when someone does wrong to you...

[Rick-Parker]

I've never been in my husband's 'inbox' or his email. The Bible has a lot to say about gossiping - none of it good or approving of such. I would talk with my husband about the allegation and let him know that it does hurt your feelings. Just wondering - why is she sending him email?

I did talk to him. At first I was upset with him (because of another message that was there I will not go into). After I calmed down we talked and decided that all of our internet passwords are shared between us both. (He changed his for some unknown reason.) I don't have any reason to believe that he is being unfaithful, but I don't know if I trust this "friend" anymore. I talked to him about her sending him texts and messages on facebook everyday and he said that she sends everybody a lot of messages.

I'm hurt because I have been praying and trying to help this woman with her own marital problems. She confided in me and I helped her out. She also helped me out too by watching my son occasionally.

I just want to ask her why she would send a message to my husband that she knew wasn't true. But part of me just wants to delete her from my friends, erase her phone number and just move on with my life without her.

I don't know what to do.

Sounds fishy to me. The first issue you need to deal with is your husbands behavior. When people start acting cagie, there is reason for concern.

[~Shalhevet~]

I do agree with others that you and your husband need to close ranks and see if there is an opening that may let Satan in. Is your husband close to Jesus?

No he is not and maybe that is why I am a little insecure about the situation.

She did reply to my message and said that it was all a misunderstanding and she apologized over and over again. I am taking her word for it. I don't know if there is much else I can do. I don't want to cut off all ties quite yet because I want to give her the benefit of the doubt and maybe she was sent to me for a reason. If she continues to cause problems in my marriage, I will let her go.

[Guest]

....I've never been in my husband's 'inbox' or his email....

We Share The Same E-Mail Box, So If You Deal With The One, You Deal With The Two

My Wife Has Always Opened All Of My Snail Mail First And Even With The Odd Surprises It's Worked OK For 40 + Years

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Praying!

[Believer1997]

....I've never been in my husband's 'inbox' or his email....

We Share The Same E-Mail Box, So If You Deal With The One, You Deal With The Two

My Wife Has Always Opened All Of My Snail Mail First And Even With The Odd Surprises It's Worked OK For 40 + Years

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Praying!

I can totally understand - My dad used to joke with Mamma about commiting a felony by opening his mail and she's just look at him and say "Yeah... well arrest me" and open it anyway!!! LOL - they were married 54 years. My husband & I share our passwords, Pin #'s etc. We are just not very curious or suspicious people... We've no reason to be, especially of each other!

[2Joyful]

Blessings asecretchord, lies travel like leaves in the wind. In a marriage, if one is the target, and the other acknowledge it, better for the couple go together. That way the person will have to fess up. If she choose to lie, I'm sure that the Holy Ghost will pick it up, and show you, by her actions such as her body language, or the way she will reply. I have found, when couples confront the enemy together, it leaves no stone unturned. Pray, let not only the Holy Ghost lead you, but let Him be upon you as you receive the victory. Remember: For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, II Corinthians 10:3-5. Take only your husband with you, "by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established." Matthew 18:16c. Go in meekness and gentleness of Christ, Jotful

[OnetrueGod]

Blessings asecretchord, lies travel like leaves in the wind. In a marriage, if one is the target, and the other acknowledge it, better for the couple go together. That way the person will have to fess up. If she choose to lie, I'm sure that the Holy Ghost will pick it up, and show you, by her actions such as her body language, or the way she will reply. I have found, when couples confront the enemy together, it leaves no stone unturned. Pray, let not only the Holy Ghost lead you, but let Him be upon you as you receive the victory. Remember: For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, II Corinthians 10:3-5. Take only your husband with you, "by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established." Matthew 18:16c. Go in meekness and gentleness of Christ, Jotful

very, very good advice jotful.

[2Joyful]

Blessings asecretchord, lies travel like leaves in the wind. In a marriage, if one is the target, and the other acknowledge it, better for the couple go together. That way the person will have to fess up. If she choose to lie, I'm sure that the Holy Ghost will pick it up, and show you, by her actions such as her body language, or the way she will reply. I have found, when couples confront the enemy together, it leaves no stone unturned. Pray, let not only the Holy Ghost lead you, but let Him be upon you as you receive the victory. Remember: For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, II Corinthians 10:3-5. Take only your husband with you, "by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established." Matthew 18:16c. Go in meekness and gentleness of Christ, Jotful

very, very good advice jotful.

