How can I be saved if Homosexuality has such a strong hold on me?

[Guest shiloh357]

 

I'm gonna try to make this as short as possible

 

I am gay and I know that I was born this way, I remember being gay from as early as 4 years old. Remember that we are born into SIN, and once we are born, we are in the devil's playground. That's why so many babies are born with mental illness, missing body parts and all kinds of horrible things so it is VERY possible to be born gay.

 

 

 

I am going to be very honest with you, Need2BeSaved.   No one is born a homosexual.  Homsexuality is a spiritual problem at its core.   The Bible tells us that homosexuality is a sin and there is no way that God would hardwire you to be that way.  It is true that man is born with a sinful nature.  But all sin is a spiritual problem, not a physiological, psychological or cultural problem.   In your particular case, this spiritual stronghold started at an early age, for reasons that so far, have not been disclosed.   Mental illness and physical handicaps, missing body parts and the like cannot be compared with homosexuality.  Being born with a sinful nature we inherited from adam is not the reason for psychological and physical illness, at least not directly.  We live in a broken world, and in this world, bodies  and minds get sick.  That is just the nature of things in this vale of tears.

 

As a pre-teen and in my early teens, I tried my best to be masculine and I tried so hard to fight this gay BS inside of me, but it never worked. I ended up turning to drugs and all kinds of bad behavior to kind of escape from my reality, the obsessive thoughts and just circumstances of my life. By the time I was 17 I was so drugged up on ecstasy, smoking pot, getting drunk and God knows what else that I just stopped caring about everything. I fell in love with a guy in High School, had a super secret affair, came home one day all drugged up and came out to everybody and decided that on the day, I just really didn't give a __ and I was just going to live my life.

 

 

Long story short, soon after that I started being obsessed with my appearance, with my substance abuse addiction, always trying to look better and better, having to be high on something 24 hours of the day and I ended up snapping. All the depression from my childhood and all the running away from my emotions with the drugs made something in me and my spirit just completely snap. I won't get into the details but I ended up being hospitalized, put under a psychiatric evaluation, diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and then soon after that developing severe Social Anxiety. When I got some of my sanity back and realized all the embarrassing things I did and just everyone I knew witnessing my horrible public breakdown, how thin I got, how insane I was getting... It was the most embarrassing realization ever, and it made me close up to everyone and made so awkward, quiet and cautious and weird around people that I had to drop out of High School.

 

 

Months later I quit the drug abuse, stopped going to therapy and I stopped taking the anti-psychotic medications. I flushed them down the toilet because they made me so numb and so robotic that I didn't even feel human anymore. To this day, I even quit smoking weed because I realized it contributes to my Social Anxiety and haven't smoked not even weed for a week now (the longest I haven't smoked weed in YEARS). And I am getting better and I am getting stronger even when I was told that I would have to be on medication for the rest of my life.

 

So everything else you have tried has failed.  You have tried drugs, alcohol, you have tried sex, and you have tried therapy and medication and up to this point, nothing you have tried has been successful.

 

You have tried everything else you can think of and you have found that nothing you can do in your own strength, and nothing that you can get from other people has worked. Now, how about trying Jesus?   How about turning to Jesus, repenting of your sin and asking Jesus to be the Lord and Savior over your entire life?   How about giving all of your care and struggles to Him?   Jesus died on the cross so that you could be free.  The death of Jesus on the cross paid the penalty for your sin and satisfied God's justice.   He offers you salvation and freedom.   In the Bible, salvation includes the concepts of deliverance, restoration, preservation, healing and security.   Jesus is salvation.  He is the personification of all of those things.  He will deliver you from the power of sin, restore you back to himself, preserve you from hell, bring healing to your body and mind and He will keep you saved and secure.  All He asks of you is that you trust Him.

 

 

 

I realized that I had enough and I want to be FREE. I want to go to God, but how?

 

Jesus said this about Himself:   "I am the Way, the Truth and the Life; no man comes to the Father, but through me.   If you are serious and you truly want to be free, then Jesus is ready and waiting to set you free.   He specializes is delivering people from sin.   It really is simple.  

 

How do I stop the gay sexual urges and how do I kill this superficiality inside of me to be able to break my walls down and turn to God to save me from all this anxiety, Homosexuality and depression? What can I do when I feel like the demons have such a STRONG hold on me?

 

There is nothing in your original post that indicated that you have ever given your heart to Jesus.  Nothing in your post says that you have ever truly been saved.  That is the key to the whole thing.  Without salvation, this demonic stronghold will never be defeated.  You need Jesus.   You can't do this on your own.   He is the only one who can deliver you.   So here is how:

 

1.   The first thing you need to do is recognized that you are sinner.  The Bible says in Rom. 3:23, "for all have sinned and have fallen short of the glory of God."  It means that we have all fallen short of God's standard of righteousness.   None of us are "good" from that perspective.  We are all sinners and we must first acknowledge that God's assessemnt of us is true.

 

2.   We must repent of our sin, once we acknowledge it. God loves each of us, but our sin is what has separated us from God and the next step is to repent of the sin that has separated us from him.   Act. 17:30 tells us that God is calling all men everywhere to repent.  The word "repent" means to  turn around and go in the opposite direction.   You need to repent thoroughly from all of the sin that you know displeases God, including homosexuality.

