How do I get a tender heart again (unharden heart)?

[enoob57]

Biscuit, if you hold on to any bitterness about things in your life you will be hardened.

It will not go away until you tell God what you are bitter about and ask Him to help you let go of that bitterness.

Like other one I now find myself crying in places others would think I am crazy for. God has given me a heart

that is tender and sometimes the tears come at the least desirable times, nevertheless I am grateful to Him and

can never get enough of His filling.

I pray that where grace can find a way that you find love, forgiveness, compassion and a tender heart, for Christ's sake.

[[hugs]]

Thank you, joi. I lost my Mom, wife, job recently and some other things happened. You may be right. I tried to forgive everyone (including God). It's hard to tell if I am bitter. I don't trust my feelings or my heart, so maybe I am.

You are correct in doubting yourself for the very things we cling to are ...? God should be the answer in everything...

As this is seen in the direct exposition of Christ and the Scriptures

Mk 12:30-31

30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.'

This is the first commandment. 31 And the second, like it, is this: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'

There is no other commandment greater than these."

NKJV

then all that should remain in us is the Love we hold for God as this we seek for our neighbor as well...

It is sin to possess as ours! All things belong to God for His Pleasure... When a soul comes into the overwhelming

reality of The One we may possess forever then 'IS' the greatest surety of non-loss -> What God keeps 'IS' value 'AND' what He discards

is worthless. Our job is to rest in this above even in our own attachments- for there are both the keeping and discarding even within us...

For if your heart cannot say there lies within me perfect peace- then you are in error in the arrangement of yourself in priorities!

Sing the song of salvation with me ... Isa 26 Love, Steven

[Jayyycuuup]

Biscuit, if you hold on to any bitterness about things in your life you will be hardened.

It will not go away until you tell God what you are bitter about and ask Him to help you let go of that bitterness.

Like other one I now find myself crying in places others would think I am crazy for. God has given me a heart

that is tender and sometimes the tears come at the least desirable times, nevertheless I am grateful to Him and

can never get enough of His filling.

I pray that where grace can find a way that you find love, forgiveness, compassion and a tender heart, for Christ's sake.

[[hugs]]

Thank you, joi. I lost my Mom, wife, job recently and some other things happened. You may be right. I tried to forgive everyone (including God). It's hard to tell if I am bitter. I don't trust my feelings or my heart, so maybe I am.

Hello Buscuit,

A lot of what you explain above comes into terms with what your experiencing currently. Shamefully I have been in that same predicament of feeling like everything is lost, as of recently I have come under the same test. You live and you learn, but currently I have been holding on to the most promising thing that I have encountered in the bible (besides Salvation) and that is found in Romans 8:28-31 "And we know that ALL things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be firstborn among many brethren. Moreover whom He predestined, He also called; whom He called, these He also justified; and whom He justified, these he also glorified. What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us whom can be against us?" With tragedy, every tragedy, there is a miracle, a shining miracle at the end. As the world appears to be falling apart, our own world clashing with warfare's; spiritual warfare's. God remains constant and heeds our prayers and our cries; He keeps His promises ! Yes; every one of them, blessed be His name, and for this we can be confident in saying and praising Him in everything, knowing that there will be good that comes out of it !

Hebrews 3:8 "Do not harden your hearts as in the rebellion, on the day of testing in the wilderness" Resist the devil, and lift up the name of our glorious God. Although our troubles are many; Christ has overcome the world ! Withstand your tribulation and be strong in the Lord. Be lead by the spirit and strive with all of you, reach out your hand as far as you can and the Lord will fill in the gap with His love, might and holiness.

Mathew 24:35 "Heaven and Earth will pass away but, My words will not pass away" Hold on to the promises that the Lord our God breathed out, for these will keep you. The Lord is our Hope, be in this Hope and remain in it. What man cannot do; God can. Cry out to Him day and night, be patient but confident that your help will come. Don't give up!

Ezekiel 36:26 "And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh" Maybe something to pray upon. . . . . . . . . .

Philemon 1:25 "The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit Amen."

~There is no one like our God we will praise Him !~

[nebula]

Hi Biscuit -

I'm preaching to myself with this, but I am thinking something that would help is to get into the habit of being thankful. Every morning, thank the Lord for what you have - even if you aren't satisfied with these things (i.e. my car is very old and has some issues, but it runs well, so I can be thankful for my car).

I'm trying to get into this habit myself. But I am thinking it would benefit your heart as well.

[gdemoss]

Hi Biscuit -

I'm preaching to myself with this, but I am thinking something that would help is to get into the habit of being thankful. Every morning, thank the Lord for what you have - even if you aren't satisfied with these things (i.e. my car is very old and has some issues, but it runs well, so I can be thankful for my car).

I'm trying to get into this habit myself. But I am thinking it would benefit your heart as well.

Amen Nebula, I do this everyday beginning with my morning shower where I thank God for soap, hot water, indoor plumbing etc. I take time to thank him for the difficulties in my life and the power he gives me to overcome them or the knowledge of the upcoming deliverance from all that ails. I end up on fire for God when I am truly thankful for ALL things.

A tender heart also comes from recognizing the truth about that which my heart is hardened against. Especially when it comes to people who also have hard hearts. Interceding for them in prayer that the Lord might soften their heart or create in them a clean heart so they won't be so miserable helps me to see them differently. Praying against the principalities and powers, the rulers of darkness in high places also helps me to place the blame where it truly belongs, and that on those who distort the truth through lies without our ever being able to see them.

