my friend told me off and called me judgemental

[Iryssa]

But what should I say in regards to his "You have done this and that and this and so you have no right to judge me or preach to me" speech. And should I say anything about his abortion?

You say "I've made mistakes, but I'm doing my best to deal with that issue...my concern is for your well-being, not to judge you." or something like that...if those sentiments are true for you, that is.

There's really no point in discussing his girlfriend/ex-girlfriend's abortion with him unless he volunteers the information that it weighs heavily on his conscience (which it might, all his words about not caring may very well be something he's trying to convince himself of). It's done, it's in the past, and Christ can wash away those stains if your friend comes to know Him. Your duty is to show Christ's love to him, not berate him about past mistakes. I assure you that he probably knows what your views on the issue are. In fact, he probably just brought it up to get a rise out of you...trying to make you say he's doomed or something. It's probably a defense mechanism. I was like that when I was an unbeliever... "back off, Christians! I've done all this junk and I don't care, so don't talk to me about grace." Inside, it stemmed from a deep-down belief that I wasn't good enough to be "saved," so I didn't want to talk about it. If your friend is anything like I was then, the last thing he needs is for you to bring up the past like that. What he needs is forgiveness.

[MK202002]

Ok, so my friend (non -christian friend) writes me that he is in another country having a great time, getting drunk and getting motel rooms and stuff. So I feel like I have to say something, so I tell him that I dont think it is a good idea for him to do that stuff and I will pray for him and his friend.

He then writes me back saying he was offended and so was his friend that I would say that I am going to pray for them. He always tells me that I need to shut up since I am someone who never does anything and I have no idea what I am talking about and that I am preaching to him. Then he listed all the things that I have done wrong to prove his point.

Then he had the nerve to bring up how he had an abortion before and how he used to think that abortions were wrong until he was in the situation and that you cant judge unless you are in the situation and I am delusional.

Argh. I wanna tell him off. I half half a mind to call him a baby killing murderer (Edited by Moderator)

Was I wrong? What should I do now if anything at all?

You go girl! That was absolutely the right things to do! Yeah! You know, sometimes you will get these reactions, and feel very discouraged, but other times, people will see what you mean, and they might even give their life to Christ. I am so happy for you, and proud to call you a sister in Christ. You know they did worse things to Jesus? When things like this happen, you are just like Him.

Anger is a natural reaction, but don't let it turn into bitterness. Prayer, which is what you're already doing, will counter any true hatred before it starts. And live at peace if possible Romans 12:18 "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone" But if you didn't do anything wrong, don't dare apologize, peace isn't worth watering down the truth.

Oh, and I didn't understand, how can a man have an abortion? Was this his girlfriend?

[Khristeeanos]

The Bible says that we should speak the truth, but do it with love.

[mikado5001]

The Bible says that we should speak the truth, but do it with love.

AMEN!!! A THOUSAND TIMES A THOUSAND!!! AMEN!!!

[Micah68]

But what should I say in regards to his "You have done this and that and this and so you have no right to judge me or preach to me" speech. And should I say anything about his abortion?

In discussing the issue of abortion, what you have done wrong in your life is of no consequence. That's not the issue at hand, is it. Don't let people get you off of the topic. Maybe you could talk to him about how when a baby is made, it isn't just a bunch of cells, but it's a soul. That soul has a life. It's God's life and when you take that life away, you're killing. If you can show him why it's wrong, he may see it more clearly. Show him that the little baby has a will too. It wanted to live or it wouldn't have come into this world. When you end its life, you're taking away its chance for a life. First of all, if sin had not been there in the first place (premarital sex), this baby would not have been in the picture. But since it's there, it deserves a chance to live. There are things one can do if one does not want to or cannot take care of a baby. The two responsible could decide to give the baby up for adoption to a family who would love it and give it a nice life.

Then finally, once you yourself have gotten over this whole incident in your life, you will see how important it is to live a godly life, obeying God's commandments so that others will see in you a way to find God. They will be able to see that it is possible to live right in this generation. That way, they won't be able to point the finger at you and say but you did this. If they do point the finger, you can either ignore it or simply say, "Yes, I did do that in the past and it wasn't right. I learned from that mistake and will not do it again. However, my life is not the issue here."

[50_Cent's_dog]

Ok, so my friend (non -christian friend) writes me that he is in another country having a great time, getting drunk and getting motel rooms and stuff. So I feel like I have to say something, so I tell him that I dont think it is a good idea for him to do that stuff and I will pray for him and his friend.

He then writes me back saying he was offended and so was his friend that I would say that I am going to pray for them. He always tells me that I need to shut up since I am someone who never does anything and I have no idea what I am talking about and that I am preaching to him. Then he listed all the things that I have done wrong to prove his point.

Then he had the nerve to bring up how he had an abortion before and how he used to think that abortions were wrong until he was in the situation and that you cant judge unless you are in the situation and I am delusional.

Argh. I wanna tell him off. I half half a mind to call him a baby killing murderer (Edited by Moderator)

Was I wrong? What should I do now if anything at all?

Tell him the truth but if he doesn't want to hear it. Let him go. He isn't rejecting you but Christ. Find a new friend

[DaughterofKing]