What do you think of women?

[Guest Biblicist]

The number one key to understanding the woman is to shut up and listen. Then respond from the heart. She's going to tell you what she is feeling. It doesn't matter if its nonsensicle,

I know there are very few women who don't want their men to "shut up and listen" then respond from the heart even if their ramblings are making absolutly NO sense. Including some here on WB. If I may say so.

[artsylady]

When I was younger the nice guys I met were really nice and really liked me a lot. I had low self esteem and because of this, I thought there was something wrong with THEM. I thought they were nerdy or clingy or something. The bad boys who didn't treat me well stuck around because I thought that's what I deserved.

[IslandRose]

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[GeneV]

I know this is men's only, please forgive me in advance. But I would like to know. . .

Do men think of women at all?

Only when they think we need to

[Guest]

I know this is men's only, please forgive me in advance. But I would like to know. . .

Do men think of women at all?

I think the easier question to ask is, when do they not?

Going on 38 years and I've still got Carol on my mind!

[Guest lnj]

Do men really compare a woman of romantic interest to their mother? Is this true?

[Guest]

Do men really compare a woman of romantic interest to their mother? Is this true?

No

[Guest lnj]

Do men really compare a woman of romantic interest to their mother? Is this true?

No

You are kidding me!!??

I heard this stated as fact on a tv program and it made me feel squeamish to the say the least!!

[Fiosh]

Hi Eliyahuw,

Thanks for your comments. Do you still have your "true love"?

I have found her, finally! Took me long enough! She is more than true love, she is the one that was made for me.

Do you think women approach love/relationship differently than men?

Thats difficult question to answer. Yes and no. May be.

Its like this, some women like a guy that opens the doors, holds the chair things like that, some women don't. Some women like poems, sweet words, some women think its dumb. Some women like a manly man, some want a girly man and some want one they can control.

Most women that i have seen today are feminist, anti chivalry, just suck the joy out of life. May be there are guys that like that sort of thing but I for one hate it.

If so, how? Are we looking for different things?

My love found me i didn't find her. I don't know what i did to deserve her attention, much less even catch her eye.

What is most important in a relationship to a man?

For me, trust, respect, love. IF i cannot trust or respect, then love isn't even a consideration. Then one can move on to touch each others soul. That is done by learning all that you can about that person. Find out what is her fire inside. What her passions are, what her interests, her desires. To get there, you have to truely be interested in what she thinks, not this uh huh ok, move on stuff i have seen so many guys do. then you find her fears. Her tragedies in life. Her hurts her pain she has buried, and when you do that, you must be willing to accept whatever she says, to embrace that pain with her, to love her enough to never ever condemn her for anything. After all the past is the past.

Then you have to understand her. To see her as she really is. To feel when she's upset even if you cannot see her or hear her voice. And when she tells you what is bothering her, then open your eyes and see the real truth behind what is bothering her. THe real pain that brings up her insecurity. Once you can see that, bring it out and share it with her without condemnation, without ridicule even if you might think its the dumbest thing int he world, its important to her.

Now this is what youhave to do to find her soul. The other thing you have to do is let her find yours, to bare your deepest, darkest, secrets, open yourself up and let her gaze inside and feel your heart, your soul. It means you have to be vulnerable, take a risk of her crushing you, give her that power over you. Now thats a very dangerous thing to do with the wrong person. THats why you must first build trust, then respect, then love will protect you.

What is the characteristic of a woman that is the most difficult for a man to understand?

Thanks,

Fiosh

I don't know. I understand the woman i love. I think the question should be instead of understanding women or men, is to understand people. Women are not all alike contrary to popular belief. I have two ex's that are very different from each other, and totally 180 degree opposites of my love. I didn't understand them not because they were women but because each person is different.

What i said above on what to do will only work if that person is supposed to be for you. Not all of what i said will work for everyone. It is only what works for me.

The number one key to understanding the woman is to shut up and listen. Then respond from the heart. She's going to tell you what she is feeling. It doesn't matter if its nonsensicle, it just matters to her. If you can get over yourself and respond to her as if it is the most important thing in the world, then i don't know many women that will not respond to it. I am talking about the group of women that are feminazi type, or the shallow empty types. I am talking about real women.

I'm so glad that you and your true love found each other, Eliyahuw. Your words are beautiful and show a kind, compassionate and loving heart. You have alot of insight that probably was gained thru your past pain. Looks like God truly has used your bad experiences for your good.......and His glory.

And you are right. Though I consider myself a strong, independent (sometimes bull-headed) woman, I do respond to my husband best when I feel he is really tuned in and listening, not just hearing.

(and I still like it when men hold the door )

As someone else mentioned, even though I am a confident woman, I do feel the most secure and complete when I am tucked protectively in the arms of my husband. It is what God intended.

God bless your union with your true love. And thank you for your wise words.

Peace,

Fiosh

[Guest Biblicist]

Do men really compare a woman of romantic interest to their mother? Is this true?

Again, I do not wish to hi-jack this thread.

What I heard is that men tend to treat their wife as they do their mother. Men. . . do you treat your wife the same way you treated your mother?