.

I've dated a guy who was 7 years older than I am..and it didn't work out because HE was the immature one. My parents had known him our whole lives though, and were, especially my mom, ok with it. Yeah, he's still basically an immature 16 yo boy, lol. People think we're the same age!!! YIKES..anyways, I really think this is something you need to pray about, and REALLY talk to your parents and her parents about. If you are serious about each other, don't worrry, and don't let it ruin your relationship.