Engagement help

[georgedrw81]

I am certainly in agreement that you and your future husband should be believers and dedicated

to serving God in your marriage.

This is the key for a succesfull relationship even during stormy moments.

Blessings

[Fez]

If you guys are in love - go for it.

I myself am looking for an older rich sugar-mama with a bad ticker...

I hear Madonna is available again......oh no; I think she's healthy though.

And believe it or not, I think she has better taste.....

[2Joyful]

If you guys are in love - go for it.

I myself am looking for an older rich sugar-mama with a bad ticker...

You are soooooooooo bad

[2Joyful]

If you guys are in love - go for it.

I myself am looking for an older rich sugar-mama with a bad ticker...

I hear Madonna is available again......oh no; I think she's healthy though.

Its gets kind of hard to tell you from Wyguy sometimes...

[2Joyful]

I completely understand why they are worried because, quite honestly, the age difference has been a concern for me too.

Why? Men been doing it for years. (Just poking fun do not take this as a serious reply)

[Guest man]

I completely understand why they are worried because, quite honestly, the age difference has been a concern for me too.

Why? Men been doing it for years. (Just poking fun do not take this as a serious reply)

But you do see the red flag, right?

[Jos4]

Whether it's right or not, it would be hard to take concerns from other people without giving them at least some thought, so I don't think worrying about what people are saying means it's not right.

Are they concerned just about the age difference or are there other issues?

Can you both talk about anything? Do you both have approximately equal 'control' in the relationship (That's not the right word but I'm not sure how to say it, I mean are you both able to get your needs met? One of you not giving in to the other all the time)

I would think the main things to work out are whether you are heading in the same direction, spiritually, what you want for your lives, what you like doing for fun etc. Have you talked about all the decisions eg children, where to live, friends, seeing family, past. Do you have enough in common?

I think these things are more important than age. Premarital counselling is a great idea.

[south]

Fez is 15 years my senior. I must admit that in the beginning, the age thing concerned me, but it worried him.

We were apart (ours was an online romance), and at the beginning, when we were starting to get close, I would look at the men around me who I thought was about his age and imagine what it would be like being married to one as old as them. I found it a bit difficult to grasp. And yet, come our chatting time, I was always excited to be there. I looked forward to it.

When we met in person and spent time together, I was sure he was the one. The only thing that concerned me then was what my parents had to say (and I was 42 years old ). When I told my parents about us and told them about the age difference, my mom said it didn't matter. What was important was that he was a good and God-fearing man. The moment my parents gave us their blessings, I didn't worry about anything else.

In the end, I married him because I simply loved him and he met the only important requirement- he was God's, and that was all that really mattered.

Blessings...South

[Believer1997]

Fez is 15 years my senior. I must admit that in the beginning, the age thing concerned me, but it worried him.

We were apart (ours was an online romance), and at the beginning, when we were starting to get close, I would look at the men around me who I thought was about his age and imagine what it would be like being married to one as old as them. I found it a bit difficult to grasp. And yet, come our chatting time, I was always excited to be there. I looked forward to it.

When we met in person and spent time together, I was sure he was the one. The only thing that concerned me then was what my parents had to say (and I was 42 years old ). When I told my parents about us and told them about the age difference, my mom said it didn't matter. What was important was that he was a good and God-fearing man. The moment my parents gave us their blessings, I didn't worry about anything else.

In the end, I married him because I simply loved him and he met the only important requirement- he was God's, and that was all that really mattered.

Blessings...South

I think God blessed you both when He put the 2 of you together!!!

[tigeraqua]

Thank you all for your honest opinion. The thing is, when I am spending time with him, I rarely think about the age difference. However, he does hold the notion of the man leading the woman in a relationship - and the man being led by God.

The hardest thing for me is that my parents are really set against this relationship. They told me I'm an adult, so I've got the right to choose - but that they also have the right to not accept him. If I do choose to marry him, they would not even come to the wedding...