She watches

[refugepsa91]

Hi I'm new here. Have spent the last 2 days reading various posts, and popped into the chat room yesterday. I wanted to get a 'feel' if you will for the atmosphere before I became a part of it. LOL

I was really touched by this post as I have been burdened lately (as in the past few days) of wether or not I should continue working. I am working because I 'thought' I wanted to, not because I have too. My hubby of 19 years is supportive of my decisions either way.

I am a mom of 4 beautiful chillins. The youngest started school full-time this September, and I was offered an office job in October. Sort of fell in my lap. I have no formal training in the position I hold, and felt that perhaps it was a blessing from the Lord.

After a few months, and many hiccups, I find myself completelty stressed out. I am sick @ home this week with asthma, something that hasn't plagued me in years. I stumble across this board, and bamm.... I feel like the Lord is speaking to me about my role, and responsibilities. I don't want to do anything in haste, and of coarse I will pray.

Thanks again for sharing, and please offer any advice, or words of wisdom. I could sure use them.

:il: Welcome to the boards aka Mary :hug:

I work two days a week....comes out to 20 hours....it does get stressful...I cant imagine working more than that. I have the honor of having a boss who doesn't care if my kids go to work with me. (a small video rental store) The rest of my week I am completely devoted to my family. My time is their time. I will keep my job because I feel the Lord led me there because we were having some financial difficulties and even the small amount I make helps alot. We are out of the woods so to speak now but I haven't yet felt led to quit my job.

Remember if your stressed so are your kids. They feel what we mommies feel. At least mine do...if I am down so are they, they rely on us to lift them up and make them feel loved and secure. My advice would be if your husband is with you on staying at home then do it. Of course pray first...and remember there is nothing as cherished as a stay at home mom. It is an opportunity that no one should pass up. You may somedays roll your eyes in back of your head trying to remember why in the world you do it :oww: But the end result is wonderful :il:

I hoped this helps you.

Love and Blessings,

Angel

[tsth]

Dear Mary and Angels,

I am so glad that it ministered to you. It's a blessing to post when you know that the Lord spoke to someone and touched them.

Oh, and welcome Mary!

You may somedays roll your eyes in back of your head trying to remember why in the world you do it  But the end result is wonderful 

Boy, could I relate to that one! With homeschooling, and it being May, we're REALLY ready for a break!!!

Swimmin pool, here we come!!!!

In His Love,

Suzanne

[Guest aka_mary]

Thanks for the welcome angel and suzanne.

I've worn many hats as a mom, even homechooled part-time a few years ago. Been considering that again lately for my youngest 2 :oww: . Actually I'd been thinking of christian school, and the only way to pay for that is for me to work. Which after having just typed that I realized that if that is the only way, then it's probably not the right way .

Really need to hear from the Lord right now. I'd love to experience the peace that surpasses all understanding right now.

[Guest LadyC]

why didn't i read this yesterday, before i got so frustrated that i demanded only one gift from my husband for mother's day... that gift being a hand written list of ways he could show appreciation to me and make me feel like i'm his priority (instead of hanging out after hours with his co-workers), and making a solid, sincere commitment to honor that list?

oh well, as unvirtuous as it is, i still want my gift!

has it ever occurred to men that their wives might be less contentious if the husbands were a little more attentive?

ok, i'm obviously struggling with what i know to be the qualities of a godly wife and the desire to initiate all the effort

[Russell]

  Suzanne,

Did I sure NEED to hear this...what great timing :il:  I have been feeling so...well its hard to explain...just kinda down.  Like ok here I am...I'm here to make you all happy...which I love to do don't get me wrong.  But gee a little thank you once in a while is so nice to hear and it energizes you to do more.  But your post reminded me its not a humans "thank you" that really counts. ( although it helps)  Its God patting you on the back and telling you "Good Job!"

Love and Blessings,

Angel

Sister you got it in one there

Whether we receive thank yous or not...should not deter our mission...we do it to please YHWH :il: ...it is according to His will ...the rest will fall into place ...in His time. :sleep:

Blessings

[Russell]

Thanks again for sharing, and please offer any advice, or words of wisdom.  I could sure use them.