[Biscuit]

Hi Biscuit -

I'm preaching to myself with this, but I am thinking something that would help is to get into the habit of being thankful. Every morning, thank the Lord for what you have - even if you aren't satisfied with these things (i.e. my car is very old and has some issues, but it runs well, so I can be thankful for my car).

I'm trying to get into this habit myself. But I am thinking it would benefit your heart as well.

My pastor recently preached on praising more and thanking Him more. I have been trying to do so. It is difficult when, most of the time, I am emotionless and feel nothing. I see people at church who are full of joy and their praise and worship is effortless. A song is not needed to "prime" their praise and thanksgiving. I feel I took a wrong turn somewhere in life. I now feel (and am thankful) that I will survive these trials/chastening, but I feel so empty and worldly. And my heart still seems hardened. These recent events helped me to realize how spiritually void that I am, and maybe this is what God wanted me to realize. I will keep trying.

[joi]

God will not fail you Biscuit. You shall arrive soon . . .

[Biscuit]

God will not fail you Biscuit. You shall arrive soon . . .

Joi,

Wanted to add that God was really moving in a recent church service. There were 3 interpretations and I can only recall 2 of them.

(1st one) If my people who are called by My Name will humble themselves, pray, seek My face, if they will turn from their evil ways, I the Lord will hear them and will heal their land. Call upon Me, worship Me, Magnify My glorious Name sayeth the Lord of Hosts, and I will respond to your need.

(2^nd one) “Do not doubt in your heart for u have said I have tried this but the way seems too hard, I say to you, the way of the transgressor is hard, if u will walk in obedience to my word on a daily basis, I the Lord will be your provider and your protector, I will meet your needs and I will supply them, sayeth the Lord.”

I feel the 2nd one was definitely directed at me, since I had almost given up at that point and was mostly laying around on the couch during the day. Something changed recently when the pastor laid hands on me and prayed. I feel different and have trouble going back to sleep in the morning, even if I try....kind of like a heaviness lifted. The pastor discerned something and said that I would be having more good days/stretches. He also said that I have the knowledge in my head but it has to get into my heart.

I am going to keep trying.....I just hope and pray that I get more emotional. I feel like a robot at this point. I also hope I can keep from drifting toward becoming more worldly.

I have hardly any sin in my life at this point (I don't even watch TV or movies any more), other than my thoughts. I have sexual thoughts which I can't seem to control at times. These thoughts are sometimes against God. I don't know if these thoughts come from the enemy or the flesh. You may be right in your PM that I may be bitter.....I may have some unresolved bitterness toward God, or one of my relatives who recently passed away. I hope not. I am going to pray for Him to help "redefine" these emotions since I don't trust my heart/emotions any more and to help me get over any unresolved bitterness.

[Biscuit]

Hi Biscuit -

I'm preaching to myself with this, but I am thinking something that would help is to get into the habit of being thankful. Every morning, thank the Lord for what you have - even if you aren't satisfied with these things (i.e. my car is very old and has some issues, but it runs well, so I can be thankful for my car).

I'm trying to get into this habit myself. But I am thinking it would benefit your heart as well.

Amen Nebula, I do this everyday beginning with my morning shower where I thank God for soap, hot water, indoor plumbing etc. I take time to thank him for the difficulties in my life and the power he gives me to overcome them or the knowledge of the upcoming deliverance from all that ails. I end up on fire for God when I am truly thankful for ALL things.

A tender heart also comes from recognizing the truth about that which my heart is hardened against. Especially when it comes to people who also have hard hearts. Interceding for them in prayer that the Lord might soften their heart or create in them a clean heart so they won't be so miserable helps me to see them differently. Praying against the principalities and powers, the rulers of darkness in high places also helps me to place the blame where it truly belongs, and that on those who distort the truth through lies without our ever being able to see them.

You sound blessed, Gary. I hope I can get to the point that I am "on fire". I took a walk today and was thanking God for the pretty trees, nice weather, flowers, etc. I also thank Him for meals, roof over our head, that my son is doing better, etc. At times, I feel like I am merely saying the words without a lot of emotion behind them.....hard to explain.

[gdemoss]

Hi Biscuit -

I'm preaching to myself with this, but I am thinking something that would help is to get into the habit of being thankful. Every morning, thank the Lord for what you have - even if you aren't satisfied with these things (i.e. my car is very old and has some issues, but it runs well, so I can be thankful for my car).

I'm trying to get into this habit myself. But I am thinking it would benefit your heart as well.

Amen Nebula, I do this everyday beginning with my morning shower where I thank God for soap, hot water, indoor plumbing etc. I take time to thank him for the difficulties in my life and the power he gives me to overcome them or the knowledge of the upcoming deliverance from all that ails. I end up on fire for God when I am truly thankful for ALL things.

A tender heart also comes from recognizing the truth about that which my heart is hardened against. Especially when it comes to people who also have hard hearts. Interceding for them in prayer that the Lord might soften their heart or create in them a clean heart so they won't be so miserable helps me to see them differently. Praying against the principalities and powers, the rulers of darkness in high places also helps me to place the blame where it truly belongs, and that on those who distort the truth through lies without our ever being able to see them.

You sound blessed, Gary. I hope I can get to the point that I am "on fire". I took a walk today and was thanking God for the pretty trees, nice weather, flowers, etc. I also thank Him for meals, roof over our head, that my son is doing better, etc. At times, I feel like I am merely saying the words without a lot of emotion behind them.....hard to explain.

Keep doing it. Feelings follow action. Thank him, thank him and thank him again....repeat.

[nebula]

Biscuit, it is sounding like you might have an endocrine imbalance? Perhaps do a search on hypothyroidism and see if you express the symptoms listed? Or something like that? I know low thyroid can result in depression feelings, or lack there-of.