Never Thought I'd Have an Affair

[Gerioke]

Tell no one more of this,,,,

End this affair......speak no more to anyone about it as long as you live...

NEVER confess this to your husband...

Never confess this to anyone you work with or with anyone in your family....

Burry this down deep in your soul and NEVER let it out again!!!!!!!

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Are you the spiritual prison guard?

All sins need to be confessed

perhaps to a pastor or a broother/sister in christ you can confide in

don't carry the burdon

That's Jesus' job

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Friend, you just contradicted yourself. If it is Jesus' job, and it definitely is, then why should anyone have to confess their sins to another man? All that will do is ruin reputation and start gossip about this poor woman, and destroy whatever testimony she has now.

Is Christ not in us. What is our function as christians if we don't do works in His name? I don't understand. Isn't a pastor supposed to be an ear for our burdens?

If a murderer confesses to Jesus and only Jesus is he absolved of his sin?

To confess our sins is to recognise that we live in sin is it not?

I really do not understand. Am I spreading false doctrine?

God help me

[Guest D Smith]

dude,,,I said that the story of the old man I made up to teach my point,,,,Im not the only person who decided to use a story to teach a point that was otherwise being overlooked, you know,,,,

I think the Jesus was known to do the same...

The other things I have writen are true,,,,and I told yoiu they were true too,,,

[Guest D Smith]

Look, I dont make personal attacks,,,why do others?

I speak my mind as I see things, if thats a problem then skip reading my posts...

However we dont need to start calling into question people's salvation just because they happen to disagree with you,,,,

If you dont like my advice to this wife, then ignore it and come up with better...

[Gerioke]

well I repent for my false teaching

[Orr v'emet]

Look, I dont make personal attacks,,,why do others?

I speak my mind as I see things, if thats a problem then skip reading my posts...

However  we dont need to start calling into question people's salvation just because they happen to disagree with you,,,,

If you dont like my advice to this wife, then ignore it and come up with better...

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Asking if you are a christian and asking if you think you are giving Biblical advice are completely valid questions and not personal attacks as you say. I don't assume everyone here on the boards are christians. Now if you are a christian and you present this "advice" from a biblical perspective then perhaps you need to reexamine the Word. If you are not a christian and not offering a biblical perspective, then that's what needs to be made known and the source will be considered.

[Imamom]

dude,,,I said that the story of the old man I made up to teach my point,,,,Im not the only person who decided to use a story to teach a point that was otherwise being overlooked, you know,,,,

So shouldn't she tell him now rather than waiting until he's an old man and his physical body can no longer take it.

Pray to God, I still think the sooner it gets out the better. How would you feel if he came in to confront you about it having found out from elsewhere?

[Guest D Smith]

The point of my story was to talk about the way the burden is not the same...

Yes, the guilty wife might feel some burden for the rest of her life,,,,deal with it.

But if you think the talking to the husband will get rid of even a small amount of burden you are kidding yourself...because the opposite actually happens.

The burden is placed onto the heart of the innocent party and is many many many many more times greater that the burden of the guilty party....

The burden felt right now by the wife is great Im sure, but it is nothing compared to the burden she will cause in the heart of her husband if she confesses to him her sin....

The best advice is to "Say nothing, repent of this sin, confess to your Lord,,,,if you need to talk, then talk to someone who is trained to do this professionally, ...and then tell none else ever."

[Guest Bro David™]

The point of my story was to talk about the way the burden is not the same...

Yes, the guilty wife might feel some burden for the rest of her life,,,,deal with it.

But if you think the talking to the husband will get rid of even a small amount of burden you are kidding yourself...because the opposite actually happens.

The burden is placed onto the heart of the innocent party and is many many many many more times greater that the burden of the guilty party....

The burden felt right now by the wife is great Im sure, but it is nothing compared to the burden she will cause in the heart of her husband if she confesses to him her sin....

The best advice is to "Say nothing, repent of this sin, confess to your Lord,,,,if you need to talk, then talk to someone who is trained to do this professionally, ...and then tell none else ever."

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I would then ask myself why even people of other faiths call it a Holy Union.

Marriage that is, equating marriage and any or all other relationship is really out of point and out of context.

Keeping information from someone when you know all you can do is harm and telling your partner in marriage something that has regards to the marriage are seriously two very, very diff' ideas.

Marriage is a special bond that two people share how someone would see fit to disregard that fact and even go on to presume that truth is only an option, I have no clue.

And please ! that is not a personal attack or personal question has many would claim after being asked a question which they find offensive to the point that they were trying to make.

I simply dis-agree and I am observing and making a statement.

With Much Love

David King

Edited April 6, 2005 by Bro David

[Guest live_pure]

Even though it would hurt, I would want to know. It would be hard to forgive, but I would hate to be lied to even more. Honesty is so important in a relationship. If I was cheated on, and my husband confessed it to me, and expected immediate forgiveness and trust, he has another thing coming...But from someone that I trust so much...the deception would make the offense much worse.

[Guest Annie_16]

Don't fool yourself into thinking that you can forgive yourself and move on.