Forgiving

[Jacqueline]

A few months ago I was going through a really bad time and there was this guy who took advantage of it. I've told my self over and over again that I forgive both of us for our part in it, but when ever I see him I can't help feeling angry. I feel absolutely disgusted by his presence. How can I really forgive this person when every time I see him he gives me this sarcastic look and everything in me wants to smack him? I've prayed and prayed about this, but I'm still angry. I guess if this was someone else's post I would advise them to keep praying for

God's guidance and then I would ask how do you expect to forgive this person if you haven't really forgiven yourself. Your anger at him is feeding off your anger at yourself. It's easier to give advise then to apply it to one's life. :prayer

[dwinkjr]

It sounds like you already know what you need to do, so i really cant add anything in that aspect. What I and the rest of the members here CAN do is pray for you, and that I will gladly do

God Bless,

Dave

[Orr v'emet]

Jacqueline-

I have been learning how important it is to see others as Jesus sees them. For instance, I have a hard time loving my boss, she does everything she can to make people feel stupid, including me. Jesus was so awesome in that He could look at the vilest people and see beyond who they were to what their greatest need was, which was Him. It is sooo hard to do but when you see the person that you are angry at, just say a quick prayer for Jesus to help you see him like He does. I have done this with my boss and you will see the difference it will make and the Lord will bless you for it.

[2bba]

I've prayed and prayed about this, but I'm still angry.

You can forgive someone and still be angry that it occurred. The anger will pass with time. Anger in itself is not a sin.

Psalms 30:4 Sing unto the LORD, O ye saints of his, and give thanks at the remembrance of his holiness.

5 For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

Ours endures a little longer sometimes. lol

[Guest kitkat]

A few months ago I was going through a really bad time and there was this guy who took advantage of it. I've told my self over and over again that I forgive both of us for our part in it, but when ever I see him I can't help feeling angry. I feel absolutely disgusted by his presence. How can I really forgive this person when every time I see him he gives me this sarcastic look and everything in me wants to smack him? I've prayed and prayed about this, but I'm still angry. I guess if this was someone else's post I would advise them to keep praying for

God's guidance and then I would ask how do you expect to forgive this person if you haven't really forgiven yourself. Your anger at him is feeding off your anger at yourself. It's easier to give advise then to apply it to one's life. :prayer

I think it only stands to reason that you would have a hard time forgiving him if

every time you see him he gives you a sarcastic look. I think anyone in that situation might want to smack him for doing that. It seems he's not doing anything to help the forgiveness part, but instead chooses to antagonize you with the way he looks at you. More than likely, you would probably have already forgiven and forgotten what he had done, if he would respond to you with a smile instead.

That's just my humble opinion.

God Bless,

Kat

[Guest seeknface38]

Jaqueline,

I just want you to know that I've been there and I've done that. I will definitely pray for you, lift you up, and stand in agreement with your heart which is desiring to be free of this unforgiveness.

One of the best books I ever read about the subject of taking offense, harboring unforgiveness, etc... was "The Bait of Satan." I loved it. It really took the subject and broke it down into simple terms (which I desperately need ), but very sound Biblical terms. The author also provides ideas for prayer and well-being throughout it. You might wanna' check and see if you can get your hands on it. It's a good read for anybody, really! I had no idea how much of that "stuff" was lurking around in my spirit and stealing my joy.

God bless you,

MB

[Orr v'emet]

I think it only stands to reason that you would have a hard time forgiving him if

every time you see him he gives you a sarcastic look. I think anyone in that situation might want to smack him for doing that. It seems he's not doing anything to help the forgiveness part, but instead chooses to antagonize you with the way he looks at you. More than likely, you would probably have already forgiven and forgotten what he had done, if he would respond to you with a smile instead.

That's just my humble opinion.

God Bless,

Kat

Just remember too that we forgive not because the person is necessarily deserving of our forgiveness but so we can maintain a right relationship with God and for our personal peace.

[Guest kitkat]

I think it only stands to reason that you would have a hard time forgiving him if

every time you see him he gives you a sarcastic look. I think anyone in that situation might want to smack him for doing that. It seems he's not doing anything to help the forgiveness part, but instead chooses to antagonize you with the way he looks at you. More than likely, you would probably have already forgiven and forgotten what he had done, if he would respond to you with a smile instead.

That's just my humble opinion.

God Bless,

Kat

Just remember too that we forgive not because the person is necessarily deserving of our forgiveness but so we can maintain a right relationship with God and for our personal peace.

Absolutely! I believe that unforgiveness cuts at the very core of your soul and your being. It eats away at your health and hurts your walk with God. Love the sinner, hate the sin.

I think if Satan can cause a person to be unforgiving, he can wreck havoc on your life in any way he wants.

God Bless,

Kat

[Anonymous]

Forgiving others who have done wrong to us, is sometimes hard to do. However, the Lord says he won't forgive us our sins if we won't forgive others who have sinned against us.

You don't have to accept deed itself, but the person, can and must, be forgiven! You ... (and I) are able to do this through Jesus. Ask Jesus to help you do it through him...through his Love. You may not feel like you have forgiven them at first.... but keep praying--it will happen! In time you will develop a Christ-like love, and forgiveness for this person--THROUGH JESUS!

Blessings~

[seekandyouwillfind]

i am really working on this........... :down: its not easy though