Dating a non Christian :) Dilemma

[AnOrangeCat]

On 4/14/2025 at 7:10 PM, irishbeast said:

From scripture I'm thinking about 2 Corinthians 6:14 "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers"

I'm a bit torn here and could do with some advice. Have any of you dated/married a non believer? I would love some input

Thanks!

I dated a loooong time ago when I was an idiot teenager. Didn't last. She was into drugs, too. Later on in life she ended up with a criminal record and didn't age very well at all. The break up hurt a lot at the time but looking back on it with what I know now I feel like getting out of it was like dodging a bullet.

That out of the way I'll say, at risk of taking heat for it, that I think there's room for debate regarding the verse you mentioned. If you want my reasoning I can share, but I still don't recommend the entanglement of a romantic relationship. 

Relationships are one of the hardest things to stay clear headed and objective about, and the desires of the flesh find a certain usually false alignment with the desire to please God. Everyone who's ever been in this situation wants to get the relationship and bring the target of their affections to God. It's like a fairy tale ending, isn't it? It's just that it quite often doesn't work out that way, and the usual results tend to be compromise and hurt in whatever measure. The party environment presents an additional concern in this case because it's a venue that often facilitates sin.

[irishbeast]

Thanks for all the responses. Been a little busy

 

We are still  friends and she is incredibly keen but I think we are better off as friends as she knows about me being regular with church related activities, reading scripture etc. She's would have been ideal 10-15 years ago when I was still a partyboy! Although we have a load of common interests I can't expect her to calm her lifestyle down as that's just her thing which is fine but unfortunately it goes against what I am trying to do (recovering alcoholic) and I have come so far by the grace of God that I am not letting anyone mess it up. Christ is first, end of story. Think the scripture below sums it up.  She's a nice lass though, I don't mean to sound horrible!

2 Corinthians 6:14
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”

 

 

 

[irishbeast]

On 4/17/2025 at 1:23 AM, Debp said:

@irishbeast  I tagged you on a video about a resurgence of people going back to church in the UK.   Apparently this is because of the uncertainty happening in the UK with Islam and Wokeness being promoted so much.

Of course, we hope these people will become born again Christians, not just church attenders.   But they will be hearing the Word of God and this can lead to their conversion.

My point... maybe your friend is searching, trying to fill the void in her life that only the Lord can fill?    Please do invite her to church and introduce her to some of your Christian friends.

If she is not interested, let her go.

Thanks I will look as myself and my Pastor have been discussing the increasing prevalence of of Christianity a lot lately. I think young people are literally lost sheep at the moment and spiritual guidance offered by Christ might seem attractive so we need to encourage it!

[Debp]

5 hours ago, irishbeast said:

Thanks I will look as myself and my Pastor have been discussing the increasing prevalence of of Christianity a lot lately. I think young people are literally lost sheep at the moment and spiritual guidance offered by Christ might seem attractive so we need to encourage it!

Great to hear you are in relationship with a pastor and your Christian friends as well.