Soul mate...

[stitchy]

I believe in finding that one special someone...I found mine. Here's the thing, though...I didn't actually find out he was the one God had for me until I completely gave-in to God. I was in another relationship, a pretty bad one at that. I was determined that I was going to make it work, despite the fact that it was not going well at all. I wanted to show all those people who thought it wouldn't work. Heck, I wanted to show God that I could do it, because "for-pity-sake-I'm-sick-and-tired-of-being-single!!" (I know...pretty arrogant, eh?) Finally, I was broken. I went up to my college town (I describe it as a "thin place"...a place where it seems I am so close to God, as though the barriers of the physical world are thinner there...maybe it's just 'cause it's where God wants me to be) and cried on the shoulders of my Christian friends, and in the lap of my Father. I threw in the towel and said "fine, God! You do it! Make me single forever or bring me the right one! Whatever it is, just do it!" Very soon after, the man who is now my husband was holding my hand.

Trust God. He's not going to let you overlook that person. Even if it DOES happen to be someone you think you'll never see again, God will make sure they're brought back into your life somehow, if that is His plan. You might not know they're the one when you first meet them (or you might know but not realize it). I was friends with my husband a long time first...I was attracted to him, to be sure, and I thought a woman would be very lucky to have him someday...but if you had asked me then, I would NEVER have guessed that we'd be married now!

I doubt it's a lack of faith that is keeping you from the one...rather, it's more likely that it's simply not God's time for you yet. It might not make sense to you now, but when you do find the one, you'll look back on this time and say "Wow, God, you were right; that really WASN'T the right time for it!"

Thankyou for posting this. I.. have a situation I've been dealing with for months, and it gets me down a lot, but every now and again someone says something like you've just said and it fills me with new hope. Thankyou

[Guest oceanssong]

"The Princess Bride"!!!!! One of the greatest movies of all time!!!!! Lines from that movie find their way into many of the daily conversations that both I and my kids get involved in. Any man who wants to be a part of my life but doesn't like that movie, all I can say is, "That does put a damper on our relationship!"

[Smalcald]

We have been married for over 20 years now which is not really that long in a life time, and we love each other deeply. But I don't believe in the idea of only one person meant for each other from eternity. There are numerous people that could potentially be someone we could love. However when you do find someone that you are compatible with in every way and when love blossoms over the years and you do marry you THEN become "one" person yet two, totally unique together as one flesh. I usually see the words soul mate as a bad sign actually. Love takes commitment, acts of love, and time. You don't really even know someone until you have spent a couple of years around them.

After saying that, yes God does send us people. But not always, not everyone will find a mate to marry and that is alright also. Our greatest Christians often were not married; Paul said it would be better to not marry. I am saying all of this not to be a downer, but because I see so many Christians rush from one relationship to the next, from one marriage to the next, always falling in love, always finding a soul mate. The danger I see is for example a Christian who gets married to someone they really do love, but oops five or ten years down the line they meet what

[jackie d]

Well, I have never known anyone who I would even be able to describe as "soul mate"...problem with me is that I tend to love too easy and get hurt because of this. Problem with them is that they didn't know how to love a Godly way.

So, what is one to think? I've had my children..have been divorced since 1992, had a 14 yr relationship that brought one good thing to me, my daughter and do not see that I will ever have a love that is pure, patient and kind that perfect love that so many say can really exist...seems a fairy tale...

I just leave it in God's hands. There is nothing else I can do...and I most certainly am not going to go out and hunt down a husband...ewww!

love and blessings

[mikado5001]

Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam...

[/qoute]

I to enjoyed The Princess Bride, both the book and the movie, a great deal.

As to the issue at hand. I fell out of that faith for a long time. Once I believed in True Love, a Soul Mate, or whatever it is called. Then my Mother re-married. All I knew for the 16 years to follow was hatred and weeping. It was a dark time.

Then Jim met Stephanie. And last weekend in Greensboro NC they were Married! G-d surly stirred that pot in that one. I stood amazed and overjoyed for them to become one together. So, in short, they restored my faith in True Love. And all that ooey gooey stuff.

[sport123]

Thanks all!

[billie]

You're welcome!

[sport123]

[Scum_of_the_Earth]

I don't believe in soul mates or that there is "the one" for people.

[ray]

Proverbs 31:10-31

A Wife of Noble Character

10 Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?

She is more precious than rubies.

11 Her husband can trust her,

and she will greatly enrich his life.

12 She brings him good, not harm,

all the days of her life.

13 She finds wool and flax

and busily spins it.

14 She is like a merchant