Dating a non Christian :) Dilemma

[Debp]

2 hours ago, irishbeast said:

She was raised Catholic but hasn't really practiced it for a long time.

 

Most Catholics are only going by rituals.  They go to mass because they think Christ is being sacrificed in each mass....and they must consume the wafer as the body of Christ.

So you can explain to her that doing those things doesn't save you.    Have a few Scriptures to show her where Jesus talks about believing on Him to be saved.   

Perhaps she is searching since she likes to party and sometimes uses drugs.... perhaps trying to fill a void in herself.    You can explain that faith in Jesus Christ does fill that void.  

[Vine Abider]

11 hours ago, ayin jade said:

This is something I know well from personal experience @irishbeast

I was not a believer when a Christian man asked me out to bible study on a date. During those couple of hours, he figured out that although I believed in God (a sort of generic god), I did not believe in Jesus and was not saved. 

He told me  what the bible said about being unequally yoked and promptly dumped me. 

Ug

I got saved that night. Not because I wanted to see him again (he was about to see about being a missionary with wycliff), but because I humbly approached the Lord and asked Him if He wanted me to believe in Jesus. After that whirlwind change in me, it was clear I was now saved. 

I worked with that guy in a hospital so I saw him again. A couple of months later, after speaking to church members about me, he decided that as a believer, I was "safe" to date.

He is now eating an apple, in my home, married for (gotta do math) 35 yrs this july.

That was an AWESOME story - thanks for sharing!  It shows the wonderful impact of your husband's one, faithful act (in dumping you promptly)!

[chirpy]

Hi IrishBeast .....

Love for the Lord is/should be paramount in your walk.  Not being able to share that with a non-believer who will not have the same interest, passion for the Lord, will leave a big hole in your life.   Be careful how you proceed.  Never be alone with her, double date with other Christians, take her to church, christian events, etc.  Be wise and loyal to your Lord. 

[Vine Abider]

@irishbeast  @ayin jade I know a brother who actually married an unbeliever. She is a really nice lady who supports him in many of his Christian endeavors.  She has something of a belief in God, but doesn't see the need for personal redemption in Christ.  She even prays with him on various matters and listens to him as he shares testimonies of his faith.  They have had a good, loving relationship for many years.

He says his bottom-line testimony in all of this is, "I married an unbeliever, but God has most graciously blessed us."

Nonetheless, I know he doesn't recommend it, and it causes him some angst.  While they share many things and activities in common, and she even likes many of his church friends, she doesn't participate in his pursuit of the Lord.  And while it is a comfort to him, knowing that scripture says she is sanctified by her believing husband (1 Cor 7:14), it is also something of a sorrow/burden to him, as her eternal outlook is obviously quite concerning.

So while God has been most gracious to him, and he truly loves his wife, I know he would not recommend it to others.

 

[Orion]

15 hours ago, irishbeast said:

She knows that I am serious about my faith and church life but isn't bothered at all, seems an unlikely match up in some wats but in other ways it feels strangely right.

The Spirit is saying 'NO!', and your flesh is saying 'YES!'. 

Follow the Spirit and strengthen your faith.  Don't give in to your flesh, for you will grieve the Spirit that renewed you. 

May God bless you and keep you...  in Jesus's name. Amen amen. 

[farouk]

Amos 3.3 says, 'Can two walk together, except they be agreed?'

[farouk]

@Daniel whalen Thanks for the 'like'; some of us have experience by God's grace of gauging if a person is one with whom it might be possible to walk in harmony or not, as the case may be.

The underlying principle is there also in John's First Epistle by way of walking in the light and thus having fellowship with others also who do likewise (chapter 1).

[enoob57]

10 hours ago, Vine Abider said:

And while it is a comfort to him, knowing that scripture says she is sanctified by her believing husband (1 Cor 7:14), it is also something of a sorrow/burden to him, as her eternal outlook is obviously quite concerning.

doesn't that pertain to two already married and one comes to The Lord and the other doesn't?

[Vine Abider]

12 hours ago, enoob57 said:

doesn't that pertain to two already married and one comes to The Lord and the other doesn't?

Do you think it doesn't apply?  I'd not heard of that perspective before . . .

[enoob57]

2 minutes ago, Vine Abider said:

Do you think it doesn't apply?  I'd not heard of that perspective before . . .

Well, the investigative issue lies in disobedience of the already saved verses one coming to belief in an already disobedient life style... if the saved marry outside of Biblical boundaries do you think the Lord would bless that?