Marriage...Abuse

[FaithfulFollower]

However, it is written within the word that a man is to love his wife as he does his own body. Abuse in any way, shape, or form is a breaking of that and in a sense proves that his love is not true to himself but to his wife, and most importantly to the Lord. So in a sense this would be very much a case of unfaithfulness.

Yod,

Did I not state that abuse was wrong in my post above and that I felt it was also a sign of unfaithfulness?

I agree with you on your statement that any man that strikes a woman is a coward. Though I am not certain that I agree with you on your view as to a woman's responsibility within a marriage. For it clearly states within the New Testament in the book of Ephesians that a wife is to submit to her husband in everything. This does not mean that I am saying a woman should bow down and let her husband strike her down or do with her as he wishes for it is also written that a man should love his wife as he does himself. Though there could be a piece or two of the puzzle that I may have over looked when it comes to the verses about marriage written within the scripture.

The verses which I have just mentioned that I feel give a good example of what a man as well as a woman's role within a good marriage are found in Ephesians 5:21-28.

Ephesians 5:21-28Further you will submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord. For a husband is of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior. As the church submits to Christ, so you wibes must submit to your husbands in everything. And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed for the church. He gave his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God's word. He did this to present herself to him as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they do their own bodies. For a man is actually loving themselves when loving his wife.

With Love In Christ,

Danielle

[Guest yod]

Though I am not certain that I agree with you on your view as to a woman's responsibility within a marriage.

here's my point.

If a man is physically beating his wife then who is going to stop it? Him?

Not until he is confronted with his problem in such a way that he has to. If that woman loves that man, she will not just endure it. She will force the issue.

Anytime we "force the issue" there must be consequences. The last resort...yet the ultimate answer...is to leave this sorry excuse for a husband if he does not repent and become a mench (yiddish for righteous man)

[FaithfulFollower]

Yod,

I can understand the point you are trying to make here and truthfully a woman should speak to a brother or sister in Christ when she has been wronged, especailly if she has been so by her spouse. No woman should simply submit to her husband's wrong doing. For in doing so she would be denying her own faith in the Lord. So I can understand your point and find it quite valid. Thanks for your input on this, it is much appreciated.

With Love In Christ,

Danielle