DaughterofKing Posted February 21, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 92 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 232 Content Per Day: 0.03 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/19/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted February 21, 2006 He's 19 and I am 25. Right now we are just friends but there is the unspoken but acknowledged possibility of more. He is very smart and that is where we click the most. We also have similar boring personality types so we get along there as well...Would it be wrong ( or just plan weird or gross) to date ( and then possibly one day marry) this person? (I feel silly noting this but he will in fact be 20 very soon)... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TEXASGRANDMA Posted February 21, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 153 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/27/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/04/1952 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I don't think there should be a problem, if he doesn't. My son dated a lady a couple years older then him. Age was never a problem in their relationship. They broke up because she was not a Chrisitan and he realized that was not God wanted for his life. betty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matthitjah Posted February 21, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 1,285 Topics Per Day: 0.16 Content Count: 17,917 Content Per Day: 2.27 Reputation: 355 Days Won: 19 Joined: 10/01/2002 Status: Offline Share Posted February 21, 2006 Grace to you, DOK, Is this why you are feeling old in your other post? You need to lean not upon your own understanding. Pr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nebula Posted February 21, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 10 Topic Count: 5,823 Topics Per Day: 0.75 Content Count: 45,870 Content Per Day: 5.94 Reputation: 1,897 Days Won: 83 Joined: 03/22/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/19/1970 Share Posted February 21, 2006 Age differences matter less as you get older. The issues you need to worry about are: Maturity Faith - can you submit to him as your spiritual authority - and will his spiritual authority lead you to Christ? Financial stability - is he able to provide for you? or at least head the home in this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Challenger Posted February 21, 2006 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 0 Topics Per Day: 0 Content Count: 15 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/13/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/15/1958 Share Posted February 21, 2006 He's 19 and I am 25. Right now we are just friends but there is the unspoken but acknowledged possibility of more. He is very smart and that is where we click the most. We also have similar boring personality types so we get along there as well...Would it be wrong ( or just plan weird or gross) to date ( and then possibly one day marry) this person? (I feel silly noting this but he will in fact be 20 very soon)... A friend of mine married a guy much younger than herself. She's almost 36, he just turned 22. It works great for them. Age really shouldn't be an issue. Give it a chance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Gladiator4God Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I am 36 and my wife is 28.....i guess now we been married 5 years we dont really think about the difference in age......there is a gap in age with the people who raised me my gramps is 87 and she is 76 soooo i guess i just grew up with it.......pray about it , if God gives it the ok then have fun Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leonard Posted February 21, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 115 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 8,281 Content Per Day: 1.12 Reputation: 249 Days Won: 3 Joined: 03/03/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/30/1955 Share Posted February 21, 2006 The pairing of a lad so young, and so much younger than the lassie involved IS a little unusual, but I think not a bad thing necessarily. Statistically you're going to outlive him by about 6 years anyway! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted February 22, 2006 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 599 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,245 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,971 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted February 22, 2006 He's 19 and I am 25. Right now we are just friends but there is the unspoken but acknowledged possibility of more. He is very smart and that is where we click the most. We also have similar boring personality types so we get along there as well...Would it be wrong ( or just plan weird or gross) to date ( and then possibly one day marry) this person? (I feel silly noting this but he will in fact be 20 very soon)... that would depend on the two people. My wife and I started dating when she was just 18, I was 22.... we both wanted a relationship but did not want sex to be involved in that relationship until we were married. She was 19 and I wa 23 when we were married..... that was nearly 36 years ago. We did not have sex until we were married and it worked out great for us. But I would caution that it might not be good for everyone....... It totally depends on the two people and their maturity levels. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christ's Free Servant Posted February 22, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 197 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 2,461 Content Per Day: 0.35 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/18/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/31/1949 Share Posted February 22, 2006 He's 19 and I am 25. Right now we are just friends but there is the unspoken but acknowledged possibility of more. He is very smart and that is where we click the most. We also have similar boring personality types so we get along there as well...Would it be wrong ( or just plan weird or gross) to date ( and then possibly one day marry) this person? (I feel silly noting this but he will in fact be 20 very soon)... My daugther will turn 29 in April and she will marry a young man who is 20 and won't be 21 until May, so there are eight years difference in their ages. We had a problem with it at first, but he's growing on us. They do seem to be fitted for each other. He matches her intellectually like no other guy has and he has our family's sense of humor - corny. They both love to debate for sport, and he is later to everything than she is. He has not had the close walk with the Lord that she has, and that has been a concern of ours, as well, but he is making progress, from what I can tell. At this point, that would be our only concern is if he was not walking with the Lord, but they are both involved in ministry and are active in their church and I do see a desire in him to want to obey God. Age is no biggie unless you are talking a much larger age difference. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christ's Free Servant Posted February 22, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 197 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 2,461 Content Per Day: 0.35 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/18/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/31/1949 Share Posted February 22, 2006 No. Men mature slower if at all. Age does indeed matter. Physical age is not necessarily a sign of maturity. When I was young and was dating, I thought I wanted a man older than me to protect me and take care of me, etc., but I found that many of the men older than me were actually less mature than some of the ones younger than me. Yes, it is true that men generally mature slower than women, but women live longer, so if they marry younger men, they should not have to live as widows for a long time. I think we can not make generalizations. I think we have to judge each situation on its own merit. I admit I had issues with Jenny dating someone so young, but I am slowly seeing that it is not as bad of a match as I had thought. Yes, he has some immaturity issues, but I know some young men her age and older that have worse issues and some of them are even less mature. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts