Parents so called rights

[Nicks Girl]

I too do not understand what you don't understand. Speaking as a "teenager" I think your parents have every right in the world to know what is going on in your life, where you go, who you see, etc. Obviously, the more maturely you represent yourself to your parents, the more freedoms you have. My mom trusts me to do certain things, that she probably wouldn't, if I behaved immaturely and abused my PRIVLEDGES. As children, our parents give us priveledges, such as being able to stay up late, or going out with friends, having our own rooms, with doors, lol, a certain amount of privacy, etc. My parents trust my judgment, but I've had to earn that from them. I CHOOSE to let my parents know what is going on in my life. I really believe it is their right, whether I'm over 18 or not. When I'm over 18 I'll still respect and honor them, by letting them know what is happening with me.

[hippo's hope is HIM]

beth, let me put it another way... your parents had a right to know... and if they HAD known, they would have been able to protect you. now don't you wish they had been able to protect you?

you can't change the past, but don't you want to help change the future, so that someone else can be protected the way you weren't?

:hug: :hug: :hug:

Can't believe you went there ladyC. They couldn't have protected me. I shoulda and coulda prevented it. that has nothing to do with the basis of my questioning.

Thanks Wayne, it does make sense. and thanks for also providing Biblical basis for your stance.

Their property Yod?? I have to contest. My parents may have birthed me, but they don't own me, I am not a dog, or a piece of meat. I belong souly to God.

And children honor thy father and mother, I understand this but what does that have to do with their rights as parents???

LadyC and NicksGirl. what I don't understand is the rights that parents claim to have. What are the Biblical views on this?? I understand that our priveleges are gravy so to speak.......but I just don't get where these rules (and what are they) have derived from.

thank you all for your statements. Please keep them coming.

[Nicks Girl]

We have stated.. over and over, from the BIBLe

that Children are to honor and obey their parents, and that parents are to take care of their children.

Ephesians 6:1-4

1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

2 HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise),

3 SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH.

4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Colossian 3:20 Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord.

Your parents have every right to know where you are, what you are doing and who you are doing it with. They have those rights because God has put them in your life to take care of you. You do belong to God, but your PARENTS have rights over you. They have the right to tell you when you need to go to bed, or when to be home, all those important things that parents do, and parents are supposed to be like that. What exactly do you not want your parents to have rights over?

Lady C said it well, when she said that parents invest ALOT of time and energy into taking care of their children, and personally I think they DESERVE to have the rights over their children, and deserve to be treated with the utmost respect. I respect my parents, and their RIGHT to know what is going on in my life, good or bad. I tell my parents everything. I don't always agree with my parents, and they don't agree with me, but that doesn't make a difference. I still need to honor them.

Hope you become less confused about your parents rights.. and maybe we'll become a little more enlightened about what you mean exactly about parents rights to know things..or parents rights in General.

God bless.

[Speechless]

The bible also says that we are to be in complete submission to authority, all those in authority, from teachers, pastors, political leaders, and, yes, including parents. We are to be in complete submission, unless what they authoritative figures have us do leads us to sin.

1 Pet 2:13 - 14    Be submissive to every human institution and authority for the sake of the Lord, whether it be to the emperor as supreme, or to governors as sent by him to bring vengeance (punishment, justice) to those who do wrong and to encourage those who do good service.

[Anonymous]

"I am a great-grandma." One of my children is a grandmother herself! To me, all my children are my babies. I worry over them, and wonder if they are safe. And yes... at times I will even tell them what to do. My role never changes... I am a mother (their mother).

Someday when you become a parent... you will understand. Then, the rights or wrongs of it won't matter, only your concerns for them!

Hugs to ya sweetie, :hug: hang in there... pretty soon you'll be your own boss!

[Guest LadyC]

beth, let me put it another way... your parents had a right to know... and if they HAD known, they would have been able to protect you. now don't you wish they had been able to protect you?

you can't change the past, but don't you want to help change the future, so that someone else can be protected the way you weren't?

:hug:

Edited May 3, 2004 by LadyC

[hippo's hope is HIM]

Nicks Girl.

We have stated.. over and over, from the BIBLe

that Children are to honor and obey their parents, and that parents are to take care of their children.

I didn't ask about obedience and submission. I'd appreciate it if you'd stop inferring that I don't understand that concept.....and that has nothing to do with my question. Besides, I was asking the adults. From their points of view. But thanks for your input.

And no ladyC you didn't offend me. Thank you again for your info.

God is our ultimate example of parenting. God knows everything about His children. He uses that knowledge to protect and provide for us.

Now that makes sense.

[Guest LadyC]

oh good, on both counts! glad i didn't offend, and glad i finally found the right words to help it make sense!

[Nicks Girl]

I'm sorry, I must've missed the sign that said this was a Question for "adults" only. Even though, I'm almost 18, and not agewise considered "adult", I thought I would try and help.

I only referred to obedience, submission, because in my own mind, that goes hand in hand with parents "rights". That is everything that parents "rights" are based upon. Perhaps if your question was a little more clear, it was pretty generalized.

I didn't realize that I was saying anything any different than what everyone else posted, and I'm sorry for trying to be helpful.

I can understand where you are coming from, about not wanting your parents to have the "right" to know everything about you..or things that you're not comfortable sharing. I have my share of things like that in my life, and not EVERYTHING has to be shared with your parents. I NEVER meant to infer that you don't understand that concept. I Never said that.

To be perfectly honest, I'm a little offended, and hurt that you've pushed my comments aside because I'm not an adult, or if that makes what I've said any less true to you. I honestly only tried to help, and am very sorry if I was offensive, or annoying, or not adult enough to help you out.

God Bless.

[stevehut]

Sounds like there's something you're trying to hide from your parents...???

Parents have more than just the "right" to do and know certain things. God has placed upon them a duty to do be involved in the lives of their children. And the Bible commands kids to obey their parents.