 

3. The next step is to believe the Gospel of salvation.   The Bible says this:   "That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved."  (Romans 10: 9-13)

 

This passage tells us that with the heart man believes unto righteousness.  That means that the minute we truly believe from the heart that Jesus died for us, that He rose from the dead, the minute your heart says, "yes' to Jesus we are saved.  The outgrowth of true salvation is that our "confession," meaning both our words and our lives will reflect the belief in our heart.   He says that the one who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.  God is rich in salvation to everyone who trusts in Him. 

 

The best part of the whole thing is that when we trust in Jesus for salvation, He restores us and recreates us into something new (II Cor. 5:17) He changes and transforms us.  We can't change ourselves. At best all we can do is temporarily reform our behavior, but Jesus comes and lives within us in the Person of His Holy Spirit and it is the Holy Spirit who empowers us to live in victory over temptation and free of condemnation over our past.  He is the one who dwells in us to remind us that we truly belong to God. He is an internal witness to our salvation (Rom. 8:16, 17).

 

The thing is that Jesus wants to set you free, but you must come to Him on HIS terms, not your own.   Jesus sets the terms of the relationship.  He is both Savior and LORD over your life.   To be Lord means that He is in control.   He is the one we run to when we are tempted and even when we falter and stumble as believers.   Being a Christian doesn't mean that you will never sin or fail.  It means that the grace and forgiveness is there to pick you up and help you get back on track.

 

Becoming a Christian is really simple.   Just ask Him and really mean it from your heart.  Here is an example:

 

"Lord Jesus,  I know that I am a sinner.  I know I have failed you.  I believe your word which tells me that I stand before you under the dominion of sin and the curse that sin brings with it.   Jesus, I repent of my sin.  I am so sorry for how I have lived and the things I have done.   I renounce all of sin.  I repent of it and turn from it completely.  Please forgive me of all of my sins.  Jesus, please come into my heart and be my Savior and Lord.  I don't want to live in sin anymore.   Jesus, I give my heart to you. I give my whole life over to you.  Make me the person you want me to be.  Save me and make me new.   Take up residence in my heart.  I put you on the throne of my life.  

 

Thank you for saving me and making clean and new.    In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen."

 

That's all you need to do.  The next step after that is to get plugged into a local church and find a good translation of the Bible that you can read.   I would also advise you to that you get under the covering a local church pastor and tell him about your past and he can guide you and help you find a good Christian counselor and some discipleship that wil help you grow in the faith and keep you strong.   No man is an island in the Kingdom of God.   You need other believers to build you up and sharpen you. 

[missmuffet]

God does not create a person with homosexual desires. The Bible tells us that people become homosexuals because of sin (Romans 1:24-27) and ultimately because of their own choice. A person may be born with a greater susceptibility to homosexuality, just as some people are born with a tendency to violence and other sins. That does not excuse the person’s choosing to sin by giving in to sinful desires. If a person is born with a greater susceptibility to anger/rage, does that make it right for him to give into those desires? Of course not! The same is true with homosexuality.


Read more: http://www.gotquestions.org/homosexuality-Bible.html#ixzz2saQRSCCF

[MorningGlory]

Hello, Need2BeSaved, and welcome to Worthy.  I won't pretend to be an expert on the type of problem you write about (and very eloquently, I might add!) but I CAN tell you without any doubt that you are NOT superficial.  You would not be reaching out to God if you were.  Nor are you the first to experience seemingly insurmountable problems.  Yours is no worse than the things that afflict most of us.  We are ALL sinners and we all need God.  Lay everything you wrote at the foot of the Cross and let Him deal with it.  Pray like you've never prayed before and trust the Lord to lead you.  I will pray for you as well. 

[Sedoy]

Satan’s modus operandi

Just recently realized what is the tool with which Satan controls humans. He does not have to give something to control a person, he just has to stop giving something he already does.

Just that simple!

All the days of your life one experiences oppression, depression, dissatisfaction.... where does it all come from? It comes from Satan. Then one comes across some kind of sin, sinful behavior and... wow! …all that pressure is momentarily lifted. Person feels awesome, released and starts thinking ... it feels so awesome, and natural, I must be "born this way!" Deeper and deeper into the sin he goes chasing that naturally free feeling which now comes at the higher and higher price, of more and more heavily sinful behavior.

One can find another "thing", another behavior, another sin that makes you feel good. Satan gladly trades one sin for another, only God truly sets free.

[Brian_Michael]

Howdy!

 

I am still unlearning a lot of what I have been learning over the last 5 years or so, so that I could get away from what man thinks is acceptable and stop living for man, but for God.

 

If there is one thing that I could add is that sin is sin.  There is no sin greater than the other (aside from blaspheming against the Holy Spirit) and even though those who are born again are dead to sin, we are still tempted and still give into sin.  Homosexuality is no different than any other sin and those who tell you otherwise (according to scripture) are wrong.  As humans, we try and comprehend sin based on merits that make us uncomfortable or how 'bad' the sin is.  When people try and define what 'bad' is, it's what man has defined as 'bad' based on whatever man made scale we have made up for its definition instead of turning to the Bible to see that all sin is equally bad and one not greater than another.

