What if your lover is not a believer?

[Hillson]

If you love someone but he/she is not a believer, what will you do?

[godrulz]

Pray for their salvation and win them; if not married, do not marry if they remain an unbeliever; if already married, love them into the kingdom and love them in a committed relationship if they reject the gospel (stay marrried).

[sagz4Christ]

1 Corinthians 7

12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

17 Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him.

Just to help elaborate on what godrulz said...

[Guest caffeineyellow5]

My close freind from my church, who is also the teen boys Sunday School teacher and a youth leader with me, got saved about 8 years ago. His wife made a proffession of faith, but now admits that she only said that for her husband and not the Lord. She in fact was very scared of his salvation, but never said a word about it. She was especially scared about what he started to do. He started going to church (true Bible believing church) more than her (false church that doesn't preach, teach or believe the gospel) own church going. He burned all of his old sinful worldly music at a barrel-fire revival one night. He also burned his porno in that same fire. He raised his children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord for the past four years (he has two daughters; 4 and 2). He started teaching Sunday School and driving a church bus on Sunday mornings. All this and more. But her fear was not that she was scared of his religion, but she was scared of his God with Whom he had a personal relationship with and she did not. Her fear is actually conviction of sin that she hid for so many years, even from her husband. Through the years, she has shown no sign of disdain to him at all, but with some small pressure from her family (mother), she told him she wants a divorce. Her conviction over unforgiven sin is now about to tear this family, with what has been a semingly perfect marriage, even in his eyes all this time, into a seperation involving two young children.

I relate this to you not to tell you or 'predict' in any way what WILL happen in every case, but to pass on the fact that... You NEVER know all the things that are going on in the hearts and minds of others. Furthermore, any lost person on Earth can be not only influenced, but also forced by satanic forces to do or say anything to trip up a believer. The person you are specifically asking about that is not saved has NO PROTECTION against this sort of attack and you as a believer have the protection of Scripture to tell you to steer way clear of any situation that may cause you some pain and anguish in the future. If you are already married to this individual in question, then follow the verses of Scripture given above, but if you are not, then "Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers." No matter how close already you are and no matter how much it can hurt you now, getting more involved can only hurt worse later.

Pray earnestly for their soul, but watch for yourself, that you fall not into a tempter's snare. (meaning Satan, not this other person)

[endure4salvation]

I just want to say....stay away from emotional or physical bonds with such a person.

The Bible says, "Do not be unequally yoked (joined) together with unbelievers."

There should be NO union between a Christian (the temple of Yehwah) and a non-believer (who belongs to Satan).

Pray for the salvation of this person and show the love of Christ to her....oh, and keep praying!

[Guest GodsLittleSoldier]

first of all hillson i would say pray for him/her love them and let GOD do the work he will always pull through if you just listen to him.

and endure whats this about staying away from people who dont believe?!?!? if you do that then how are you supposed to save them!?!?!? this doesn't make sense to me especially because a lot of my friends are non-believers but every night i pray that they might be 'shown the light' i'm sorry but i'll have to strongly dissagre with you on that point but you are right in one thing!!! KEEP PRAYING

yours in christ

ME!!

[godrulz]

There is a difference between staying away from unbelievers (no one said this), and MARRYING (dating/intimacy) an unbeliever if you are a Christian. We are to be a witness and have friendships with unbelievers. We are not to compromise and disobey Scriptural principles and marry an unbeliever knowingly. If one is already married, and becomes a Christian, then remain married.

[Adstar]

Hello Hillson

Pray that God will give you the words to say to her that will bring her to Jesus. Pray for wisdom brother. You should persist with her as long as she is willing to hear you. Hopefully she has similar feelings of love for you. If she does have love for you this will give your words more power. Continue to treat her with love and affection and be prepared for a long struggle.

I know this is hard for you, but I must agree with godrulz that you should not marry her if she remains a non- believer. I will pray for you Hillson and the girl you love.

All Praise The Ancient Of Days

[Nicks Girl]

I would have to say, first of all, if you are a believer, don't fall in love with a non believer. You should find out about the person's faith and beliefs before you would even CONSIDER them to be a good candidate for a marriage partner.

If you already are married, and became a Christian After your salvation, then do as others suggested, pray for them, love them, and be a good Christian example to them. As long as they are willing, stay married.

[Guest caffeineyellow5]

If you already are married, and became a Christian After your salvation,

You do mean....

If you already are married, and became a Christian After your marriage,

.... right?