StinaW Posted July 31, 2014 Group: Junior Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 19 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 97 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 46 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/02/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted July 31, 2014 I am looking for advice: When do you know when you need to put a loved one in a home? Either Assisted living or nursing home? Please give me some things to help me make the right decision.. Thank You! Be a Blessing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted July 31, 2014 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 598 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,129 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,857 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted July 31, 2014 My mom and dad made the decision for themselves with a little prodding from us.. Mom had Alzheimer's and dad just got to where he couldn't take care of her. When he thought he was going to die and leave mom by herself he moved them into a nursing home a few blocks from our house. My dad was the most common sense gifted person I ever met. made it easy for us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneLight Posted July 31, 2014 Group: Royal Member Followers: 22 Topic Count: 1,294 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 31,762 Content Per Day: 5.23 Reputation: 9,762 Days Won: 115 Joined: 09/14/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted July 31, 2014 Generally, when a person can no longer care for themselves, when one cannot afford to have someone else take care of them or when you can no longer take care of the person. There is so much left out of your question it is hard to help you with the proper advice. Consider the medical necessities this person needs. Also, realize your limits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soulserf Posted July 31, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 3 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 22 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/30/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted July 31, 2014 Search your motives, your motives will always tell you where your heart is at. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien224 Posted July 31, 2014 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 82 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,762 Content Per Day: 0.38 Reputation: 869 Days Won: 2 Joined: 08/09/2011 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/24/1964 Share Posted July 31, 2014 Pray. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joy and love Posted July 31, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 6 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 76 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 5 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/31/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted July 31, 2014 I would pray about it, wait for some kind of answer in the time limit you have. If nothing comes, do what is financially and morally right to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StinaW Posted August 1, 2014 Group: Junior Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 19 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 97 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 46 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/02/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted August 1, 2014 Thanks everybody for the advice.. Let me tell you what's happening... I have been taking care of my Grandma for the past 4 yrs.. 7 days a week.. she just turned 100.. She is still pretty much with it.. sometimes she forgets things which is normal we all forget things.. I have been thinking Assisted Living for her since I have 2 teenagers and can't always be there for her when she needs me. Yet she has told me several times that she wants to die in her apt.. so I am not sure what to do.. I want to honor her wishes.. yet at the same time I know she needs someone to watch over her.. I would take her in but I can't because I am in an apt.. I sometimes think about getting into a house so I can care for her better.. yet I don't have an income so it makes it very difficult to do anything.. Prayer are very much needed for direction.. I feel a change is coming yet I am not sure which direction to go with her.. I really appreciate the advice and prayers that are lifting us up..giving me strength every day to take care of her.. I know without the Lord's help I wouldn't have lasted this long.. and I am very thankful that she is the one that showed me Jesus.. Take Care!! Be a Blessing!1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted August 1, 2014 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 598 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,129 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,857 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted August 1, 2014 I don't know about where you live, but around here assisted living costs about $3,500 a month, and nursing homes are a bit over $6,000. Unless you have some kind of insurance you have to foot the entire cost of assisted living. So unless your mom has some kind of a good income it would be most difficult to do either. You would need to talk to an attorney and a CPA before dealing with a nursing home. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StinaW Posted August 1, 2014 Group: Junior Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 19 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 97 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 46 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/02/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted August 1, 2014 It's not my mom.. it's grandma.. and Yes she has insurance.. and yes I know how much it's going to cost.. . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted August 1, 2014 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 598 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,129 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,857 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted August 1, 2014 It's not my mom.. it's grandma.. and Yes she has insurance.. and yes I know how much it's going to cost.. . Mom and dad enjoyed the assisted living much more than living at home once they got moved. They made good friends and had a lot more interfacing with other people. Dad said often he wished they had moved much earlier. No one likes nursing homes that I have ever talked to. I'd put moving into that atmosphere as long as humanly possible. What mom and dad did was to try it for three months before they decided to stay long term..... It didn't take three months. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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