Feel Abolsutely Awful/Regretful

[Guest man]

Go and talk to her. What's the worst that could happen? Maybe she feels the same way.

Don't let your foolish pride stand in the way of something that could lead to happiness.

I actually Facebooked her a message telling her I would like to re-enter her life even if it means just being friends, and she just ignored it. I think it's her way of getting back at me. I might go speak to her if I see her in school again. At worse she'll ignore me.

I would just walk to her start talking. If you need to apologize, then do that. Say whatever it is you have to say and if she is unresponsive, just walk away.

By doing this, you've given her the ball. It'll be up to her if she wants to run with it. If she feels anything for you, she will contact you.

You are the one who pushed her away, you need to be the one who reaches out.

[other one]

Go and talk to her. What's the worst that could happen? Maybe she feels the same way.

Don't let your foolish pride stand in the way of something that could lead to happiness.

I actually Facebooked her a message telling her I would like to re-enter her life even if it means just being friends, and she just ignored it. I think it's her way of getting back at me. I might go speak to her if I see her in school again. At worse she'll ignore me.

I would just walk to her start talking. If you need to apologize, then do that. Say whatever it is you have to say and if she is unresponsive, just walk away.

By doing this, you've given her the ball. It'll be up to her if she wants to run with it. If she feels anything for you, she will contact you.

You are the one who pushed her away, you need to be the one who reaches out.

I agree, if you pushed her away, you should be the one to pull her back. Peraonally I'l ust walk up to her and tell her from the feeligs i've been having that I had made a really big mistake by pushing her away. It's been my experience that in relationships with females, you need to be totally honest and open with them. If you really think you messed up then just tell her so.

I think you put yourself in this postiion by not talking about her being busy and you really don't know if she wanted to split up or not. For all you know she may have been getting into the relationship over her head and needed to just back off for a while.....

Talk Talk Talk that's what relationships are all about no matter who or what it's with....

[LUVNCHRIST]

Deep, I went back to look at the post where you spoke of the need to break off with her. From what I saw, and from my own experience, and from the experiences of people I knew and know, I would say that you need to put her on the altar.

I don't know her side of the story, but she may not want to "just be friends" because once you've been emotionally attached to someone, it doesn't just go away. It might be more hurtful trying to live within the boundaries of "just friends" when the emotions are still outside those boundaries. Separation will bring healing faster than becoming reattached on any level. (That is, if she lets go. If she doesn't let go, being "just friends" will cause even greater pain - by default.)

So, emotionally, you need to lay her on the altar. Ask the Lord on her behalf for whatever pain is going on in her life. If it is because of you, you still need to leave it on the altar. You cleared your conscious before the Lord with being in a relationship that was interfering with your walk with Him. Now, she needs to work this out between her and the Lord. Pray that her pain will cause her to run to the Lord and seek Him for healing and comfort and love.

That really is the best you can do.

OK?

Words of wisdom Nebula. I agree completely. Praying for you DeepBlue

[Deepblue]

See guys, she was the one that was not that open. Maybe it was fear that kept her from opening up. I wanted to be open with her. When I was she would usually just smile or giggle. When I proposed the break-up she said, "Yeah, I think we should just move on." So I am battling out in my mind if she was ever really interested in the first place. There were times when it seemed she really really was and times when it seemed like I did not matter to her whatsoever. I don't think I will hunt her down at the college or anything. I am not sure where to find her at any given time anyways. If I have an encounter with her, I will try to speak with her. Or who knows, I may not be able to hold back and end up finding her anyways. Actually, I don't know what action or lack of action to take. I guess I should stick with what Nebula said. But what if God wants me to make a move? What if He doesn't! There's no clarity here! Confusion. Confusion. Confusion.

[Guest]

When I proposed the break-up she said, "Yeah, I think we should just move on."

Confusion? I Think Not.....

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Trust Her Enough To Talk To Her About Your Doubts

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Praying~!

[Guest man]

There's no clarity here!

When I proposed the break-up she said, "Yeah, I think we should just move on."

[nebula]

It is sounding to me like you were more into her than she was into you. And it is sounding like your emotions haven't let go of her.

I'm going to tell you what I wish someone had told me:

Resolve in your heart and mind that you won't seek to speak with her unless you get a clear "Go" from the Lord - and mean it. And pray something like, "Dear Father, you know I care about her, and I want to be there for her, and I'm afraid I hurt her. So Father, I ask that if I need to reconcile with her that You would open the door for this. If not, I trust that this closed door is Your hand. I lay her on the altar, surrendering her, her heart, and her faith out of my hands and into yours." And mean it.

And remember, you need a girl in your life who will support your relationship with the Lord, not detract from it. As was said in "My Big, Fat Greek Wedding" - The man is the head, but the wife is the neck, and she may turn the head any way she pleases. Be sure that you chose a girl/woman who will be turning your head in the right direction.

[turtletwo]

Prayed.

Not eager to dish out advice (as some apparently feel comfortable doing, even when you don't post in the advice forum. LOL But only under the prayer one. That happened to me more than once. I pray never again.)

Looking to scripture for advice is safest. This always beats people's judgemental replies. Plus, people sometimes disagree and confuse you that way. Even if they see eye to eye, they could be not led of the Spirit and speaking forth their mere opinions. You can't go wrong with the Lord! He is perfect. God promises to be faithful in giving guidance... James 1:5 says," If any of you needs wisdom to know what you should do, you should ask God, and he will give it to you. God is generous to everyone and doesn