Is deceased husband conscious in heavenand can I still be his wife?

[Guest LadyGeorgia]

Some people say he is asleep. Others say the rich man saw Lazarus in Abraham bosom. I know the bible says there is no giving in marriage, but if you are already married, will be know me as his wife? I hope so. If we are to be known as we were known, can't that be possible?

He was so precious to me here and I lost him so suddenly. He and I were married for 17 years and he has been the pastor of my church every since we were married and I feel so lost now. We sang together and did everything together. It's been 21 months but the pain is still so bad. I keep wondering why God left me here. I'm not mad at God but he was needed by other people especially our church so much. I just feel useless and keep praying God's guidance, but I just drift from day to day.

Please help!

Edited November 13, 2005 by LadyGeorgia

[Bolts]

My Pastor lost his dear wife five years ago. He still grieves today. She loved to garden. Every time he walks up his drive, he weeps. The roses are not as beautifully pruned as they once were. They were once large and bright. In church he sits in the exact same place that he and his beautiful wife use to sit in. Behind him, in front of him and around him are all the people who love him dearly.

He was ready to quit ministry when she was so suddenly taken from him. She was his first sweetheart. The only lover he had ever known. Everything in the house is laid out exactly the way it was five years ago. He loved her so very deeply. There were days that he felt he couldn't carry on. Slowly, over time, the Lord began putting small tasks in front of him for him to do. A prayer for someone, a visit to someone, a reading in the church.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Your husband will know you in heaven. You will share a glorious holy love. Kindrid spirits. United under the umbrella of Gods Love.

[IreneM]

you are in my prayers dear one and may you feel the Love of the Lord and His Grace and Mercy........

In Christ

IreneM

ps I lost 2 kids 6 months apart to illness so know what you are going threw God Bless and Keep you

[Leonard]

Some people say he is asleep. Others say the rich man saw Lazarus in Abraham bosom. I know the bible says there is no giving in marriage, but if you are already married, will be know me as his wife? I hope so. If we are to be known as we were known, can't that be possible?

He was so precious to me here and I lost him so suddenly. He and I were married for 17 years and he has been the pastor of my church every since we were married and I feel so lost now. We sang together and did everything together. It's been 21 months but the pain is still so bad. I keep wondering why God left me here. I'm not mad at God but he was needed by other people especially our church so much. I just feel useless and keep praying God's guidance, but I just drift from day to day.

Please help!

Dearest Sister:

Although Jesus said that 'in the Kingdom of heaven, they neither marry nor are given in marriage,' He did not say those already married, would remain in that state of special relationship with one another.

Whatever it takes for your complete and eternal happiness is what you will have in heaven.

[Fiosh]

Dear LadyG,

In life, I would imagine that your husband held these words close to his heart,

" ...it is my eager expectation and hope that I shall not be at all ashamed, but that with full courage now as always Christ will be honored in my body, whether by life or by death. for to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. If it is to be life in the flesh, that means fruitful labor for me.......Yet....my desire is to depart and be with Christ, for that is far better." Phill 1: 20-23

Dear sister, your husband is not "asleep"; he is with Christ. When you meet him again he will know you and will love you even more, in the perfect love of Christ Jesus.

It's ok to grieve your loss, Jesus understands your sorrow. But take heart, sister, in knowing that God's will is perfect, and He loves you with an everlasting love.........even when He allows deep hurt into your life. Draw close to Him now more than ever, He will comfort you.

And, like Bolts' pastor did, begin to look for opportunities, sent your way by your Father, to minister to those who are also hurting. It will help you to heal.

I pray that our loving Heavenly Father will shower you with grace and grant you His assurance that your dear husband is secure in Him forever; and that one day you will also be united to him in Christ.

God bless you,

Fiosh

[Fiosh]

you are in my prayers dear one and may you feel the Love of the Lord and His Grace and Mercy........

In Christ

IreneM

ps I lost 2 kids 6 months apart to illness so know what you are going threw God Bless and Keep you

It broke my heart to read this, Irene. I pray that God has granted you comfort and peace.

F

[Anne]

I am sure this is answered in the Bible, its when they were testing Jesus, trying to provoke an answer, now irrelevant of who or why a provocation was ensued. I think Jesus answer is relevant here. If I get a brain storm I'll post it.

Your Sister in Christ Jesus

Anne

[MK202002]

I am so sorry for you loss, I can't imagine what that's like. I'm happy that you know he is in heaven, that's a wonderful hope.

Anything we will have in heaven will be better than what we have on earth. No, I don't think you will be his wife in heaven, but your relationship will be even closer that it was on earth. Hard to imagine, huh? I don't think you will be disappionted.

[heavenlyfavoured]

Some people say he is asleep. Others say the rich man saw Lazarus in Abraham bosom. I know the bible says there is no giving in marriage, but if you are already married, will be know me as his wife? I hope so. If we are to be known as we were known, can't that be possible?

He was so precious to me here and I lost him so suddenly. He and I were married for 17 years and he has been the pastor of my church every since we were married and I feel so lost now. We sang together and did everything together. It's been 21 months but the pain is still so bad. I keep wondering why God left me here. I'm not mad at God but he was needed by other people especially our church so much. I just feel useless and keep praying God's guidance, but I just drift from day to day.

Please help!

Hi,

First of all I pray 4 the Lords strength in ur life and so sorry 4 the loss.

Mayb am not one 2 post 2 this forum 4 i may not have a clue what its like 2 loose a husband and Pastor, but my mum did loose my father when i was 13; so i have seen what it did 2 my mother and what it did 2 us his kids.

What i believe is; surely u'll meet in heaven; I believe the love will b one of sister and brother rather than marrage partners or lovers. Love will b there but no lust. I hope u understand.

God bless!!!