MeCajunboy

It probably doesn't matter what age you are or how long you've been married. By now, I think we have all come to realize that each relationship comes with a whole set of problems and issues. For me, it's discovering after 40 years of marriage, (understanding none of us are perfect or have perfect marriages), that we have finally identified my wife's issues. She's labeled " obsessive/compulsive". But first, a little background. We've been married 52 years now, and I vowed, after hearing from several family members, to abandon the marriage, before I crack. Well, I have to admit, I came pretty close a few times, but I generally tell everyone concerned, I made a promise to God and the wife, and before every loved one involved, that I was here through good times and in bad. And It hasn't always been this rough, but I dare say, there's not many who would have survived this relationship. I first noted, that her complete family of four each have various issues; all in this general mental health Category. It's a disease that's hardly recognized because the person can "act out" perfectly fine for most but the closest ones usually get the worst of it. I dare say, my two children, one 45 and one 35, have been drastically affected by her actions and inactions as well. Each of us has been through serious counseling, but the dear wife has avoided the issue. In fact, she totally disagrees with her children and me that she even has an issue. There have been too many arguments to count and it always leaves me more depressed and isolated then previously. But I know God sees all. And I know God knows my heart and mind is pure and meaningful. I was warned that as we aged, matters would get worse, but I'm in for the long haul. And there are much more better days than not. Another thing I've noticed is that, if you allow them, your feelings and wants and needs will easily get stepped over, so you have to draw a line at some point. Case in point: The Wife knows that I love visiting the Smokey Mountains during the Fall Foilage, either by ourselves or with others. But this year, my wife conveniently made plans for trip out of the Country and other trips within the U.S. And I honestly have no problems with that. But if I let this get by me, I would have ended up staying home instead of venturing out. So, I simply walked into her room and told her that I was going on vacation myself if she didn't care to go, and proceeded to begin researching our our regular lodging location and low and behold, she walked in the kitchen and said she wanted to go, but with provisions. (here comes to control factors). So I listened patiently as she noted that she ends up at the entertainment venues with me leaving early or not going at all. So, I reminded her that I'm 72 now, and when I get tired, I'm done. I offered that she could find a friend to bring along who can walk and stand as long as she. Pending. But I told her I can't go 12 hrs like we used to, since I've been through several major surgeries for upper back, neck and shoulder repair. I failed to mention that for 32 years, I was an avid runner and weight lifter, I ran 30 to 40 miles per week. I've always worked 2.5 jobs. 45 hrs per week, Air Force Res. and a business that took the remainder of my weekends. But age eventually takes over and I'm o.k. with that; apparently, she is not. I know I don't have to tell all, and I'll remind you that I'm aware of my every fault. God will not allow me to forget them. But my Spirit, Soul and mind is clean and clear. I belong to God first. questions and comment are welcome.

Wasn't disagreeing with anyone RA, just need clarification. Where I'm from John can be male, female or other here. But rather than topics. I'd sure love to dig in to some God stuff. Some of these " so called" topics gave little to do with God and scripture and more to do with opinions and favoritism. But like a good challenge. You take the lead please and I'll observe for a time.

Attacking? You are dillusional if you think I was attacking. Jumped in? I was of the impression, as you stated earlier when you noted if you disagree with someone here you were going to let them know you disagree, that we all had tge option to "jump in" and enjoin any convention we pleased as long as we follow terms? I am well aware you did not welcome me. I had no intentions of being here either until the Web site reached out to me and made friendly invite. As for your welcome, I'm neither interested nor could care less. But I'm not leaving until I'm ordered to leave. Otherwise, I'm home to stay. Geez, go find someone else to dominate. It's not working here. Perhaps and perhaps not. Case in point. If I'm responding to a post, from that view I cannot tell if Shiloh is male or female. Just like I'm not going to take it for granted tgat "lilmissmuffett" is a female especially if I'm responding from my email and once clicked it forecast me to here. Just like we cannot assume that Cajun boy is a boy, a girl, or both. Why it's a one else's business but between Shiloh and I to resolve is beyond me. I'm not discerning a good sense of Kingdom here so far. Just a sense of comrades, that has little bearing or effect on newcomers and others. It's all in the approach... God Bless.

