Companionship

[sport123]

Question, how do you know if God has a mate for you? At what point should you give up? Especially if you've prayed for many years. How do you really know what to do? Because everythings sometimes seems like a leap of faith. I know it's God's timing, but when is it time.

Edited October 29, 2005 by sport123

[Bolts]

Hey Buddy.

The confidence that we can have in our Lord is that what ever we ask for in his name, will be given to us. Even no answer is an answer

No answer may mean that we have to wait upon the Lord. Waiting produces patience and long suffering. I guess we have to learn to give things over to the Lord, not to fret or worry

but to believe that we have received. This shows that God is at work in us. It also shows that we are growing and maturing in him.

There are practical steps to take as well. Grooming is a big part of attracting a woman. Subconsciously it makes her feel that if a guy looks after himself, he will look after her.

A man who is strong in the spirit and gentle in the flesh, is a very attractive man.

Of course this will give rise to other scenarios, like being swamped - choose the right woman. I have heard many many testimonies where the man knew from the very first meeting that the lady was his helpmate. For others, it's a matter of prayer and discernment.

Those who want to marry, should marry. Those who don't want to marry, shouldn't marry (I'm still figuring out a way to access my computer concordance for this site).

In everything give thanks for this is the will of God

[Knight of Christ]

sport123

I have been sturgleing with this same thing for a long time. And when i read in the Bible the not all men where destend to mary I started to become depresed and for a long time I asked the Lord "Am I to be one of these ppl?"

The one day i was in church and our partor was reading from Mat, and when he got to

Mat 7:7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

It hit me like a ton of bricks. I was only asking and i wasent seeking. I mean it is one think to just keep asking for something but what good is it going to be if you are not allso looking for it as well, I mean it's not like it is going to just apeare there right on youre lap right.

So I did start seeking, and i did meet someone. It Didn't last of course sence i am still single lol.

But my point is that if you don't look then you will never find.

Just rember sometimes it we that have to take the first step, it is we that need to choise the next path befor Jesus will leed us in the right direction.

[Lionroot]

Question, how do you know if God has a mate for you? At what point should you give up? Especially if you've prayed for many years. How do you really know what to do? Because everythings sometimes seems like a leap of faith. I know it's God's timing, but when is it time.

I wrote a post Christianity.com and in it I qouted an article from the Barna website. I encourage you to read it as well.

read this

Here is the excerpt I used:

As might be expected, men dominate the ranks of the unchurched. Although they comprise slightly less than half of the national population, men constitute 55% of the unchurched. They represent only 38% of the born again public, indicating an even wider disparity between those who are most devoted to their faith and those who are least interested in such matters.

With odds like that there has to be someone for you, unless of course your a female. In which case your fighting an uphill battle in the church today. Never give up, God does have someone special for you. Get in His word, keep your eye on the LORD, and he will take care of that need.

God Bless,

Robert

Edited October 30, 2005 by Lionroot

[irishcowboy]

I was tired of women, I didnt want one, did not care to even be around one for more then a few minutes....

it seemed that all they thought a man wanted was other then just friendship, that there was always an alterier motive behind asking them out.....

i found many to be stuck on them selves, not even caring if they had a good time or noe ( dinner, movie, church events, nothing in theirs or my house, all in public ) some thought i had asked them out in pitty for their size, others gave the impression that they thought i wanted something more then just a friendship... i got sick and tired of it.....

I gave up on women...... all i wanted was a friend that i could share a movie with, or dinner, or even church... but when you can not enjoy having them around.... i said for get it.....

come on, there are still some men left that dont have their minds in the gutter all the time.....

I like certain movies.... but some times, when to men go to see them, well, that dont set well... nothing bad, but just not one where a man shares time with another man.... but rather a woman....

some conversations are good, between men, but others are better with a man and a woman..... too bad, there are so many that want a : gentleman " when they are asking for one, but do not really care to have one of those, they (gentelmen)are not too much fun.... well, i know how to dance, all the good dances, from ball room to rock to country, to old folk to disco ( yes, even the hustle ) to some of the more modern stuff... there are a bunch of ladies, that missed out on going to some very nice places to dance and dine....

thats ok.....

being i had given them up for lent ( in august ) i devoted my time to serving the Lord and healing my heart, body and mind, and soul...... in November, a freind told me that God had a very special lady for me..... I laughed.... yea right, for me.....

i gave some spec's i needed if thsi was the case, and low and behold...... in December, i met a lady that did not care about looks, that did not care about money or prestige, or any of that junk....

I told my friend that if God had some one for me, the spec's.... here they are

some one ground in the Word... willing to share..... desiring more of God....

not some one that would just follow me as I follow the Lord.....

but some one that would wallk hand in hand with me as we follow the Lord together

not some one that would watch me do Gods work,

but would be doing Gods work side by side with me....

and not just some one that i could live with,

but some one I could not live with out......

anyways..... we seen each other (starting off) a couple times a month, then each weekend, and then weekly, then well, i proposed to her in Sunday School... and she said yes..... well..... here we are..... and been getting better every day....

the day we actually met, was a fluke... i knew of her, and knew of a need she had, and the Lord told me to meet that physical need......( blankets in the middle of winter ) ... I went to take them to her, and was going to give them to her and leave, and well, God had other plans..... we shared our first church service together and i watched God work thru her and with her..... woonderful....

there is so much more....

forget about finding some one..... there may not be time left on this earth for that.... consentrate on God.... and the Gosple of Jesus....

God will do what is needed, if we are only but obedient...

mike

[kodischild]

I struggle with this also. I dream of being a wife and mother. I have even made a few bad mistakes because I want the dream so badly that I'm not always good at listening to God. After this last mistake i realized that:

1. I don't want another relationship that God isn't the center of.

2. If He doesn't want me to have it then it won't live up to my dreams anyway.

3. I'm only a silly little human, if God has a plan for me then who am I to argue with it? So if his plan is that I live alone with a bunch of cats and the neighborhood kids call me cat lady.......

So I am waiting, and praying for the strength to deal with it if I'm not meant to have a family, and the wisdom to recognize the right guy if he comes into my life.

Funny how many Christian singles claim they can't find any other Christian singles.

[IreneM]

was divorced for 19 years

told the Lord I did not want or need a man and HE would have to smack me up along side the head for me to even think of marrieing again

We HE smacked me hard

This april I will be married to a wonderful man for 10 years

in all that time we have had 4 real arguements and I do beleive this is a marriage blessed by God

But It was HIS doing not mine

In Christ

IreneM