Crescentemlunam11 Posted January 1, 2020 Group: Newbie Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/01/2020 Status: Offline Share Posted January 1, 2020 First of all, happy New Year and God bless everyone :) I'm new to this group and hoping to be welcomed. :) I'm a little confused right now and I have been praying these thoughts since last year. Here's the scenario. I have a guy friend since college. We'd hanging out since we're in the same organization. Then we graduated but we still have communication. We still hang out. Then 4 years ago, he referred me in his workplace and he's now my co-worker. As a long time friend, I'm expecting us to be close like we're used to in college but it's the other way around, he's acting like a stranger to me. We didn't even take a picture together because he's shy that we will be teased as a couple. I talked to him about this but he explained that we've known each other and we're always together so we need to be with new groups. He even told me that he didn't see the point why should we be close at work , that we're okay outside of work? I felt that he's not proud of me. Should I give up our friendship? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steward George Posted January 1, 2020 Group: Steward Followers: 110 Topic Count: 10,465 Topics Per Day: 1.26 Content Count: 27,773 Content Per Day: 3.33 Reputation: 15,463 Days Won: 129 Joined: 06/30/2001 Status: Online Birthday: 09/21/1971 Steward Share Posted January 1, 2020 Shalom Crescentemlunam11, Welcome to Worthy Christian Forums. Please feel free to browse around and get to know everyone. If you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask. As soon as you post a few times and after they are approved, it'll tell us that you are "real" person and not a "bot", you'll be free to post throughout our forums and join our chat rooms. Forgive us for this minor inconvenience, however, we've had issues in the past with Spammers! This is a short tutorial video of how to get started with Worthy Christian Forums. As soon as you get out of Newbie status, you'll be able to add your profile picture. You may be interested in reading how WCF functions, and how the forums are set up, and other neat tricks to the forums. Read our insights into WCF. Let me share a little bit of my vision for the ministry in a parable. Let's say I'm throwing a big party and am inviting the world to the party (the forums) and I want everyone to have a great time, eating (reading through posts being fed), drinking (being encouraged to walk in His Word), and having fellowship with one another. In Israel, we have Shabbat meals -- and whenever you have 2 Jews -- you have 3 opinions -- it's GREAT to be opinionated. I encourage discussions ... but during our Shabbat meals ... we never ever get to the point in disagreements whereby food is being tossed and seriously yelling takes place! And if someone comes into the meal ... and starts throwing food ... and yells at everyone -- what do you suppose the head of the Shabbat meal will do? He'll escort those causing problems out of the house! Why? Because the whole reason for the gathering was to learn from one another ... to have a great time of fellowship! Some people like to constantly throw food and yell ... they won't last on Worthy ... because they missed the point of the party ... it's a prequel to the true party -- the Lamb's Supper! All I'm trying to provide is a place to allow true fellowship ... and discussions in love ... in the hopes it will be a catalyst for true REVIVAL based on REPENTANCE! I hope you have a blessed time at Worthy! Please use the REPORT POST feature (which can be found at the top right of all posts) any posts that you believe should be reviewed! We strive to have ALL members abide by our Terms of Service. While this message is "automated", please know that if you have any questions, feel free to shoot me off a private message which can be found at the top right to the left of your name. Your brother in the Lord with much agape love, George Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debp Posted January 1, 2020 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 52 Topic Count: 1,020 Topics Per Day: 0.15 Content Count: 12,310 Content Per Day: 1.80 Reputation: 16,366 Days Won: 92 Joined: 07/19/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted January 1, 2020 Hi and welcome! I asked for your topic to be moved to the help/question area where more people will see your topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Adams Posted January 1, 2020 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 25 Topic Count: 61 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 9,605 Content Per Day: 3.97 Reputation: 7,795 Days Won: 21 Joined: 09/11/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted January 1, 2020 1 hour ago, Crescentemlunam11 said: Should I give up our friendship No. It will take its correct perspective as time goes on. He is afraid and is backing off. Just give him his space and realize we men are wired differently from you girls. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeauJangles Posted January 1, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 44 Topic Count: 229 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 10,900 Content Per Day: 2.93 Reputation: 12,145 Days Won: 68 Joined: 02/13/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/14/1954 Share Posted January 1, 2020 (edited) 6 hours ago, Crescentemlunam11 said: Should I give up our friendship? Hi sister, One of the greatest disappointments in life that can be experienced, is the sudden loss of close feelings in a friendship. This happened the moment I graduated, and the day after obtaining my diploma, immediately went to work. The camaraderie of 'hanging out' suddenly disappeared. It got to the point where some people failed to acknowledge me passing on the street, or seeing one another while shopping etc. Sounds like your friend is either going through some things at this present time, or perhaps takes on a different perspective of personna while on the job. He may feel the need for a more strict aspect of professionalism. There could be numerous things here you may not be aware of. When you get together outside of work, does he still seem different and/or aloof? Maybe you should bring the subject up to him. Do feel welcomed here. God bless you and I hope you find fellowshipping at WCF to be encouraging. Shalom, David/BeauJangles Let your light so shine ~ Matthew 5:16 KJV Edited January 1, 2020 by BeauJangles Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted January 1, 2020 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 952 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,569 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,048 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted January 1, 2020 Welcome to Worthy Christian Forums. