a question about restoration

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We love you Heather :hug: and so does Jesus :il: Jesus had a special love for children and He said what Catsmeow quoted. You just have to know that He cares deeply for the ones who have had their little souls smashed by the evil acts of the depraved. He Can and Will sustain you through your pain just have faith that He loves you dearly, Believe in Him and He will never abandon you.

All Praise The Ancient Of Days

[John3;16]

Heather

You did not commit the sin, your Father did, and he is supposed to be your image of the Father in heaven, so you may be grappling with the uncertainty of Gods Love, and the ability to accept his love, but God does love you, and he wants to restore you, and make you whole, but realize that he does allow suffering in our lives, which makes us more like Christ, I recommend that you seek a good Christian counselor that will help you work through these issues, and help you to heal, sometimes we need guidance from someone who is trained in ministering to others, because even though we here, may have your best interest at heart, we may not have the experience or training to truly help you work through this, but we can pray and hopefully encourage you through this, and I want to say that I am sorry that you were abused, and I do pray that the Lord will heal you, and allow you to feel and know his love he has for you, it is important to receive counseling so that you can develop a healthy relationship with any future spouse.

I hope this is of some help.

In His Name!

[wondering04]

You are right, it is hard to separate my earthly father from God the Father. I can deal with God the creator but God the loving Father is harder to deal with. You are right about a good Christian counselor. My pastor is a Christian Couselor, and I do speak with him regarding these issues on a regular basis. Believe it or not, I have come a long way from where I was two years ago, but there is still much to go.

Thanks for your prayers and love, I really do need them.

Heather

[Guest Philip James]

HI Heather,

May the peace of our Lord, the peace that only God can give, fill your heart and mind.

I am sorry for your pain. My wife had a similar experience with her uncle, and it took many years to overcome it. It sounds to me like you are well on your way to dealing with this. I hope you have a loving and understanding husband, as this can be very trying on your marriage

I do have one question/suggestion for you... Have you forgiven your father for his actions? We found in dealing with this that the last and most difficult step was letting go of the anger and bitterness and truly forgiving the offender.

May the God of Love heal you and may the Lord Jesus Christ bless you and your family abundently!

Peace and Love!

PJ

[seraph]

wondering04 (Heather), my prayers are with you... that you may be filled with immeasurable joy, peace and love. I agree with the need to forgive. When you forgive someone from your heart... sincerely... and let go of it and give it to God... that burden in your heart is lifted.

You can place your trust in the promise that nothing can separate you from the love of God. The Father of Compassion loves you with an unfailing love, Heather.

Romans 8:35,37-39

35 Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?

37 But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us.

38 For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers,

39 nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

The phrase "overwhelmingly conquer" in Romans 8:37 (NAS) comes from the Greek word, "hupernikao," which means: to be more than a conqueror, to gain a surpassing victory. Heather, you can more than conquer this... you can have a surpassing victory over this... because He loves you unconditionally.

Joshua 23:14

"Now behold, today I am going the way of all the earth, and you know in all your hearts and in all your souls that not one word of all the good words which the LORD your God spoke concerning you has failed; all have been fulfilled for you, not one of them has failed."

[wondering04]

Dear PJ and GloryBe, forgiveness is necessary. My parents were long dead before I came to Christ and realized that I needed to forgive them. I have been forgiving them and it is a process. It seems that time after time there are roots of bitterness that I find. It is tough to root out all of them, so I can only deal with them one by one. PJ I am sorry that your wife had to deal with these issues. It is so difficult when the person who does the abuse is one that you should be able to trust.

You are right, at times it is difficult in our marriage, but fortunately this time around I married a man who is sweet, loving and a good father. I am blessed that way. My first marriage was pretty much someone who looked like my father but was nicer, just not there for me. He has since died of drugs and diabetes.

Seraph, thanks for your prayer. I am working hard at trusting God. Trust does not come easy for me, even with God. See, he may be more than able to conquer things, but will He? From my point of view, he could have conqured my father and made him stop, but didn't. I am still stuck with some really unanswerable questions like, why didn't God stop my father (did he love the abuser more than me?), why didn't God kill me or my father to stop the problem (maybe that would have been the better solution), why didn't God comfort me in the midst of what was going on? why did God care more about my father's free will rather than my free will of not wanting to be hurt? Can I trust a God who abandoned me then? How can I believe He will help now? I try to trust, but needless to say there are many things that I still shield from myself, God and others. I cannot afford to be hurt again, and frankly, I am afraid to test God. What if I ask God to help me in this and He doesn't? Then where do I turn? There is nowhere else. My back is against the wall, I feel trapped and scared.

So many questions, so few answers.

Heather