Living Together First Can Spoil Marriage, Study Finds

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Living Together First Can Spoil Marriage, Study Finds

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

By Jeanna Bryner

Couples who shack up before tying the knot are more likely to get divorced than their counterparts who don't move in together until marriage, a new study suggests.

Full article here

[pokemaughan]

Imagine that

[Believer1997]

I don't know why they got married to start with if they had problems while they were single... I am more and more convinced that given all the hype and splendor of so many weddings - a lot of people just get married for the 'event' itself and when the confetti clears and they are just left with each other - they don't like each other much at all... That is so sad. Weddings are an industry now...

[andrewthelion]

Living Together First Can Spoil Marriage, Study Finds

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

By Jeanna Bryner

Couples who shack up before tying the knot are more likely to get divorced than their counterparts who don't move in together until marriage, a new study suggests.

Full article here

The sucsess of a Marrage can not be waid in a percentage rate, marrage is as individual as a single human being.the concept of what love is ,differ is each of use , from one end to the other, the problem is that there is no end and sometimes no begining.

[georgedrw81]

I don't know why they got married to start with if they had problems while they were single... I am more and more convinced that given all the hype and splendor of so many weddings - a lot of people just get married for the 'event' itself and when the confetti clears and they are just left with each other - they don't like each other much at all... That is so sad. Weddings are an industry now...

Had more problems with the wife before getting married than after.

Blessings

[Guest]

.... I am more and more convinced that given all the hype and splendor of so many weddings - a lot of people just get married for the 'event' itself and when the confetti clears and they are just left with each other - they don't like each other much at all... That is so sad. Weddings are an industry now ....

.... Had more problems with the wife before getting married than after ....

Finely Got The Wax Out Do She?

(After 40 Years, Carol's Still Working On Mine )

[write2witness]

Living together is considered fornication. It's also what everyone else in the world does, but we are called out to be separate from the world. So I would say set a Godly example and live apart until you are married.

[Guest savvykate]

Living together before marriage is super popular right now. I first noticed the trend earlier this year around graduation. Most of my friends are like me. We're planning on going to college in the fall so there is a lot of talk about living arrangements. Nearly everybody is planning on living in dorms if they are continuing to university but even that isn't as safe as it sounds. The college I'm attending is girls only so no problems here, but many state schools and even nominal Christian schools are encouraging co-ed living. At the mildest, there are single sex floors, like all guys are on the first floor, women on the second, but one friend of mine will be living in a dorm where every other room is divided, so she'll have males on either side of her room, though her roommate is female. There are also co-ed rooms available at some of the schools friends of mine are going, and these are good schools, well known state schools, but students can select to share a room with their boyfriend/girlfriend or even with a complete stranger of the opposite sex. Bathrooms are also co-ed in a few places. I have several friends whose parents are encouraging them to attend large colleges because of the programs offered but who are fighting school policies that require freshman to live on campus, since they just don't think the living arrangements are safe or moral. Single sex dorms are apparently really rare and hard to get into, and girls who choose them are teased about being lesbians. I don't understand this at all because it seems like those schools are pushing students to live together which could result in a lot of trouble. Even if you're not living with a boyfriend, being surrounded by boys who share your suite, your hall and your bathroom? That's asking for a problem! I'm very grateful that the Lord has directed me to a single sex school. Even though I like having guys as friends it would be very creepy to have to share a living space in any way with a boy. There are also policies at a lot of places, even mine, allowing girls to have boys in their rooms or the other way round. At my school it's pretty strict, but some schools guys can be in your room with the door closed, no chaperones, until midnight or later, even all night. What's going on with a guy that you need him in your room, door shut, spending the night? Not studying.

I'm not surprised about that study at all, either. How can a couple living together, presumably being sexually active before marriage or at least finding themselves in uncomfortable situations (forgetting to knock before going into the bathroom!) be pure of mind, heart and body? That's going to inspire lust or curiosity. How can they go from that into a God-blessed marriage?

Edited July 21, 2009 by savvykate

[nebula]

Welcome to the Board, Kate!

Wow - that's scary.

[BethanyLove]

I don't like the argument "You may be in love, but if living together causes chaos, maybe marriage isn't the best." Living together isn't the main foundation of a marital relationship, it's also maturity, chemistry, and committment. If you're positive that you've found your true love that you want to be with them for the rest of your life, you're probably going to be able to live with them just fine.

I don't think that living together should determine whether you're right for each other. If you're truly in love, I'm sure you could manage.