Divorced in the world, but divorced in God's eyes?

[georgedrw81]

Marriage is not to be taken lightly however when we are of younger age we think so otherwise. Most of us are fully concentrated on the partner that everything else fades away. The real test comes after when living toghether. When living toghether we see the true nature of the other partner. The couple must work toghether to solve their problems. At times it seems impossible to do so and we do separate. When divorced and re-married we can only pray that we made the right choice and to do this by having Him as our centrepiece in our new marriage.

Blessings

[Guest LadyC]

blien, i see nobody has closed it yet, so i'll send a reminder report, just in case nobody knew you had requested it

[Shiloh62]

Hey ya'll I have a question. Lets say a man and a woman were arranged together for marriage and after a couple of years it did not go well so the wife fled and divorced her husband. Let say that the reason she left was because of adultry in the relationship by the other partner.

Biblicially speaking I know that she has a "okay" to leave her husband and get a divorce. However, even if she did that and is divorced in the world, is she divorced in God's eyes?

Another point of interest. God said that the two shall become one. Are they still one even after the divorce (spiritually speaking)?

No, they are divorced.

[Blien]

blien, i see nobody has closed it yet, so i'll send a reminder report, just in case nobody knew you had requested it

Thanks buddy, I sent the report last night

[Blien]

Hey ya'll I have a question. Lets say a man and a woman were arranged together for marriage and after a couple of years it did not go well so the wife fled and divorced her husband. Let say that the reason she left was because of adultry in the relationship by the other partner.

Biblicially speaking I know that she has a "okay" to leave her husband and get a divorce. However, even if she did that and is divorced in the world, is she divorced in God's eyes?

Another point of interest. God said that the two shall become one. Are they still one even after the divorce (spiritually speaking)?

No, they are divorced.

I think it will take a lot more than just a statement like that to convince anyone of your understanding Shiloh.

[Blien]

Someone should probably go read Deuteronomy 24. There are cases where a man and woman are forbidden from being reconciled to one another, if one of them has re-married and divorced. So the old chesnut that people throw out that the original parties should be reconciled to one another is often wrong.

There are few things that get overlooked in these discussions. The first being that both people involved in the divorce are not always willing participants. One usually wants the divorce while the other does not.

Another fact often overlooked is that divorce is not always a sin. But the church sure treats dovorce like it is a sin, every time the word is mentioned. And they punish both parties equally and just as strenuously, including the party not at fault. No word brings quite as much judgment and hypocrisy out of Christians as the word divorced when it gets brought up.

Re-marriage is not always a sin either, but once again, the church treats it like it is, no matter what the circumstances, and no matter what scripture clearly says. When Jesus talked to the Samaritian woman at the well, there is no indication in what He said to her that He viewed any of her 5 marriages as invalid. Jesus certainly did not treat the woman as if she was damaged goods or would somehow be tainted for the rest of her life, He used her to spread the gospel to the town she lived in. But the church treats divorced people like a pariah, expecting them to carry around a load of guilt and shame that they never should have felt in the first place, if they are the injured party. And even if they are the guilty party, and have truly repented, they should be treated as if they had never done anything wrong. God forgets the sin as soon as it is truly confessed, but the church sure doesn't. A divorced person is branded for the rest of their life and they carry a stigma, that:

A: Has been placed on them wrongly by the church.

B: Does not exist to God and should not exist within the church.

C: They will never be able to shed, this side of heaven, because the church refuses to let them get rid of it.

As LadyC has said, it doesn't matter what happened in the past. If a person confesses and repents, in the eyes of God, that sin never happened, so all the talk we usually get, and did get from one person in the beginning of this thread that "God hates divorce" and there is never an excuse for divorce or remarriage is something that does not exist in the eyes of God, it is a judgmental condition placed upon people wrongly by other people who claim to be members of the Body of Christ.

Thanks for your reference to Duet. 24 I'm going to check it out but I'm sure it was no body's intention here to offend anyone who is divorced. I started this topic to see what is and isn't premisable with God. We know God's hatred of divorce in the scripture so that can't be downplayed. So the man or woman who wanted to marry someone who is divorced may invoke the anger of God with sin if done incorrectly. That's why this topic was started. So explore what is and isn't advised according to scripture..