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[Shelby]

I have read all of your posts. I see all the points. I personally like to know how to better explain things to a poster. Also, I don't want even a person's name, just an age, even a range like 15 ad under, 15-20, 20-30etc; and male or female. It helps me understand where they are coming from.

When I first came on these boards, I was chatting with someone and thought they were a grown woman, I chatted for days, we discussed some things, but then that person started getting very rude, and obnoxious with their answers. I finally figured out how to check their profile, and after much heartache over how offensive I thought this grown woman was, it turned out to be an 18 year old boy. I have tried to filter my posts through that knowledge. It has helped me not to feel so attacked, he is just a kid. But I have seen him and a couple others like him out there bombard some posters.

Also, it is nice to know when discusing topics as - kissing, marriage, abortion,etc. A person's age can help to understand a range of where in life they are. I am not doing this to know more about people, I just think, if you are going to say harsh things, be bold enough to let everyone have an idea of your stage in life. Also, it will help to guide those people who feel led to respond to your posts with better understanding of how to answer.

Beth, if I offended you I apologize, but I am not old by any means, and when I was your age I would have said the same thing, but it is true that age is a factor. In your case you are wise beyond your years, but you are still going through teenage things, things that some of us have been through. Your thoughts and ideas are filtered through your experiences. Its not about having more experiences, there are just experiences that come with age. I know that I am too young to many things, so I want people to know I am 27 when they rspond to me, so they can better understand when I am coming from.

GBU all!

Edited May 17, 2004 by Shelby

[Guest kitkat]

Shelby, I am hesitant about giving out too much information about myself on the net unless I develop a super close friendship with someone and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I can trust them.

When I first started using the Internet five years ago, I was really naive and I trusted too many people with information about me. That was a big mistake on my part in my case. I learned the hard way that giving too much information on the net about myself is not good. That's a mistake I will never make again.

I don't feel that this necessarily happens to everybody, but with the unfortunate experiences I had, I feel I have to be careful. A lesson learned the hard way for me.

That's the reason I feel the way I do.

In regards to the age thing though and how knowing that helps to relate to others, I don't agree with you completely. Personally, regardless of age, I think most people already have their minds made up who they're going to chat or communicate with on the net. I don't think knowing a person's age changes that at all.

Just my two cents.

Kat

Edited May 17, 2004 by kitkat

[Shelby]

Kitkat,

I just saw your profile, and I think you gave more info than I was speaking of. Age, not date of birth, male or female that is all. I am not asking for location, or anything else. I hear what you are saying but your profile says differently. I can respect that, I was just wondering if anyone else was feeling the same way as me.

We will have to agree to disagree, I can't imagine expecting to know as much or have to wisdom as some of our older members. Though wisdom doesn't neccessarily co-inside with age, age does still have more experience. Not in numbers, but in types of experience. I am not sure how else to explain this. I am not asking people to even tell me their first names, just an age and sex. What is so intrusive abou that.

I understand the predator thing, but really, most of our teens here already post more than I am willing to post.

I hope this has not offended anyone, I am just expressing my opinion.

[Guest kitkat]

Shelby,

You would have to know what my experiences were to understand my position and my opinion of this.

The info shown in my profile would not be there if I felt it was harmful to me in any way. If it was contrary to what I am saying, it wouldn't be there.

Just because my phone rings, doesn't mean I have to answer it. Just because someone knocks on my door, doesn't mean I have to open it. The same is with the net. If someone starts digging into your personal life too deeply with TOO may personal questions that lay privy to you, you shouldn't answer them, if you're not comfortable answering them or unless you know the person VERY well. To do so can sometimes lead to trouble. That is my point.

I would have to disclose my own personal experiences in order for you to understand what I'm saying here. I take no offense. I just know better now than I did five years ago. That is just my own personal experience and I'm cautious now and I think a lot wiser.

Kitkat

Edited May 17, 2004 by kitkat

[hippo's hope is HIM]

hey sis! I just found this thing again, and saw your reply to my answer

Beth, if I offended you I apologize, but I am not old by any means, and when I was your age I would have said the same thing, but it is true that age is a factor. In your case you are wise beyond your years, but you are still going through teenage things, things that some of us have been through. Your thoughts and ideas are filtered through your experiences. Its not about having more experiences, there are just experiences that come with age. I know that I am too young to many things, so I want people to know I am 27 when they rspond to me, so they can better understand when I am coming from.

You didn't offend me!!!!! :hug:

Seriously, if I am offended, or had i been, I would ha>e Pm'd you.

Ya know that >erse, don't let the sun rest on your anger.....well, i try not to let that happen. It is a good topic actually, so nope, you didn't offend me. but thank you for clarifying.

well see that is where you and I differ. When somone knows that I am 16, some tend to think I am dumb, or they doubt my words, because I am so young.

I totally see where you are coming from but I beared all in my profile any way!!!! So you know lots. My testimony is floating around here somewhere too. GBU sis!

[shazza]

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Just for the record Beth is not dumb, that is from someone who is 38 and is a very close friend of Beth's who is 16!

Beth and I chat often and the age does not matter to us anyway. For a 16 year old she very wise and encourages me heaps!

You rock sis!

I am a bit wary when it comes to revealing my details on the internet but I feel right at home on Worthy.

I am 38 and female!

I love WorthyBoards, it is a joy to be part of this great family of God.

God Bless You All!

Shazza :hug: