Friends

[rockswillcryout]

What is your definition of a friend?

Is it based on the amount of time spent together?

Is it based on how long you've known them?

Is it based on how close you feel to them?

Is it based on mutal respect?

Is it based on "you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours"?

Is it based on whether or not they are there for you when you need them?

How would you define a friend?

[jamie]

s it based on how close you feel to them?

Yep

[kittyjo]

When I think of frienship, I think of...

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

I think these are the attributes we should be seeking in finding a true friend or being a true friend.

A Friend Is...

~ Author Unknown

A friend is a person whom you want to have near when you are dying. And whom you like to be with while you are living; To whom you spontaneously turn for help when you are in trouble. And who is the first to hear the good news when you have good fortune; Whose counsel you seek when you are perplexed. And whose congratulations you welcome when the perplexity is solved; In whom you can confide the secret you want no other living soul to know. Yet will never pry into your heart to discover whether there are any more secrets to be revealed; On whom you can lean when your heart aches. But who will never take advantage of your leaning; Who will get down on his knees beside you when you are down. And forget that he did so when you are on your feet again; And whose shoulder you can weep when you are sad. And with whom you enjoy laughing when you are glad; Who has a tear on his cheek when you suffer. And a twinkle in his eye when the sun shines on you again; Who has pain in his tone when you are in distress. And melody in his voice when your heart is gay; Who admires you for your strong points. But loves you in spite of your weak ones; Who can laugh at your foibles. Without despising you for having them; Who makes allowance for your limitations. Without allowing them to obscure your talents; Who is proud of you when fortune favors you. But not ashamed of you when you fail; Who contributes to your success without claiming any share in it. Who can feel and show satisfaction when you please him. But never resentment when you disappoint him; Who will tell you the truth even when it hurts. And to whom you can tell the truth without his taking offense; Who is not ashamed to ask you a favor even at the risk of being imposed upon. Who can extend a helping hand and lighten your load Without expecting any other reward than having had the privilege of so doing; Who gives all he can whenever he can. Without ever keeping a record of what he has given; Who says the best about you when everybody else is saying the worst. Any person needs at least four such friends; Every person owes it to himself to be such a friend to at least four fellow humans. God help me to be such a friend.

Edited July 22, 2004 by kittyjo

[Guest LadyC]

good post, kittyjo!

[Guest freebird]

the amount of time spent together

how long you've known them

how close you feel to them

mutal respect

"you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours"

that covers it

[Guest CaptainMandolin]

Yeah that is a good definition. That is pretty much what I thought a friend to be. Although you will hardly ever meet a person like that. Pretty much a friend to me is someone I respect and is always there for me. A person I really love but I wouldn't say how much I love them because it might sound wierd to them.

[Guest freebird]

i have to agree, they r very rare. i consider myself to be lucky to have 3 friends that i trust my life with

[Trinity]

A friend is a person whom you want to have near when you are dying. And whom you like to be with while you are living; To whom you spontaneously turn for help when you are in trouble. And who is the first to hear the good news when you have good fortune; Whose counsel you seek when you are perplexed. And whose congratulations you welcome when the perplexity is solved; In whom you can confide the secret you want no other living soul to know. Yet will never pry into your heart to discover whether there are any more secrets to be revealed; On whom you can lean when your heart aches. But who will never take advantage of your leaning; Who will get down on his knees beside you when you are down.

So true!

[rafter]

If one expects to have friends like that, then I think they should show theirselves to be that kind of friend themselves.

In other words if you want friends then show yourselve friendly...........

Be the kind of person you would like to be friends with...........

[Work in Progress]

I define it - reliable. You can always feel safe with a true friend. No matter what, you will always be accepted by them, whether they agree with you or not, whether they aren't happy with you at the moment, no matter what - they have their arms open to you. A real friend is loyal. That doesn't mean that they agree all the time, or don't criticize lovingly, it means that they stay true to you even during those times.