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other one Posted September 8, 2015 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 599 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,277 Content Per Day: 7.55 Reputation: 28,010 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted September 8, 2015 i think it depends on how you approach sex with your wife.... if you are doing so in ways that only please you and are not working on pleasing her, you might retain that feeling. The details of that are kind of hard to discuss in an open forum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deborah_ Posted September 8, 2015 Group: Senior Member Followers: 6 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 791 Content Per Day: 0.24 Reputation: 881 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/07/2015 Status: Offline Share Posted September 8, 2015 It could be that your mind is in a psychological 'rut' as a result of your previous sexual experiences. What I mean is this: every time you had sex before marriage, it was followed (quite rightly) by feelings of guilt. Unfortunately, your mind has so got into the habit of feeling guilty after having sex that sex still makes you feel guilty even though it's no longer wrong.This may get better with time (as you get used to the idea that you are now married), but you might need some help from a counsellor if it doesn't. How does your wife feel? Does she know what you're feeling? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AllTheGoodNamesAreTaken Posted September 8, 2015 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 7 Topic Count: 6 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,379 Content Per Day: 0.43 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 2 Joined: 07/05/2015 Status: Offline Share Posted September 8, 2015 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest shiloh357 Posted September 8, 2015 Share Posted September 8, 2015 Hi everyone,I'm new to this forum and just came here seeking some advice. I've been a Christian and accepted Christ at a very young age and grew up in a Christian household. I will admit that I didn't wait until marriage to have sex but the couple of times I did have premarital sex I did feel guilty and repent. Here is my dilemma:I'm almost 29 and just recently got married. I know after you're married the big kind of "joke" is "Hey now you two go have fun and have sex you crazy kids." What I've noticed though is that I have a feeling of guilt after having sex even now that I'm married. Though I know technically I've done nothing wrong I still have these feelings of guilt. Is this normal? Is this just something I need to adjust to? Has anyone else experienced this before? Is this something I'll just "get over" with time? Any advice or words of wisdom are appreciated and thanks so much,-MichaelFrankly, This is not a good place to air this kind of issue. What you need to do is get some pastoral/marriage counseling. You have some issues that you are not going to find answers for here. Have you even talked to your wife about this problem? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Secret__ Posted September 9, 2015 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 246 Content Per Day: 0.08 Reputation: 256 Days Won: 2 Joined: 09/06/2015 Status: Offline Share Posted September 9, 2015 Hi everyone,I'm new to this forum and just came here seeking some advice. I've been a Christian and accepted Christ at a very young age and grew up in a Christian household. I will admit that I didn't wait until marriage to have sex but the couple of times I did have premarital sex I did feel guilty and repent. Here is my dilemma:I'm almost 29 and just recently got married. I know after you're married the big kind of "joke" is "Hey now you two go have fun and have sex you crazy kids." What I've noticed though is that I have a feeling of guilt after having sex even now that I'm married. Though I know technically I've done nothing wrong I still have these feelings of guilt. Is this normal? Is this just something I need to adjust to? Has anyone else experienced this before? Is this something I'll just "get over" with time? Any advice or words of wisdom are appreciated and thanks so much,-MichaelHi Michael. TY for sharing. How did you repent? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gdemoss Posted September 10, 2015 Group: Royal Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 59 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 4,402 Content Per Day: 0.98 Reputation: 2,154 Days Won: 28 Joined: 02/10/2012 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/26/1971 Share Posted September 10, 2015 Our conscience is responsible for letting us know when we are guilty of wrong doing.Our conscience is a goad not a guide as it can be misprogrammed and tell us we are wrong when we are not while telling us we are right when we are wrong. This may give you an idea of where to look for what is wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ezra Posted September 16, 2015 Group: Royal Member Followers: 16 Topic Count: 134 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 8,142 Content Per Day: 2.33 Reputation: 6,612 Days Won: 20 Joined: 11/02/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted September 16, 2015 Here are some pointers supported by Scripture.1. God created men and women to have sexual relations within marriage not only to demonstrate love but to bring children into the world. Therefore sexuality is from God and therefore the Song of Solomon is in the Bible.2. If you and your spouse genuinely love each other, then everything found in the Song of Solomon is applicable. If you have never read this book then you should do so.3. We will feel guilt only is we are using and abusing others rather than demonstrating a loving and caring attitude. So check your attitude and express selfless and sacrificial love as commanded by Christ.4. If one or both of you do not have a commitment to raising a family, then sexuality will not fulfil its purpose, and you will have problems. Sex is not merely for pleasure or entertainment, and there is a spiritual dimension to intimate union. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted September 16, 2015 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,994 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,692 Content Per Day: 11.74 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 16, 2015 Welcome to Worthy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peacemakerIND Posted September 17, 2015 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 94 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 475 Content Per Day: 0.12 Reputation: 636 Days Won: 2 Joined: 11/23/2013 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/13/1962 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Here are some pointers supported by Scripture.1. God created men and women to have sexual relations within marriage not only to demonstrate love but to bring children into the world. Therefore sexuality is from God and therefore the Song of Solomon is in the Bible.2. If you and your spouse genuinely love each other, then everything found in the Song of Solomon is applicable. If you have never read this book then you should do so.3. We will feel guilt only is we are using and abusing others rather than demonstrating a loving and caring attitude. So check your attitude and express selfless and sacrificial love as commanded by Christ.4. If one or both of you do not have a commitment to raising a family, then sexuality will not fulfil its purpose, and you will have problems. Sex is not merely for pleasure or entertainment, and there is a spiritual dimension to intimate union.i AGREE WITH YOU BROTHER Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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