Amen. At the same time, there are people out there who don't set the world on fire with their Christled walk. Some stays very near to him that I think you can hear God's heartbeat. They are the ones I see with meek, kind dispositions also a laugh in their heart and a song on their tongue. They would rather sit in the back seat of the church but when a friend calls on them or someone Ned's a kind word, they are there. The're not the loudest of choir singers but they celebrate with cheer. And you know they are blessed with God's discernment by the very words emanating from their mouths. Clear, concise, not sharp or hard or condemning and non delusional. They, too are God's children and they w r e never ever aware that there was a fence to be Luke or chilled on because they were always steadfast and on track and when temptation stepped before them, they simply stepped aside and gave them to God. You see, if you stay steadfast and keep your nose in God's book and your eyes on Gods heart you need not be concerned about any fences or borders. Just follow Jesus' path.

Lolol and I'm not a "boy'. Lolol

(Well, that's awful thin sknned) ! Yes, that was back then. But I'm here now. In earlier times I would have leaned more towards how Jesus would prefer to have us BEHAVE... as he did... and since I have no tax collectors in my way as I roam through the entrance of the synagogues as to overturn tables of noted tax collectors, I have no need in my life for strife.. Delusional in the manner I used was referencing the fact that you stated I attacked you when actually, I was initially agreeing with parts of your sermon ; only with different words.

Attacking? You are dillusional if you think I was attacking. Jumped in? I was of the impression, as you stated earlier when you noted if you disagree with someone here you were going to let them know you disagree, that we all had tge option to "jump in" and enjoin any convention we pleased as long as we follow terms? I am well aware you did not welcome me. I had no intentions of being here either until the Web site reached out to me and made friendly invite. As for your welcome, I'm neither interested nor could care less. But I'm not leaving until I'm ordered to leave. Otherwise, I'm home to stay. Geez, go find someone else to dominate. It's not working here.

Attacking? You are dillusional if you think I was attacking. Jumped in? I was of the impression, as you stated earlier when you noted if you disagree with someone here you were going to let them know you disagree, that we all had tge option to "jump in" and enjoin any convention we pleased as long as we follow terms? I am well aware you did not welcome me. I had no intentions of being here either until the Web site reached out to me and made friendly invite. As for your welcome, I'm neither interested nor could care less. But I'm not leaving until I'm ordered to leave. Otherwise, I'm home to stay. Geez, go find someone else to dominate. It's not working here.

Attacking? You are dillusional if you think I was attacking. Jumped in? I was of the impression, as you stated earlier when you noted if you disagree with someone here you were going to let them know you disagree, that we all had tge option to "jump in" and enjoin any convention we pleased as long as we follow terms? I am well aware you did not welcome me. I had no intentions of being here either until the Web site reached out to me and made friendly invite. As for your welcome, I'm neither interested nor could care less. But I'm not leaving until I'm ordered to leave. Otherwise, I'm home to stay. Geez, go find someone else to dominate. It's not working here.

Oh, that's never bothered me. I let people live the way they please and if they think they're dominating or manipulating facts and terms I know I am required to forgive. I know that we each have a message to share here and that's my focus. I find there are pig-headed and obstinate people everywhere and you'll tend to find them more on sites like this because they can be very territorial. But I'll make a promise to you today. We will both share some God given information as we both have much to offer. Where I lack in Biblical quotes I more than make up for it in discernment and experience as I'm certain you do as well.

Like I said classic signs of dilution. And I too will challenge you anytime I disagree with your interpretation of God's Word and life in General. We are all equal in God's eyes. And I'm happy that you don't remember me from the past. I digress Thanks for the warm welcome Shiloh. Now I know what I'm dealing with. You are a male, correct.?

I always like to let the individual tell me what sex tgey want to be considered. What is your preference?

Certainly, since you requested it. But I always go with how a person behaves first. Honestly, I always identified you as female by your conversations.... If you are referencing me that is. But I'll do even better. I will unfollow you immediately. That will satisfy both of us. God knows everyone was no designed to live together in harmony.. That's why he allowed us to have fences. And borders and WALLS