struggling

[whitedove]

Whew! I am so sorry how your pastor treated you. I don't think you should have had to leave the church. My heart goes out to you and the people not responding to you in your greatest time of need is the result of the heart of that church (pastor).

I believe that you and your husband need to talk to him with other witnesses and resolve these things with your pastor. A pastor is there to help not send away.

[sail2awe]

i agree, go to God, think about how it hurts God when you slip, and more and more, you will turn to God

think of Job, t h i r t y_____ s e v e n____ l o n g ____ c h a p t e r s___ of Job listening to those ratchet jaws who didn't know nothing, and finally in ch 38 God asks him some questions. He might ask you the same ones, but it boils down to God was proud of Job, even tho he felt sorry for hisself for a while, but God restored Job two fold, and He did that to Job so you and I could learn from it.

Edited September 13, 2004 by sail2awe

[O'Dannyboy]

God bless you for being so honest. I can only imagine the pain you are enduring. I can relate to some degree what you are contending with. You already know what you must do. That is not your problem. The pornography is satans tool and a powerful one at that. Trust me I know. When I found Jesus and started learing his teachings, I finally discovered how lost I was. Smoking cigarettes and drinking beer daily, and tending my carnal needs just as often. Its wasn't the tending part in which I could see my sin, but the lust associated with it. The earthly pleasure in control of my loving side. I can attest that abstinance is quite handy. Tend to your carnal needs as you must but resist indulging. Your husband on the other hand is where this problem stems. His Lusting and need for overindulgence in the carnal will be his undoing. I beg you both to Join together in prayer and ask for help in healing this rift in your union. Only TOGETHER and with The Good Lord's help will you be able to cast out these impurities.

In Jesus name I pray that you bith invite him in and ask his forgiveness for your transgressions. I pray he restores peace to your hearts and find in that peace you union strengthened and renewed and together you can cast out those unwelcome influences in your life and relationships. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

[jamie]

I am stunned that the lady over the group meeting had to ask her pastors permission to offer you some counsel for something she herself had already went through.

I mean, it seems to me she could have had you over for coffee or taken you out to dinner on her own time and then offered you some sound advice if she needed permission to at church.

What is even more stunning is the fact that the pastor told you to go confess your feelings to your pastor!! UNREAL!!!!

That caused alot more hurt than was necessary to more people than was necessary.

Yes absolutely, your pastor should have been able to handle the situation but he didnt and here you are. I think you need to know that when everything is said and done that God is the absolute only one we can ever completely trust!! Never put complete trust in people to do the right thing and you will never have to feel the way you do now. People are just that, people. God never left you and He never turned His back on you. Seek Him before you seek a church, seek him with your whole heart before you seek out a person.

If you do your outlook and expectations will change for the better, because God will never leave you or forsake you, He's not just in those buildings!!

This was handled wrong from the get-go, move on with God and learn from it.

[Jedi4Yahweh]

Hi,

Yes there is help for your problems. I was once bound in similar sins and could not brake from from its chains on my life. It almost destroyed my marriage and much more my relationship with God. I prayed God to deliver me so many times but deliverance never seemed to come until one day God led me to this site which has given me the knowlege and the tools to overcome my bondage to sin. Today I am set-free.

Setting the Captives Free---The Way of Purity

God bless,

[Guest blw3839]

I don't know your name, and I didn't want to address you as struggling. God is all-knowing, and there is nothing that enters your mind that He is not already aware of. Your thoughts--none of your thoughts--takes Him by surprise. As a matter of fact, God sent Christ Jesus so that you can have victory over every thought that sets itself against Him and His will for you. You mentioned that you have stopped praying and reading your Bible, which are the two most important areas that we as Christians can never neglect, especially when we are struggling with thoughts, which will eventually display themselves in our actions if not dealt with, that exalt themselves against God's perfect will for us. You first need to confess your sins to God and accept His full forgiveness. Then you need to begin doing the very things that your mind obstinately object to right now--reading the Word of God and praying fervently. God's Word is His will. We find hope, encouragement, reproof, guidance, and correction in it, among other things. You cannot simply acknowledge your wrongs to people and expect to experience victory. Go to the lover of your soul right now, repent, ask Him to meet with you. He will give you wisdom and power to defeat the enemy upon asking.

Your sister in Christ,

Brenda

[Guest linda kappy]

Hi, First of all MS is a very hard illness for the whole family you are not alone.I know its harder for you and sometimes you just want to scream when everyone else says how rough it is on them.. Tell them to feel your pain youd like to say but you dont... Moving on I read all the post and then your final reply and the one thing that struck me was that you said and forgive me if I get this wrong, but the talk of demons gets you nervous. Well it should replace that word with the enemy ie satan as in any good soldier trying to win the battle he knows what devices or weaknesses we have and will gladly take advantage of them. Also remember people are human I dont care if tey are saved or not some are going to fail you we have to stop getting our feelings hurt if so and so doesnt call from the church should they? yes but here is where the enemy must wage his battle what good does it do him to fight with people he already has? you know your situation and so does the Lord stay grounded stay in the word and above all pray I would like to hear a response from you I am concerned Linda