NARCISSISM

[Guest]

The more I vent, the better I am feeling with every passing day. Normal relationships vs Narcissistic relationships are definitely not the same. It is one thing where majority of the time it is the MEN who do the chasing. It is in their DNA to be the HUNTERS. However, this is a different ballpark with different players, NARCS are not only scavenger hunters, they love preying on innocent people for their supply, whether it be a relationship or otherwise. They know how cunning they are by simply schmoozing their victims etc... It should be at a time where the Narc no longer exist in our lives. Also, this is something we need to put into practice. Remember, actions speak louder than words and practice what you preach. NARCS words are simply featherweight because NARCS are pathological liars and we need to sink this in our brain!

We never existed in the eyes of the NARC and once you absorb this reality, everything else will fall into place. No need to figure out what did I do wrong? We did not do anything wrong to provoke their behavior. This is who they truly are. Once you grasp the illusion of the NARC, just accept it and move on! NO CONTACT IS THE KEY!!!!! We all have our moments, but it is wise to shift gears to a more productive settling atmosphere. Rather than wanting to break NO CONTACT, Journaling is quite Therapeutic. I love Journaling. It allows me to put my deepest thoughts on paper. One thing for sure, it will be a cold day in HADES before I break NO CONTACT. "HE" is not worth even a pebble in the street!

I made it my priority to NEVER and I mean NEVER to look back. Once you look back, you are looking back to the anguish you once left. Don't go back to the vomit. Proverbs 26:11, 2 Peter 2:22. Just keep going until you are completely out of harms way. Do not be like Lot's wife and turn into a pillar of SALT! GENESIS 19-26

Lord, I pray for those who are in difficult relationships and feel stuck! LORD, you freed me from the shackles and the chains and I know YOU can do it for them! YOU are their way out! YOU lifted me LORD from

m the miry clay! Psalm 40:2-4

[missmuffet]

Some traits of a narcissistic personality:

1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance.
2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.
3. Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).
4. Requires excessive admiration [regularly fishes for compliments, and is highly susceptible to flattery].
5. Has a sense of entitlement.
6. Is interpersonally exploitative.
7. Lacks empathy: is unwilling [or, I would add, unable] to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.
8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her.
9. Shows arrogant, haughty [rude and abusive] behaviors or attitudes.

You will never know what love is if you are involved or your children have a parent who is narcissistic.

[Guest]

Yes missmuffet. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way! NPD is dangerous! Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. God is good!GOD freed me!

[Guest]

One has to live it to understand it for sure.

[missmuffet]

My ex husband is narcissistic. I lived it for 30 years.

[Guest]

I'm so sorry missmuffet. We both know what it is to be with one. Just by your threads, I know you knew what you were talking about!

[missmuffet]

7 minutes ago, LionOfJudah said:

I'm so sorry missmuffet. We both know what it is to be with one. Just by your threads, I know you knew what you were talking about!

So am I. They are very clever and quite charming. He had me fooled. He could have won an academy award. Until after the vows then I wanted to say " I WANT MY MONEY BACK" !!!!!!!!

[Guest]

I don't blame you one bit!

[missmuffet]

7 minutes ago, LionOfJudah said:

I don't blame you one bit!

[Guest]

In all honesty, I must say, walking quietly has done wonders for me. As I know "he" was totally caught off guard. (So he thought my supply would continue) not likely. Narcs continue the same patterns day in and day out even if they treat every victim differently, it will amount to the same result in the end. This is who they are. They are JUNKIES (No Supply) in disguise which is their specialty! Since my departure, everyone who knows me says, you look so different now and peaceful as if a ton of bricks were lifted from you. They nailed it! Who would of thought I could of ever recapture my youth again. Who in the world wants to be drained from a person who is none more than an illusion! There are times in our lives, we MUST get rid of the dead wood in order to regain our SANITY! Every ending has a new beginning and my new chapter has begun.

 

Hugs for missmuffet

Edited July 16, 2016 by LionOfJudah