 

The media has used homosexuality to destroy and embarrass Christianity saying that we hate homosexuals.  This is not further from the truth.  We love homosexuals, it is acting on the sexual immorality that Christians do not like; just like those who fornicate outside of marriage, commit adultery, steal, are drunkards, are prideful, lustful, vengeful, etc.

 

I hope this helped at least a little.

[Rakael]

I really do feel for you Need2BeSaved! Everything you told is so heartbreaking. I wish I had the answer but I don't think I do. I hope these next few lines are gonna help you a little.

 

Jesus has come down and died for everyone that believes in his glory, that believes that he is the son of God and that believe that he is our salvation. Jesus came down so he would take ALL our sins, each and every one of them and erase them so we wouldn't be sinful again, so we would be saved.

He wants to relieve you of the heaviness of them, of the pain it causes you. I think that we are not perfect and that we cannot be, we want to be and we make little efforts everyday to be worthy of his love (although his love is unconditional and is given freely whether you want it or not) and I think just doing that everyday deserves acknowledgment and love.

You are really sincere in all you say and you really touched me so imagine God looking at you, him whose love we cannot even comprehend, a love that is unconditional, unchanging and the purest of all. God is looking at you and he is saying "I love you my child! You are worthy of me, you will be with me when this world is over and your suffering will end and you will not suffer ever again. Be strong and believe in me always because the only thing I am waiting for is for you to stand before me so I can hold you and give you eternal joy and happiness."

 

With what I leant from the bible I know that it repeats over and over again to walk away from our sins, to never do it again but there is also a very interesting moment in there too, when one of the disciples ask Jesus what he should do if somebody comes to them asking for forgiveness over and over again after having repeated the same sin. Jesus then says to forgive the person. No matter how many times people sin, how many times we sincerely ask for forgiveness, Jesus forgives us and that's what should always be with you. This world is hard, this world is tempting, this world will win at times but it will never win over Jesus and therefore over you. Be blessed!!!! With all my heart I hope I helped you ease a bit of the pain! God bless you in all your endeavors!!

[Edify]

How? Probably by the same standards by which God is saving other Christians who continue to sin in every which way?

[blindwhale]

Dear friend,

 

I know exactly what you are going through, and I want to assure you it is not all your fault. The feelings inside of you are from your inner femininity. Unfortunately when you become unchaste, the temptation to act upon your lustful desires is amplified. The use of drugs can also significantly feed this craving, especially stimulants.

 

The problem is your lust. You can make the decision to stop, but it may not be in your ability to become a straight man. However you can make a stance anytime and refrain from all sexual activity. Just because someone is homosexual doesn't mean they need to go out and have adulterous relations.

 

With that said, I will also remind you the affliction of homosexuality in today's world is from overall disobedience by many. A man and woman should be submissive and humble in their ways, but because many are not they instead exalt aggression and defile the meek around them that have a low self-esteem.

 

The world's view on idolizing a masculine and dominant man is a falsehood and is the exact opposite image in which Christ displayed through His subtle nature. There is nothing wrong with being submissive in nature, but the problem arises when you surrender this nature through sexual immorality.

 

It is possible to overcome homosexuality, believe it or not. I have witnessed the works of the Spirit in this manner. You must first take the steps to begin the process and follow obediently, or else you'll be left as you are.

 

1) Refrain from people that commit adultery

2) Remove any tools which may allow pornographic contents from your home

3) Read the Word of God and repent and pray for help while showing you're willing to give up your lusts

4) If you follow and obey, you will rediscover your attraction to females when you develop the correct mindset, obtaining that same feeling of submission you have, but to females

 

The problem with many men today is they are blind. They are egocentric in their minds and fail to realize the literal aspect of the true nature of attraction:

 

The feelings they have regarding their attraction to women are actually their helpless and submissive attraction to them. They are not in control of this.

 

When a man can learn to become a real man he will see this way. More problems however arise for these types of true men because some of the women they seek also idolize the nature of masculinity. These types are Jezebels and will be a submissive man's worst nightmare, which is why it's important to establish a relationship committed in faith, and not sexual attraction.

 

This is your failure, but there is hope if you can detest the lusts and learn to accept your "spiritual" inner nature while NOT acting upon the means of physical lust.

 

I say to you, "Repent, then blush about it. Humble yourself before God. Live knowing with who you are inside and treat that person like they are precious and refrain from honoring the role of playing the harlot. You will never succeed unless you can let go of your lust, but if you do, you can learn to display the good qualities of your nature, which is who you are my friend... you just give into sin. Other than the sin, there is nothing wrong you.

 

Lust not and homosexual you will be not. Overcome your lust, then you may rediscover yourself and gradually shift into re-acknowledging you're still able to become attracted to women, which is the only path to walk in to live a godly life.

 

Best of luck my friend. Seek Him with all your heart and lose your lust, then you may learn to see again.

 

Blessings,

Elijah