How can I...

[NewToChrist]

So theres this guy his name is Ben and he is everything I admire and I know he likes me but I can't tell him I like him too. I've put it to god many times but everytime I see ben I get all flustered and dizzy like a little schoolgirl. Its pathetic but idk what to do. with me being sick and not knowing everyday is a blessing and if god is sending me Ben to better myself and maybe even fall in love. how come i cant just step up and tell ben? i hate having to ask for help but i cant handle this one on my own, any advise?

I am a man, and believe me, he is feeling the same. How does he tell you? He really wants to, just as you do, so you are both up the same creek without paddles.

It's the fear of rejection that we fear most.

Remember the things we fear the most have not happened yet! Think about it. The things we used to fear are in the past, and only the future lies ahead. So what do we actually fear? Fear itself.....

Is God sending you Ben to better yourself? NO, no, no. Only you, through the Holy Spirit, and the word, can better yourself! Ben would be a nice addition in this walk, but he cannot better you! (He can make it more fun though...)

Some things we do, we just have to do, without waiting on God when we are undecided. Pray about it, go and tell Ben you feel that he likes you, and you would like to see where this takes both of you.

And then trust in the Lord, through prayer, that the relationship goes down the road you would wish.....

Remember, if you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space....

Just do it!

thank you all for the great advise, i would have done all of these things but i was sheepish and slow. HE BEAT ME TO THE PUNCH! he came to visit me and prayed for me for a long time, told me he liked me, had never felt love outside of christ and his own mother but is pretty sure it could be love he feels for me and before i could say anything he kissed me! not a huge adult kiss more like a school kid crush in 2nd grade by the swings kind of small but beautiful kiss. we both just sat on my bed for the longest time not saying anything til he opened my bible and started reading 1 John. i thought it was awkward until he read it outloud to me. we're not exactly sure where this will take us but we've hung out alot more since then, we havent kissed again ( i think due to mutual embarassment) but ive been alot happier, still alot of pain, but my general moods have been so much better. i think this is good for both of us. anyways, id better head out its almost midnight!!!

[ladypeartree]

ohhh I am SO glad I am no longer young enough to go through all that agony

[Shiloh62]

So theres this guy his name is Ben and he is everything I admire and I know he likes me but I can't tell him I like him too. I've put it to god many times but everytime I see ben I get all flustered and dizzy like a little schoolgirl. Its pathetic but idk what to do. with me being sick and not knowing everyday is a blessing and if god is sending me Ben to better myself and maybe even fall in love. how come i cant just step up and tell ben? i hate having to ask for help but i cant handle this one on my own, any advise?

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Why can't you tell him? You seem to show strong direction as far as advise in your 2nd paragraph, but seem lost in your first, so somewhere in there, you have it.

[Fez]

So theres this guy his name is Ben and he is everything I admire and I know he likes me but I can't tell him I like him too. I've put it to god many times but everytime I see ben I get all flustered and dizzy like a little schoolgirl. Its pathetic but idk what to do. with me being sick and not knowing everyday is a blessing and if god is sending me Ben to better myself and maybe even fall in love. how come i cant just step up and tell ben? i hate having to ask for help but i cant handle this one on my own, any advise?

I am a man, and believe me, he is feeling the same. How does he tell you? He really wants to, just as you do, so you are both up the same creek without paddles.

It's the fear of rejection that we fear most.

Remember the things we fear the most have not happened yet! Think about it. The things we used to fear are in the past, and only the future lies ahead. So what do we actually fear? Fear itself.....

Is God sending you Ben to better yourself? NO, no, no. Only you, through the Holy Spirit, and the word, can better yourself! Ben would be a nice addition in this walk, but he cannot better you! (He can make it more fun though...)

Some things we do, we just have to do, without waiting on God when we are undecided. Pray about it, go and tell Ben you feel that he likes you, and you would like to see where this takes both of you.

And then trust in the Lord, through prayer, that the relationship goes down the road you would wish.....

Remember, if you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space....

Just do it!

thank you all for the great advise, i would have done all of these things but i was sheepish and slow. HE BEAT ME TO THE PUNCH! he came to visit me and prayed for me for a long time, told me he liked me, had never felt love outside of christ and his own mother but is pretty sure it could be love he feels for me and before i could say anything he kissed me! not a huge adult kiss more like a school kid crush in 2nd grade by the swings kind of small but beautiful kiss. we both just sat on my bed for the longest time not saying anything til he opened my bible and started reading 1 John. i thought it was awkward until he read it outloud to me. we're not exactly sure where this will take us but we've hung out alot more since then, we havent kissed again ( i think due to mutual embarassment) but ive been alot happier, still alot of pain, but my general moods have been so much better. i think this is good for both of us. anyways, id better head out its almost midnight!!!

Wonderful!

Now for some more advice.

Less kissing and more bible.

Then watch it work out for the good

Blessings