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coliseum Posted January 1, 2020 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 14 Topic Count: 133 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 1,123 Content Per Day: 0.66 Reputation: 2,055 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/07/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted January 1, 2020 5 hours ago, Crescentemlunam11 said: First of all, happy New Year and God bless everyone I'm new to this group and hoping to be welcomed. I'm a little confused right now and I have been praying these thoughts since last year. Here's the scenario. I have a guy friend since college. We'd hanging out since we're in the same organization. Then we graduated but we still have communication. We still hang out. Then 4 years ago, he referred me in his workplace and he's now my co-worker. As a long time friend, I'm expecting us to be close like we're used to in college but it's the other way around, he's acting like a stranger to me. We didn't even take a picture together because he's shy that we will be teased as a couple. I talked to him about this but he explained that we've known each other and we're always together so we need to be with new groups. He even told me that he didn't see the point why should we be close at work , that we're okay outside of work? I felt that he's not proud of me. Should I give up our friendship? Hi Cres... Glad you can join us. No one of course can answer that perfectly but God alone, but each of us has been through experiences some of which may be helpful. For me, and this also happened with a friend like yours, she decided to back away when she thought the spotlight might be on her. I found, that for me, it was better to allow things to take their normal course while I prayed for her. I was cordial, but not fearful or pushy. I did my work, greeted her as she passed by, and little by little she began to notice the estrangement between us. Eventually she became curious, and little by little, she felt more comfortable talking. What she was afraid of did not come to pass, and everything turned out---the way God wanted it. If it did not turn out, it was still the way God planned it out. Christian friendship is different than worldly friendship. Two Christians have an eternal bond that is never broken in Christ; but in the world, people think being friends is simply being friendly. Best to you, sister. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeauJangles Posted January 1, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 44 Topic Count: 229 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 10,900 Content Per Day: 2.93 Reputation: 12,145 Days Won: 68 Joined: 02/13/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/14/1954 Share Posted January 1, 2020 13 minutes ago, Coliseum said: Best to you, sister. Oops. Sorry about making the mistake on gender, as it's not on the profile. I didn't read the post carefully enough, but just made an edit correction. How embarrassing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Revlori Posted January 1, 2020 Group: Senior Member Followers: 6 Topic Count: 34 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 635 Content Per Day: 0.39 Reputation: 843 Days Won: 1 Joined: 10/31/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted January 1, 2020 6 hours ago, Crescentemlunam11 said: First of all, happy New Year and God bless everyone I'm new to this group and hoping to be welcomed. I'm a little confused right now and I have been praying these thoughts since last year. Here's the scenario. I have a guy friend since college. We'd hanging out since we're in the same organization. Then we graduated but we still have communication. We still hang out. Then 4 years ago, he referred me in his workplace and he's now my co-worker. As a long time friend, I'm expecting us to be close like we're used to in college but it's the other way around, he's acting like a stranger to me. We didn't even take a picture together because he's shy that we will be teased as a couple. I talked to him about this but he explained that we've known each other and we're always together so we need to be with new groups. He even told me that he didn't see the point why should we be close at work , that we're okay outside of work? I felt that he's not proud of me. Should I give up our friendship? Hello ?and welcome.. Remember always begin your decisions with prayer and God will guild you. We all step out unsure if we heard from God at times, but God always finds us if we're not in his will. With this, I believe stepping toward a friendship is best, unless the friend is trying to lead you astray. To answer your question with my opinion, I'd say no. Don't end a friendship over different views. That's not being a friend. Friendship is being there when others need you, accepting others for who they are. Being able to talk over differences and so on. It seems that your friend may have different views about the work place and his role their. This doesn't mean that he don't want to be friends, if this was the case I don't believe he would of wanted you to work there. Also everyone changes, he may have changed a lot since college, maybe it's time to begin a new type of friendship with him, getting to know one another now and building from there. I'd give it a chance to grow once again even if this means stepping back at work. God bless you ? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enoob57 Posted January 1, 2020 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 35 Topic Count: 100 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 41,180 Content Per Day: 7.98 Reputation: 21,454 Days Won: 76 Joined: 03/13/2010 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/27/1957 Share Posted January 1, 2020 friendship is a unique aspect of sacrifice on ones part... as Jesus bore the title 'friend of sinners' we learn this: The Lord had absolutely nothing of Himself with sinners other than Himself in His Own Nature to give love out to 1 John 1:5 5 This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. KJV 1 John 4:8-11 8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. 9 In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. 10 Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. KJV Now remains this reality if God in His Own body did thus...now in ours should He not do the same? (if we allow) 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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