Hi Mary,

Good to have you on board...stay a while...relax and enjoy a little sunshine...we hope to brighten up your life with our sharing and caring.

Blessings

[Russell]

What if I don't want a family? What if I don't want to be a mom? What if I want to serve God doing something else???

God has a plan for you H.H.I.M. If it doesn't envolve a family of your own...it may envolve the family of your Christian brothers and sisters...a church...a mission field.

You already have a mission field right where you are...are you not living with people at present?...do you not work/ study...who are your friends?

All of these are your mission field.

But can i say that our greatest priority is our relationship with Jesus. Without this in place and being nurtured...then when we are in our mission field we may struggle to deal with the issues that arise.

So sister...by the grace of God...grow in wisdom and understanding ...thru Jesus...He will take care of the rest.

May the peace of Jesus be with you.

[Russell]

why didn't i read this yesterday, before i got so frustrated that i demanded only one gift from my husband for mother's day... that gift being a hand written list of ways he could show appreciation to me and make me feel like i'm his priority (instead of hanging out after hours with his co-workers), and making a solid, sincere commitment to honor that list?

oh well, as unvirtuous as it is, i still want my gift! 

has it ever occurred to men that their wives might be less contentious if the husbands were a little more attentive?

ok, i'm obviously struggling with what i know to be the qualities of a godly wife and the desire to initiate all the effort

LadyC,

Has it ever occurred to men that their wives might be less contentious if the husbands were a little more attentive?

I can relate to that...and coming from our own perspective that seems to be the case.

Can i offer this advise. As you grow in the wisdom and understanding that the message of salvation brings to you...allow the fruits of the Spirit to manifest themselves. Your husband is not giving you the attention you feel you deserve or want. So rather than blame him and get cranky/angry...why not look for ways to please him. Now this does not necessarily mean you have to pander to his every whim and desire.

However there are things i am sure that he does not like you to do...things he has requested of you...these things you have not been doing. In these areas defer to him...come in behind him and not get in front of him...so to speak.

He will see the change in your heart...it will be challenging to him for you will begin to hold a mirror up to him...for he will begin to see that you are willing to humble yourself for his sake...but is he willing to do the same for your sake.

Keep doing this...not only will you be challenging his own relationship with Jesus...but you will also be gaining an admirer...someone who will grow to deeply respect you ...for what you do for him. You will be his greatest asset and guess what...he will not want to spend time with whomever... for his greatest asset is at home.

If if he doesn't...he is losing out on so much....and you have gained so much for you have walked the walk that Jesus set before you...you will have the peace that surpasses all understanding... for it will be the peace of the Holy Spirit living in you.

So do not rely on your husband for your happiness...but turn to YHWH...all your happiness will be found in Him.

Blessings

[tsth]

1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

In His Love,

Suzanne

Dear LadyC,

That should not be neglected either.

Husbands..........got answered prayers?

In His Love,

Suzanne

[Catsmeow]

I hope I'm not side-stepping the topic here but since Mother's Day is soon upon us, I wonder how we deal with the real life issues that some of us are forced to face...

For instance, those of us who came from ungodly homes...some of us came from homes where abuse was rampant or neglect was common or church was unheard of.

Some of us came from utterly dysfunctional, ungodly homes and there's always that inner turmoil or agony inside that wishes we had godly mothers to celebrate.

It's so hard for those of us to watch loving families gather and celebrate their wonderful mothers, while some of us have only horrible memories and mothers who brought us shame.

I think the greatest Mother's Day gift some of us long for is for the old wounds to heal. It's harder still because we often carry those painful memories with us and often feel like we're the only one with that problem.

You get the feeling everyone around you had a good family while you got

"Mommy Dearest".

My stepmother did cruel things to me to the point where I'd faint or pass out.

I often wonder what it must be like to have a loving family with a godly maternal role model.

I've rambled enough...sorry.