JHERB Posted July 5, 2010 Group: Senior Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 82 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 789 Content Per Day: 0.15 Reputation: 123 Days Won: 4 Joined: 11/06/2009 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/23/1971 Share Posted July 5, 2010 Why are people hurtful? Close relatives like grandparents, siblings, step-parents, parents, etc. They talk behind your back and then are totally different when you are present. You help them at any given time, you stop what you are doing put them first and are nice, giving, and patient, and they still treat you like you have done absolutely nothing. love, sister-in-Christ, Jane Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladypeartree Posted July 5, 2010 Group: Royal Member Followers: 37 Topic Count: 542 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 33,054 Content Per Day: 5.06 Reputation: 23,882 Days Won: 238 Joined: 06/21/2006 Status: Online Birthday: 02/23/1953 Share Posted July 5, 2010 it feels like that at times for all of us at any age but God knows what you do and the best thing is to do it and forget it. If you wait to be appreaciated here on earth ( especially by relatives ) you are in for a VERY long wait Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kat8585 Posted July 5, 2010 Group: Royal Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 1,360 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 7,866 Content Per Day: 1.23 Reputation: 26 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/22/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/18/1946 Share Posted July 5, 2010 It seems there is always some kind of strife going on somewhere in my family. One thing passes and one or two things take its place. And some things never go away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead Posted July 5, 2010 Group: Removed from Forums for Breaking Terms of Service Followers: 1 Topic Count: 9 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 871 Content Per Day: 0.15 Reputation: 17 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/28/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted July 5, 2010 I am sorry for your disheartenment sister. It can be very hard to tolerate these things, more so when they come from loved ones. Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, whithersoever the governor listeth. Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. James 3:4-13 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeonaWithHumility Posted July 5, 2010 Group: Junior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 5 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 111 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/16/2010 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/07/1951 Share Posted July 5, 2010 People are hurtful because of selfishness and pride. Let's not forget jealousy and fear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Believer1997 Posted July 6, 2010 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 66 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 6,363 Content Per Day: 1.12 Reputation: 119 Days Won: 9 Joined: 11/07/2008 Status: Offline Share Posted July 6, 2010 Perhaps your spirit of giving of your time and attention to them will be the example that they see of how Christ works in your life. Pray for them and continue to be kind and patient. You may be setting a wonderful example for these people who seem to be so ungrateful. Bless you for kindnesses you do for your family and others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Elly Posted July 6, 2010 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 9 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 415 Content Per Day: 0.08 Reputation: 15 Days Won: 2 Joined: 07/31/2009 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/02/1945 Share Posted July 6, 2010 Why are people hurtful? Close relatives like grandparents, siblings, step-parents, parents, etc. They talk behind your back and then are totally different when you are present. You help them at any given time, you stop what you are doing put them first and are nice, giving, and patient, and they still treat you like you have done absolutely nothing. love, sister-in-Christ, Jane Because they are yielding to the god of this present world instead of Christ. If they are christians (so they say???), it hurts even more. Maybe it would be a good idea if you weren't so available to always help someone out of a crunch......all of us need wisdom in dealing with relatives. Perhaps they don't respect you because you are too nice????? I know of a girl who was fired from her job because they said she was too nice...crazy huh. Being assertive can't hurt anything, but we all need a christlike spirit behind it. Am praying for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oak Posted July 6, 2010 Group: Senior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 67 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 503 Content Per Day: 0.09 Reputation: 31 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/14/2008 Status: Offline Share Posted July 6, 2010 Oh Jane, there are so many reasons. The basic answer is that we are fallen people, along with Adam. There is also tough love. A song goes, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgedrw81 Posted July 6, 2010 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 7 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,823 Content Per Day: 0.33 Reputation: 36 Days Won: 2 Joined: 04/10/2009 Status: Offline Share Posted July 6, 2010 Perhaps your spirit of giving of your time and attention to them will be the example that they see of how Christ works in your life. Pray for them and continue to be kind and patient. You may be setting a wonderful example for these people who seem to be so ungrateful. Bless you for kindnesses you do for your family and others. We are then transformed by becomming disciples of Jesus Blessing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
turtletwo Posted July 6, 2010 Group: Royal Member Followers: 35 Topic Count: 1,192 Topics Per Day: 0.19 Content Count: 7,264 Content Per Day: 1.18 Reputation: 15,710 Days Won: 194 Joined: 07/15/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted July 6, 2010 I have grappled with this question much myself. I think what happens is that family members begin to take you for granted. They know you have a long history of being nice to them and so they then 'take advantage of' that. They figure they can always count on your kindness and so they often milk you dry. Till you're drained and exhausted emotionally. This has been my experience. You are right. It can hurt really bad! I go to God in prayer and cry. For He has the Tenderness that sinful human beings tend to lack, in many cases. How to handle it with them, though is tough. Jesus said we are to turn the other cheek and even love our enemies! I find that these are some of the very hardest commands to obey. So I pray God will help me forgive them and try to respond as politely as possible, even when they make a mean remark. But if it gets to the place where you are feeling too trampled on and sad, maybe keeping your distance from them for awhile might help. I have done this with various family members. And it does help if you can give yourself a mini vacation and take a breather from them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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