Thanks, OnetrueGod

[MorningGlory]

Blessings asecretchord, lies travel like leaves in the wind. In a marriage, if one is the target, and the other acknowledge it, better for the couple go together. That way the person will have to fess up. If she choose to lie, I'm sure that the Holy Ghost will pick it up, and show you, by her actions such as her body language, or the way she will reply. I have found, when couples confront the enemy together, it leaves no stone unturned. Pray, let not only the Holy Ghost lead you, but let Him be upon you as you receive the victory. Remember: For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, II Corinthians 10:3-5. Take only your husband with you, "by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established." Matthew 18:16c. Go in meekness and gentleness of Christ, Jotful

[~Shalhevet~]

There is something we must understand as Christians. When we try to help others and be a vessel for God, the enemy HATES it! He will do all he can to cause trouble and then some. Believe me, as much as my husband and I move around, we have met SO many people who have tried to cause problems in our marriage, etc. When we pray for others, the enemy doesn't like it. Be rest assured that there was no reason for her to email your husband such a thing other than the enemy was trying to stir up trouble in your marriage. Be confident in the Lord and with your marriage. You and your husband should sit and pray together, take steps of obedience together. Talk things out right when they happen even if they don't seem like a big deal. You have to work on your marriage EVERY single day and it's 50/50. Listen to sermon messages together. http://www.lwf.org. Adrian Rogers has wonderful messages about how to cultivate a marriage, kingdom authority, harmony in the home, all kinds of good stuff. Devote an hour out of the week to sit, pray, listen to a sermon and communicate with each other. I don't know how long you have been married or how old you guys are. It sounds like you might be young but not too sure. It doesn't matter but in any case, we have been married almost 8 months now and I gotta tell you, it is a DAILY work. It has to be. We have to work together every day, communicate, as soon as the other hurts the other's feelings, it has to be talked about like 2 adults, processing thoughts and keeping Christ right in the center of it. If you try to do it your own way, it just wont work.

I'm 25 and my husband is 30. We are both pretty secure with each other but there are times when I feel insecure and him too. We are told in the Bible to constantly examine ourselves. I don't think that is just our Walk, that's with everything, including our marriage. If I'm feeling insecure, I have to ask why. Well, I pray and ask God to first fill those voids that He fills and then I am able to tell my husband that I need him to pay more attention to me. Or, how it makes me feel lonely when he comes home from work and turns the tv on, doesn't talk to me much. When I pray about it first and then bring these concerns to my husband, it works out every single time!

To make a long story short. I PROMISE you that when you and your husband get on the same page TOGETHER with the LORD, it will get better and better. He comes first and until you do that, there will be a constant struggle. I implore you to read over the things in Scripture it says for a Christian wife. These might help http://www.gotquestions.org/search.php?zoo...&search.y=0

I love you and I'm praying for you always sister

I'm so glad that the lady apologized to you.

I'm glad to hear that I am not the only one who has experienced this. We have since worked through this issue. In fact, she took me out to lunch today because she felt so bad about the misunderstanding.

My husband and I have been married for 5 years. I'm 30 and he's 32. We've been through a lot already in just 5 years.

[2Joyful]

Blessings asecretchord, lies travel like leaves in the wind. In a marriage, if one is the target, and the other acknowledge it, better for the couple go together. That way the person will have to fess up. If she choose to lie, I'm sure that the Holy Ghost will pick it up, and show you, by her actions such as her body language, or the way she will reply. I have found, when couples confront the enemy together, it leaves no stone unturned. Pray, let not only the Holy Ghost lead you, but let Him be upon you as you receive the victory. Remember: For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, II Corinthians 10:3-5. Take only your husband with you, "by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established." Matthew 18:16c. Go in meekness and gentleness of Christ, Jotful

MorningGlory, thanks so much for those kind words, you send from aother post...Blessings to you also