How do you cope?????

[Guest whp82]

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting here. I'm 23 almost 24 and i've been a christian almost my whole life. i've always felt my faith was quite strong, and still do. until just recently...my father died very suddenly on may 9th. he was only 49 years old and it was a brain tumour no one knew that he had. God has helped me and my family through everything so far. i know that we wouldn't have made it this last month without Him, and He will help us through the coming days and months. but my question is, when does the anger and frustration with God end? i can't help it. i feel so frustrated that he would take my father so suddenly and leave my mother who's only 44 a widow. leave me, my brother (20) and baby sister (14) without our dad. i'm just so lost....

[Homeward]

My heart is breaking along with yours. I don't know what else to say at this moment, so I'll just quietly sit by your side.

[Pax]

whp82,

I'm sorry about your father. I will pray for his soul and also for you and your family. This is a question that I am often times asked by people, why does God allow suffering? With suffering comes many things...one that you have mentioned is bitterness and anger, often times directed towards God. God understands that we are mortal beings that are made of original sin, thus we are not perfect. But I would encourage you to try and deal with your bitterenss in a positive way. Bitterenss is like acid, it eats from the inside out. If not controlled it will lead to other destructive things. Go and seek out a good Christian counselor. Talk to friends who will help you in a postive way. Join support groups for people who have lost a loved one. And pray to God for help. I myself am Catholic so I reveive the Sacraments as often as possible to receive graces, this helps me tremendously in times of need. The last piece of information that I will leave with is this....Why does God allow suffering??? Simply put, he does this for a greater good. The hard times you and your family have been going through is like fire. Fire can be used to purify you and bring you closer to God. Truely ask God for help and he will do great things in your life. God Bless

Edited June 5, 2005 by Pax

[Homeward]

Still praying for you dear.

[Guest whp82]

thank you. i think part of the reason i'm so frustrated is because my dad was finally at a place where his spiritual life was so strong. plus i moved away from my hometown two years ago, so i really hadn't seen my mom and dad very much in this last while - but i was going to be moving home in august. my dad was so happy that i was coming back. only now he won't be there. i'm just going to miss him so much.

[Scarletprayers]

whp82, I have never lost a parent, so I don't know how that feels. I have just lost my son. His birthday was yesterday, he would have been 26, it was the his 1st birthday since he died.

I was angry and I questioned God, what I came to realize is that I was talking to God, when I was asking those questions and making those statements. He understands you know. He understands every tear we shed, and every question we ask and every painful emotion we have. While we are in that moment of despair, he holds us, cries with us and waits. Ask your questions, cry out to God, at least you are turning to the right person for help through this painful time.

I will never understand why my son died, and I look around and see people who are were in my eyes, drunkards and drug addicts, useless to humanity, who are still here having a good time.

I've decided that they are still here because God doesn't let anybody leave until there is no hope left for them to be saved. Your father is with the Lord, where we all want to be, you will always miss him, and cry for him, but you will see him again, forever and ever!

I will pray for your family, may God quiet your heart and give you healing and peace.

[jc49]

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting here. I'm 23 almost 24 and i've been a christian almost my whole life. i've always felt my faith was quite strong, and still do. until just recently...my father died very suddenly on may 9th. he was only 49 years old and it was a brain tumour no one knew that he had. God has helped me and my family through everything so far. i know that we wouldn't have made it this last month without Him, and He will help us through the coming days and months. but my question is, when does the anger and frustration with God end? i can't help it. i feel so frustrated that he would take my father so suddenly and leave my mother who's only 44 a widow. leave me, my brother (20) and baby sister (14) without our dad.

[ayin jade]

I am sorry to hear of your loss.

When my husband lost his mother, even though she was in her 70s, his born again brother and he were angry at God too. They couldnt understand why God took her. Especially after fasting etc.

We cant understand why. Thing is, although we miss them beyond belief almost, we know that the Lord has our best interests at heart. For whatever reason the Lord took your father, trust in Him. He knows your anger. Turn to the Lord and ask for His help in dealing with your grief.

[Homeward]

Hello, again, WHP.

Have been praying for you, dear. I understand about the deep pain and anger you feel about missing your beloved dad. And I know you are concerned for your mother, brother, and sister. Also, your plans to move back home and spend time with with your father can no longer be. I cry with you, dear. You are about the same age as my daughters, and I really hate it when they are in pain. I hate it that you are in pain, and hope my words bring you some comfort.

When my brother died an awful death, I too, was in deep agonizing pain, and anger. I found a wonderful Christian counselor, and she helped me immensely over time. And I leaned hard into our God. I leaned REALLY hard into Him, and still do. He is my very best comforter.

I hope this helps you, dear, and I will continue to hold you and your family up to Our Heavenly Father, in prayer.

In His Love,

Homeward

Edited June 7, 2005 by Homeward

[Imamom]

(((((((((hug))))))))) Just sitting here to holding your hand and give you a hug. Praying that God help sooth your heart.