friendship

[cutiepie1497]

I was curious as to if anyone here feels like they have lost every true friend they have had recently? I have several close "girlfriends" who all go to my school and are in my youth group....but something has changed. Like they still click and whatnot but I just find myself standing back and just watching everything else happen in the youth group, ya know? I don't know, its probably just me. But its killing me....I cannot live without friends, I don't need acceptance I just need true, loving friendship. It feels like my heart has been ripped out and stomped on the ground. I am just so lost and lonely and feel out in the cold for some reason, I hate that I become so attached to friends but when I love, I love hard. (just needed to vent i suppose)

[Avodah]

(((((((cutiepie))))))) You'v got friends here

[AFaceInTheCrowd]

JESUS is the only friend who will never leave nor forsake you.

[cutiepie1497]

^^^^ I know but I like having earthly friends to that I can hug, talk to and let them talk back clearly, sharing the joy of knowing each other, making each other laugh, crying on shoulders, etc.

[Bolts]

You could be trying too hard cutie. Love is a very patient thing. Love is kind. Love is self controlled. Love isn't about what you can get, Love gives and love forgives. Are you feeling as if your not fitting in? Your friends ARE getting older and so are you. You might just be noticing the changes? Talk to your friends and tell them how you feel O.K!

ps. you have a lot of friends here at Worthy

[cutiepie1497]

yes, i feel left out 99% of the time during youth group, trips, etc. We have a trip on wed. and are returning late thurs. we are going to a christian convention for teens, yec. I enjoyed it last year and am going again. I am going to see how everyone acts on that trip, and see if my youth pastor hugs me first or talks first same w/ everyone else.....but yeah, i just feel like no one really cares if that makes sense. how do i try to hard?

[Bolts]

We are usually trying too hard, when we don't go with the flow. It leaves us feeling stressed. Go on your trip and have a great time. Relax and enjoy it.

[mrs]

((((((((((((((cutie)))))))))))))))) I know exactly how you feel.Try not to think about all of it too much, because it will really tear you up inside and will not help you at all.It can get really depressing if you aren't careful...make an effort to focus on all the good things in your life and that wont seem as hard.The best advice I can give you is to focus on Christ.As others have said, He's the only friend who will never fail you.Take all that hurt and pain to Him and pray it all out.Let Him comfort you.

[Micah68]

yes, i feel left out 99% of the time during youth group, trips, etc. We have a trip on wed. and are returning late thurs. we are going to a christian convention for teens, yec. I enjoyed it last year and am going again. I am going to see how everyone acts on that trip, and see if my youth pastor hugs me first or talks first same w/ everyone else.....but yeah, i just feel like no one really cares if that makes sense. how do i try to hard?

Dear cutie,

Don't base your actions towards your friends on how they act towards you. Why wait to see if others hug you first? If everyone acted that way, we'd all be waiting for the other to hug us and no one would ever get hugged. Just be yourself and continue living as Jesus would have you. He didn't say, only be nice to those who are nice to you. Reread all of Matthew 5. It's very good advice coming from the best advisor ever. Let your actions be based on the Word of God. Best wishes for a nice trip.

[MorpheusJS]

I was curious as to if anyone here feels like they have lost every true friend they have had recently? I have several close "girlfriends" who all go to my school and are in my youth group....but something has changed. Like they still click and whatnot but I just find myself standing back and just watching everything else happen in the youth group, ya know? I don't know, its probably just me. But its killing me....I cannot live without friends, I don't need acceptance I just need true, loving friendship. It feels like my heart has been ripped out and stomped on the ground. I am just so lost and lonely and feel out in the cold for some reason, I hate that I become so attached to friends but when I love, I love hard. (just needed to vent i suppose)

Cutiepie:

I understand how you feel. Human relationships are crucial to being happy in every day life. Something that you should remember is that God is always in control. For whatever reason (which is obviously unknown to you) you are experiencing these feelings. I have found that there are many times where I go through something tough, but everything ends up better afterwards. There have been several times when I was depressed for example breaking up with g/f or moving away from my home after joining the military. This is actually something that occurs in the bible too. Jesus was depressed about his upcoming fate on thr cross. Matthew 26:37-38 says He took Peter and the two sons of Zebedee with him, and he began to be very sad and troubled. He said to them, "My heard is full of sorrow, to the point of death. Stay here and watch with me." I think sometimes God intentionally abandons us to perhaps teach us to be self-sufficient or to teach us to share a closer relationship with him. I remember when I was feeling depressed about leaving my friends at home that I would always pray and began reading my bible ever since. That was something I did not do as much before I became depressed, therefore my depressed feelings caused me to move closer to God. Now as a result I am much happier than I was before. Keep up your faith and pray because your feelings are just a phase, it will pass. I encourage you to read the Bible when you are feeling sad, but do whatever you think God is telling you to do. I will be praying for you.

Your Brother in Christ,

Jon