What do you think about Boundaries?

[GoldenEagle]

23 hours ago, Butero said:

It was a direct response to a post by Brakelite, and I am happy I did respond to him, because I see we don't disagree to the extent that I thought, and I may have been given the name of a minister that preaches the Word of God as it should be preached.  I will have to look him up, but I am on the look out for true ministers, since they are so hard to come by these days.  I would listen to a hard nosed, hell, fire and brimstone holiness preacher.  I am completely turned off by the Chuck Swindoll types. 

Perhaps it's a generational thing? I don't see most people under 40 or 45 (Gen X and Millennials?) responding well to the whole hard nosed, hell, fire and brimstone preaching.  

But hey if it works for you go for it.  

God bless,
GE

[GoldenEagle]

Law #7 The Law of Proactivity

In the physical world, for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. This is also true in the spiritual world.

(See Romans, 5:20, 7:5-6, Ephesians 6:4, Colossians 3:21)

 

 

 

 

 

Reaction phases are necessary but not sufficient for the establishment of boundaries. What does Galatians 5: 13-15 caution about limiting these reaction phases? Once you have reacted, it is time to rejoin the human race and establish connections as equals, loving your neighbor as yourself.

 

 

Proactive people show you what they love, what they want, what they purpose, and what they stand for as opposed to reactive people who are known by what they hate, what they don’t like, what they stand against, and what they will not do.

 

Where are you on this? Are your boundaries still more reactive than proactive?

 

When have you seen someone, after years of trying to please everyone, go ballistic when their pent-up rage explodes? Maybe that is your story. Share your perspective on this behavior.
 

God bless,
GE

[Dok]

On 9/16/2016 at 4:05 PM, Dok said:

I think your description of reactive is a little too harsh ---- could be misunderstood. I was reactive for years, rather introverted, but with Jesus I'm proactive. It sure helps out to be the "great stabilizer" in family matters, one who is consulted by "kids" and grandkids, among others.

 

Edited October 8, 2016 by Dok

[GoldenEagle]

On ‎10‎/‎7‎/‎2016 at 6:14 PM, Dok said:

I think your description of reactive is a little too harsh ---- could be misunderstood. I was reactive for years, rather introverted, but with Jesus I'm proactive. It sure helps out to be the "great stabilizer" in family matters, one who is consulted by "kids" and grandkids, among others.

Hiya Dok please explain further?

God bless,
GE

[GoldenEagle]

Re: Law #6 The Law of Evaluation

We need to evaluate the effects our boundaries cause others

Hurt and harm are not the same – pain may eventually lead to growth.

Re: Law #7 The Law of Proactivity

Boundaries must express what we stand for , not just what we are against.

I think it's a good idea to solve problems on the basis of our values, wants, and needs.

God bless,
GE

[GoldenEagle]

Law #8 The Law of Envy

The Bible speaks strongly against the envious heart (James 4:2). But what does envy have to do with boundaries? Envy is probably the basest emotion we have. Envy defines 'good' as what I do not possess and causes me to hate the good that I have. What is so destructive about this sin is that it guarantees that we will not get what we want and it keeps us continually dissatisfied. What things do you tend to envy most?

 

As bad as envy is, I'm not saying that it is wrong to want things we do not have. God has said that He will give us the desires of our heart (Psalm 3 & 4). The problem with envy is that it focuses outside our boundaries onto others.

 

What truth does Paul set forth in Galatians 6:4? What is the focus we are called to here?

 

People, who do not have boundaries, feel empty and unfulfilled. They look to another’s sense of fullness and feel envious. This time and energy needs to be spent on taking responsibility for their own ‘lack’ and doing something about it. Your envy should be a sign to you that something is lacking in your life. When you feel envy, ask God to help you understand what you resent, why you do not have what you are envying, and whether you truly need it. Ask Him to show you how to get there or grieve what you cannot have and be content with what you do have!

[Dok]

6 hours ago, GoldenEagle said:

Hiya Dok please explain further?

God bless,
GE

"....as opposed to reactive people who are known by what they hate, what they don’t like, what they stand against, and what they will not do."

Maybe "some" reactive people?

[preciouspearl]

im currently reading boundaries in dating

i read the regular book and do the workbook after.

i gave up on them cos i was overwhelmed. i think they are good. 

[Ezra]

1 hour ago, preciouspearl said:

i gave up on them cos i was overwhelmed.

If you gave up on them because of this, they can't be all that good.  One of the fundamental principles of life is KEEP IT SIMPLE.  

All this talk about boundaries has no relation to Bible truth. Here's the *boundary* Christ set before us (Matthew 5:39-42):

39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also.

41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.

42 Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away.

[GoldenEagle]

14 hours ago, preciouspearl said:

im currently reading boundaries in dating

i read the regular book and do the workbook after.

i gave up on them cos i was overwhelmed. i think they are good. 

It's a lot to take in and processing takes time. Hang in there! Having healthy boundaries in relationships is key!

God bless,

GE