I Am In Serious Trouble!

[wfcamb]

Hello There,

I am very much ashamed to say that when I was only 14 years old, I got hooked on pornography... I don't know what to do.. This is hindering my walk with God and also schooling and family relationships. This has also just about completely numbed my mind. I have tried so hard to rid myself of this but have failed over and over. I prayed to God for help, but I feel like He has not responded or hasn't heard me. Please, I need some help... I was thinking maybe there was a free internet/email filter somewhere, but I haven't found any yet. Again, Please, I need some help.

[Guest koppen]

First question is :

DO YOU KNOW THE LORD? ARE YOU SAVED?

[godrulz]

You have taken the first step by recognizing your problem. There are no easy solutions, and it may be a struggle.

- confession, repentance, renewed obedience, prayer, Word, fellowship, etc. are basic principles, but not always an instant cure.

- practical matters include only using the computer when parents are around, filters (not perfect), etc.

- accountability may be the only way to freedom. A counselor or pastor can help get at root issues (abuse, insecurity, hurt, etc.). A 12-step program has principles for alcoholism, sexual addiction, gambling addiction, etc. We are an addictive society.

- God in Jesus is the ultimate hope for freedom and deliverance. Practical matters are also helpful.

- you are not alone in your struggle...many people, including Christians and teens, struggle...it would have been easier to not get addicted, but there is hope. It is worth overcoming with God's help and discipline.

[Shelby]

You are definitely in our prayers. I encourage you to try and stay around other people. This is a secret type of thing, and when you are with a bunch of people you tend to not focus on that, plus the accountability. GBU

Shelby

[WayneB]

Hello There,

I am very much ashamed to say that when I was only 14 years old, I got hooked on pornography... I don't know what to do.. This is hindering my walk with God and also schooling and family relationships. This has also just about completely numbed my mind. I have tried so hard to rid myself of this but have failed over and over. I prayed to God for help, but I feel like He has not responded or hasn't heard me. Please, I need some help... I was thinking maybe there was a free internet/email filter somewhere, but I haven't found any yet. Again, Please, I need some help.

Bless you! It takes a lot of courage to face our weaknesses and I commend you for your desire to change.

Many of us have had the same problem. I do NOT know of any free filters but one of the best is BSAFE promoted by by The American Family Association.

BSAFE

It is only $50 a year...and by using it for the one year, the addiction can be broken? You would be surprised at the number of clergy who struggle with the very thing that you are struggling with. You are NOT alone.

Get the filter...sure $50 sounds like a lot but haven't we all wasted at least that much over a year? Then continue to pray to God for help and focus your attention onto other things...such as participating in the discussions here at Worthy, studying your Bible, getting invloved at Church and so on.

Be Blessed,

Wayne

[other one]

Try the 12 step process that AA uses to fight alcohol addiction. Porn addiction has many of the same basic mental needs as does alcohol. I know many people that has used this approach to help.

Sam

[AllforJesustheLord]

Hello There,

I am very much ashamed to say that when I was only 14 years old, I got hooked on pornography... I don't know what to do.. This is hindering my walk with God and also schooling and family relationships. This has also just about completely numbed my mind. I have tried so hard to rid myself of this but have failed over and over. I prayed to God for help, but I feel like He has not responded or hasn't heard me. Please, I need some help... I was thinking maybe there was a free internet/email filter somewhere, but I haven't found any yet. Again, Please, I need some help.

I suggest you fast, and pray, and if you can not choose to do what is right, then I suggest you try to find some other thing, to comfort you which is not so bad as that. Maybe you could drink alittle alcohol every once in a while to help you, but if that would lead you to do other things which are hurtful to you, then please do not do that. Maybe you could find a movie which is not so bad, and watch that instead, I mean there may be violence, and maybe some sexual things, but not people getting naked, and preferably not people having sexual relations, submit to God, and humble yourself, and you will not even need these things, because if you believe in Christ then you can do all good things through Him, you are not alone, so have faith, and go to the next level of faith by talking to God through Jesus Christ, come boldly unto the throne of grace, for grace, and mercy in time of need. Through His blood we are saved, and through His Spirit we are saved.

[wfcamb]

Thank you all for your quick response... In answer to the first question, yes, I accepted Christ at the age of 9, strayed away and came back to Christ at age 14 (after the porno thing had already started). I have not turned away since that time. This struggle has been going on for a little over 4 years. I will say this, that I have not said a word about my struggles to any person. Due to past relationships I don't really have any true friends. Yes, I know Christ is my friend, and I think He is the only reason I haven't given up yet.

"Saved by Grace" - Now, about the filters... The reason why I said 'free' is because I currently do not have a job. Basically, I have no money. The money I had was used in helping out a family member who was in need. If I had money, I probably would spend the $50 for it.

"other one" - As for the 12 step processes, it may work for some, however, I do not think that will work on me (can't really explain why).

"Shelby" - I have noticed that staying around others does help. I just hadn't noticed it until you mentioned it.

"godrulz" - Talking to a pastor, I think, would not be a good idea for me. Yes, I do see how talking would help, but there is just no way I can. Like I said earlier, I've had bad experiences with friendships & realationships.

Thank you for your prayers and for the help... It is taking a lot for me to share this...

[Guest Amaze]

Hello There,

I am very much ashamed to say that when I was only 14 years old, I got hooked on pornography... I don't know what to do.. This is hindering my walk with God and also schooling and family relationships. This has also just about completely numbed my mind. I have tried so hard to rid myself of this but have failed over and over. I prayed to God for help, but I feel like He has not responded or hasn't heard me. Please, I need some help... I was thinking maybe there was a free internet/email filter somewhere, but I haven't found any yet. Again, Please, I need some help.

I know you have prayed about this and that is what you need to do. But God is not going to do it for you.

You have to act and be disciplined. You have to be aware and strong. God will help you, but only if you can help yourself.

Keep praying. God will provide ways for you to defeat this, but there has to be action on your part.

God luck and God bless you.

[wfcamb]

I know you have prayed about this and that is what you need to do. But God is not going to do it for you.

You have to act and be disciplined. You have to be aware and strong. God will help you, but only if you can help yourself.

Keep praying. God will provide ways for you to defeat this, but there has to be action on your part.

God luck and God bless you.

If no action has been going on, then I wouldn't be on this forum asking for help... Why do you think I am asking if there are any free internet filters? I have tried, that is the whole point. Yeah, I can see where you are coming from if I haven't tried to discipline myself. But the thing is, I have tried, and utterly failed.

Thank you for sharing...