5 Love Languages.

[Can Do (Phil 4:13)]

Has anyone here read any of the 5 Love Languages series? I'm reading the one about husbands/wives and am really enjoying it. Jus wondering about other peoples experiences reading it and or putting it into practice?

Thanks

Faithie

[Avodah]

Excellent book! I didn't know there was a series.

I bought this book for my daughter in-law for her bridal shower.

[Guest swasur]

Has anyone here read any of the 5 Love Languages series? I'm reading the one about husbands/wives and am really enjoying it. Jus wondering about other peoples experiences reading it and or putting it into practice?

Thanks

Faithie

[EricH]

Good book

[Joe@actsii]

I read the original book 2 or 3 times. I loved it. I let some one borrow it, and they never returned it. I need to buy it again.

[Christ's Free Servant]

I haven't read the book, but some of my kids have. They started analyzing me and made a decision concerning what they thought my love language was, but they were wrong. They thought because I wanted them to help me with the meal preparation when they came for dinner every Sunday (4 adult children, 3 spouses, a fiance and 3 grandchilren) and with the clean-up afterwards that my love language was wanting people to "do" things for me. They talked about whether I would prefer to have someone say "I love you" or to help me with the dishes, but to me, helping me with the dishes says "I love you," not because "doing" is my love language, but because that shows respect, because it does not put all the work on me, and because it allows me time then to enjoy the company of my family.

God's love language is obedience, but it can also be doing, and it can be listening, and respect, etc., but basically what it boils down to is real love is action, not just words. You show someone you love them by being involved in their lives and caring about their needs, whatever they are. When we have meals, my need is to have help, because I don't just love cooking and cleaning. I have my kids over because I want to be with them, and if I am stuck in the kitchen while they are all in the living room fellowshiping, I get left out. So, what it really boils down to is that I want to be with them and talk with them and interact with them and I can't do that if I am stuck in the kitchen alone.

My mom used to "do" things for me, but she never said "I love you," and she didn't hug me and she didn't listen to me, so even though I am sure she loved me in her own way, I did not feel loved by her. So, "doing" is not my love language. But, if someone says "I love you" but then eats at my house every week and never offers to help with anything, I don't feel very loved, either. I feel taken advantage of. So, that comes down to respect. I want to be valued. I want someone to invest time in my life that says "I care about you and your needs." I want someone to ask me how my day is going instead of me having to ask them all the time. I want someone to listen to me and to care about what is important to me even if I don't express it perfectly and I stumble over my words and I repeat myself, which I do.

And, God feels the same way about us. He wants us to want to be with him and to ask him what is on his mind and to see how we can please him and to show him how very much we value him instead of just coming to him with a list of wants. Some of my kids only call me when they want something, and that hurts. It hurts God when all we do is ask for stuff, too. So, I guess my love language is the same as God's. He wants an intimate relationship with us, and intimacy is my love language, too. And, I don't want to be catagorized by some love language thing that does not understand who I am at all.

[hebrews_beauty]

No, I've never read them, but I've heard of them. Maybe I'll read them someday.

[mikado5001]

Sounds like a good read. Though I know what language we will speak in Heaven. That language will be FRENCH. Why French you say? Well G-d is love. And French is the language of love. So if G-d is love, and French the language of love. In Heaven we will speak the language of love. Bon Jour!!!

[Can Do (Phil 4:13)]

Sounds like a good read. Though I know what language we will speak in Heaven. That language will be FRENCH. Why French you say? Well G-d is love. And French is the language of love. So if G-d is love, and French the language of love. In Heaven we will speak the language of love. Bon Jour!!!

Oui, c'est bon

[Guest forgivenprincess74]

I haven't read the book either, but I have heard good things about it and plan on checking it out!! I did take the online test and found that words of affirmation was high on my list...I think I agree with that. However, I agree with what Christ's Free Servant posted. Love is an action!

Now, can someone tell me how to change my font? I tried clicking on font and size and it just put it in parentheses??????????

~~~Darla, who is new to these boards