My best friend VS the truth

[MightyIsTheLord]

My friend Jamie is what many people would refer to as a 'player'. He likes to pick up women and sleep with them, then never call them back or anything. Anyway, he told me hes been seeing this girl over the internet who lives quite close to where we live and hes goin to meet up with her soon. We were talkin to her today on the internet and on the phone. my friend was lying over and over to try and get this girl to sleep with him. Anyway earlier she sent me a message on this social networking site called netlog and told me she thinks that my friend is messing her about and i told her the truth. Was this the right thing to do, i feel bad for betraying my friend.

By doing this have i shown that i do not love my friend and thus i have not been made perfect in love?

I felt compelled to tell the truth because even though he is my friend i cant stand that he is deceiving someone for his own gain.

Any advice appreciated thanks.

Edit: just got a message from my friends girlfriend, my friend has told her that im lying.

Edited April 16, 2009 by MightyIsTheLord

[nebula]

Prov. 27:5 -

An open rebuke is better than love carefully concealed.

Warning the girl of what she is in danger of is an act of love towards her.

Allowing your friend to get away with sin is not an act of love.

Hope that makes sense.

[MightyIsTheLord]

Thanks for your reply.

My friend is going to kick the crap out of me tommorow and im prepared for it, i was more frightened that i was guilty of not loving my neighbour and betraying him though.

[Creed]

I'm glad you told her truth. Now the ball is in her court as to whether to believe you or Jamie. It sounds as if she already had red flags going up in that she contacted you on netlog. She SHOULD have already figured it out on her own if he's already trying to convince her to sleep with him and they've never even met!!! Duh!

Mighty, it sounds like Jamie and this young lady are huge mission fields. They both need the Lord. Blessings.

[MightyIsTheLord]

I'm glad you told her truth. Now the ball is in her court as to whether to believe you or Jamie. It sounds as if she already had red flags going up in that she contacted you on netlog. She SHOULD have already figured it out on her own if he's already trying to convince her to sleep with him and they've never even met!!! Duh!

Mighty, it sounds like Jamie and this young lady are huge mission fields. They both need the Lord. Blessings.

They've broken up, she believed me in the end. I'm goin down to jamies house tommorow to get the crap kicked out of me, he told me that he still wants to be my friend but i've got to pay for what i've done. I've already forgiven him for what hes going to do tommorow so no worries there.

Jamie believes that aliens created this world, that we once lived on mars destroyed the atmosphere and we moved to this planet, that the earth has always been here, he believes in evolution and the big bang theory. everytime i talk to him about it we'll break into some sort of debate, even if i win the debate he never accepts that God exists. He does believe in the devil though, he thinks that hell is like one big party with alcohol and cannabis and loud rock music, i've told him that hes wrong but he doesn't believe me.

[Hunterpoet]

Well, after reading everything you have stated, I'm a little confused as to why you and jamie are such good friends???

[Believer1997]

My friend Jamie is what many people would refer to as a 'player'. He likes to pick up women and sleep with them, then never call them back or anything. Anyway, he told me hes been seeing this girl over the internet who lives quite close to where we live and hes goin to meet up with her soon. We were talkin to her today on the internet and on the phone. my friend was lying over and over to try and get this girl to sleep with him. Anyway earlier she sent me a message on this social networking site called netlog and told me she thinks that my friend is messing her about and i told her the truth. Was this the right thing to do, i feel bad for betraying my friend.

By doing this have i shown that i do not love my friend and thus i have not been made perfect in love?

I felt compelled to tell the truth because even though he is my friend i cant stand that he is deceiving someone for his own gain.

Any advice appreciated thanks.

Edit: just got a message from my friends girlfriend, my friend has told her that im lying.

Your "friend" is a liar - why should you lie to cover up for him? Also, when he involves you in this behavior - he's really not much of a friend. From what you describe, he's not a very moral person and I'm just guessing - not a Christian. You cannot love things that are wrong and against God. And by the way - he apparently hung you out to dry by telling another lie about you....

[MightyIsTheLord]

Thank you all for your replies. The best thing to come out of this situation is that my faith has grown and i have become closer to the Lord.

I was just speaking to my friends now ex-girlfriend on the phone, aparently hes aranging some guys to come down tommorow to "do-me-in". I'm going to go, hes still my friend, whatever happens tommorow, please pray that i keep my faith and love above all else.

[Believer1997]

Thank you all for your replies. The best thing to come out of this situation is that my faith has grown and i have become closer to the Lord.

I was just speaking to my friends now ex-girlfriend on the phone, aparently hes aranging some guys to come down tommorow to "do-me-in". I'm going to go, hes still my friend, whatever happens tommorow, please pray that i keep my faith and love above all else.

You can care about your friend and pray for him - but really - he's not much of a friend to do what he does to you. The lying, the threatening to "do you in", etc. You deserve better friends -ok?

[MightyIsTheLord]

Thank you all for your replies. The best thing to come out of this situation is that my faith has grown and i have become closer to the Lord.

I was just speaking to my friends now ex-girlfriend on the phone, aparently hes aranging some guys to come down tommorow to "do-me-in". I'm going to go, hes still my friend, whatever happens tommorow, please pray that i keep my faith and love above all else.

You can care about your friend and pray for him - but really - he's not much of a friend to do what he does to you. The lying, the threatening to "do you in", etc. You deserve better friends -ok?

I'm not an expert on scripture, nor am i a smart person, nor a popular person, i dont know alot about anything really but one thing i do know is that our God is a god of love and that love is the most imporant thing here. Jamie is my friend, he can take everything from me, even my life and still i will love him for God is love and jamie is one of his creations. All that is important to me is that i follow Jesus in everything i do, i will love my neighbour and my persecutors, i will pray for them, even help them if they ask it of me. I dont care what happens to my body, just as long as while in my body, i did everything i could to serve the Lord.