Taking advice

[Guest]

Are you good at taking advice, if so, from whom? 

The Bible warns us, as for example in Proverbs Chapter 13, verse 10. Wisdom is found in those who take advice. 

It does not come easy to humble yourself to listen to good people who care about you. Instead perhaps we are led by pride to go our own way, only to live with the consequences. I have had to learn the hard way a lot. Now I stop and listen. It usually pays. 

Also, on the other hand, I get tired of giving good advice from the best intentions, only to have it ignored. I have for example a brother who just never listens and keeps coming unstuck. He doesn't realise I want only good things for him. He is the type that tells his woes to everyone but ignores their advice! 

So are you honestly humble enough to take advice? 

 

[Riverwalker]

I find the best advice usually resonates with what God is trying to tell me, but I am too busy to hear or it is a confirmation of what I have already heard.  recognizing Godly wisdom.

I also find that family member are the worst form giving and accepting advice. Defenses go up.  Even Jesus said  in Mark 6:4

But Jesus said unto them, A prophet is not without honour, but in his own country, and among his own kin, and in his own house.

So pray for your brother to have someone come into his life to tell him these things, because he is not likely to hear them from you.

[missmuffet]

1 hour ago, Melinda12 said:

Are you good at taking advice, if so, from whom? 

The Bible warns us, as for example in Proverbs Chapter 13, verse 10. Wisdom is found in those who take advice. 

It does not come easy to humble yourself to listen to good people who care about you. Instead perhaps we are led by pride to go our own way, only to live with the consequences. I have had to learn the hard way a lot. Now I stop and listen. It usually pays. 

Also, on the other hand, I get tired of giving good advice from the best intentions, only to have it ignored. I have for example a brother who just never listens and keeps coming unstuck. He doesn't realise I want only good things for him. He is the type that tells his woes to everyone but ignores their advice! 

So are you honestly humble enough to take advice? 

 

First of all I take advise from God. Second of all I may take advise from a born again Christian depending on what it is after prayer. 

[Starise]

I'm probably not especially good at taking some advice. I have worked at it over the years. As  man who gets a certain amount of satisfaction from doing things myself, I often hesitate to ask anyone for advise. I study. I ask and then I do it. I'm the big dummy who is lost and ends up 20 miles away from my destination or waits until I have looked for a half hour for something at a home center to ask the associate where it is, even when he walks right by me. For me advise is usually a last resort.

Any man who comes charging at me like a 'know-it-all' is undoubtedly going to lock horns with me. OTOH if they are of an humble spirit I can tell that too and I will listen, especially if I know they have my best interest at heart and are not instead vying for king of some imaginary mountain. Probably the worst thing is to catch a know-it-all in error. This is double trouble. Not only are they charging at me like a bull, they don't know what they are talking about. For me, that's two strikes. 

I guess we could also look at this in another way and say that it's better to be acousted in a very insensitive way by a human bull with the truth than to be sweetly spoken to with a lie. The ability to give advise to me is something to be earned not assumed.

I am aware we all get it wrong now and then. If you're crossing a bridge and want to get back home always cross it an even number of times.

Edited August 16, 2021 by Starise

[Marathoner]

4 hours ago, Melinda12 said:

Are you good at taking advice, if so, from whom? 

The Bible warns us, as for example in Proverbs Chapter 13, verse 10. Wisdom is found in those who take advice. 

It does not come easy to humble yourself to listen to good people who care about you. Instead perhaps we are led by pride to go our own way, only to live with the consequences. I have had to learn the hard way a lot. Now I stop and listen. It usually pays. 

Also, on the other hand, I get tired of giving good advice from the best intentions, only to have it ignored. I have for example a brother who just never listens and keeps coming unstuck. He doesn't realise I want only good things for him. He is the type that tells his woes to everyone but ignores their advice! 

So are you honestly humble enough to take advice? 

 

How are we humbled if we aren't brought low? How do we learn the value of a word well-spoken if we aren't reduced to silence? 

We turn toward wisdom when we cry out, "All I know is foolishness!"
The conviction of the Lord is upon us when we grasp the futility of all we have wrought with these hands. "I am an evil man!"
We hear the Word when our lips are sealed. As it is written, "Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; When he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive." (Proverbs 17:28 NKJV) 

The apostle encourages us to be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath (James 1:19) for out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. There was a time when I was rash in judgment and swift to speak, so the Lord in His mercy silenced me. I was prideful and arrogant so in His wisdom, God brought me low. I lost everything. 

What a blessing beyond compare! I consider everything others bring before me, weighing their words in silence before I render judgment or speak. There are times when I respond and times when I don't; I have nothing to prove unless I desire to demonstrate foolishness and rash judgment.      
 

[johnthebaptist]

5 hours ago, Melinda12 said:

Are you good at taking advice, if so, from whom? 

The Bible warns us, as for example in Proverbs Chapter 13, verse 10. Wisdom is found in those who take advice. 

It does not come easy to humble yourself to listen to good people who care about you. Instead perhaps we are led by pride to go our own way, only to live with the consequences. I have had to learn the hard way a lot. Now I stop and listen. It usually pays. 

Also, on the other hand, I get tired of giving good advice from the best intentions, only to have it ignored. I have for example a brother who just never listens and keeps coming unstuck. He doesn't realise I want only good things for him. He is the type that tells his woes to everyone but ignores their advice! 

So are you honestly humble enough to take advice? 

 

Yes, we have to be humble enough to take good advice. We need to be careful, also, not to take bad advice.

[Baltika]

I only take advice for trusted sources. Bible, my family. I learned the hard way.

[missmuffet]

3 hours ago, Starise said:

I'm probably not especially good at taking some advice. I have worked at it over the years. As  man who gets a certain amount of satisfaction from doing things myself, I often hesitate to ask anyone for advise. I study. I ask and then I do it. I'm the big dummy who is lost and ends up 20 miles away from my destination or waits until I have looked for a half hour for something at a home center to ask the associate where it is, even when he walks right by me. For me advise is usually a last resort.

Any man who comes charging at me like a 'know-it-all' is undoubtedly going to lock horns with me. OTOH if they are of an humble spirit I can tell that too and I will listen, especially if I know they have my best interest at heart and are not instead vying for king of some imaginary mountain. Probably the worst thing is to catch a know-it-all in error. This is double trouble. Not only are they charging at me like a bull, they don't know what they are talking about. For me, that's two strikes. 

I guess we could also look at this in another way and say that it's better to be acousted in a very insensitive way by a human bull with the truth than to be sweetly spoken to with a lie. The ability to give advise to me is something to be earned not assumed.

I am aware we all get it wrong now and then. If you're crossing a bridge and want to get back home always cross it an even number of times.

As far as directions go if I am lost in the car I would be the first one to ask. I have been around enough men to know they have a problem with that. Call it manly pride.